Just found out....

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Just found out....

On Valentines Day that my sister is pregnant again!!! She struggled to conceive for 5 years with her first and gave birth to a little boy 10 months ago and now she is due in august with her second. We live far apart so we don't get to see each other very often.
Is it weird that I am kinda mad that she posted it on facebook before telling me? She hasn't called me in months and I am always the one to contact her. It's been like that most of our relationship. She is still friends with my ex husband on facebook if that tells you anything about her.lol
I told her at 11 weeks on the phone that I was pregnant with baby #3 before I announced it to anyone. She said I was crazy and that it better be a girl?!?!? SO... should I say the same thing to her, not say anything at all or just suck it up and say congrats.
Sorry this turned into a vent, but I'm prego and kinda annoyed by this.

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I'd totally be annoyed if I found out my sibling was expecting on Facebook. Aaaand, just the kind of person I am, I'd tell her the same exact thing she told you.

Okay, no I wouldn't. I'd be annoyed, but I'd try to act happy for her, even though she didn't act happy for you.

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I would definitely tell her it hurt my feelings. I mean, she's your sister!!

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Jessica- It makes me feel better you think the same way! Kinda made me laugh!

Nidia- ya, she's my sister but sure doesn't act like one! I'm almost glad I will never be having 2 girls so they don't do this to each other. I think brothers are different! Girls are just emotional.

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I don't have any sisters and I don't want any! LOL I've got friends that have sisters and both of them are close to me, but I see what they put each other through and I'm like noooo thanks!

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Well, I didn't grow up having a sister.. lol but I have one now and I love her to pieces.. hehehe.. we are also decades apart.

Anyway, I know it can be very painful. The hormones don't make it much easier either. I know my boys will be great friends. My brothers are good friends and I always envied them growing up.

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double post, sorry.

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I actually have a few sisters (some stepsisters) don't talk to any of them really. We all live in different states so I'm sure that doesn't help!
I think having 2 boys is great! They get over stuff really quick. I just really hate drama! I had enough of it in my life already!

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Everyone always tells me girls are harder to raise! Samantha, you're in for it if it's a girl LOL jk.. I know it will be wonderful either way Smile

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I totally would have been annoyed too. That said, I've written my brother off...he's such an a-hole. UGH! Siblings! I wish I had more to chose from because the one I have is a failure as a sibling. Sad

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I'm sorry. That totally sucks. I think that DH's brother found out via FB?? I can't remember if it was found out about the pregnancy or that we thought it might be a boy.. I think pregnancy... or maybe engagement? Sheesh I can't remember. He was offended though and totally called DH out. It was good though.

Sister aren't always that way. My sister and I get along well.

But you should definitely call her out. That's really lame. I'm sorry

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"Maddz" wrote:

I'm sorry. That totally sucks. I think that DH's brother found out via FB?? I can't remember if it was found out about the pregnancy or that we thought it might be a boy.. I think pregnancy... or maybe engagement? Sheesh I can't remember. He was offended though and totally called DH out. It was good though.

Sister aren't always that way. My sister and I get along well.

But you should definitely call her out. That's really lame. I'm sorry

I want this to be because of preggo brain!!!!!!!!!!! Lol

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I didn't go to my sister's wedding thingy because she posted through Facebook..

I didn't go to a cousin's baby shower because I was invited through Facebook..

If you want me to be part of something, you CALL me or SEND me an invite.

I have a rule - if your phone number has not splashed across my cell phone in the last 6 months, I don't consider you important enough to need to know by my telling you. When I found out I was pregnant, I called all the important people before posting it anywhere (other than PO Lol ).

I'd say if you're not that close - or if it's YOU who thinks more of the "relationship" between you two than she does - it's no big deal.

But it would still sting finding out on FB than from her own mouth. :annoyed:

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I agree that important people should be called! I guess I am not that important! lol. Facebook has just taken over!!!

She actually did end up calling a few hours later after she posted, but missed the call. She hasn't called in months and only texts once in awhile, and when I try to contact her she cuts it short like Im bothering her. Anyways, she didn't leave a message but texted me that she forgot to send the boy's christmas presents so she'll send some money so they can buy something and that is why she called me today. It's like really?!?!? It's Febuary! Forget Christmas! And not even mention the pregnancy!?!? Wow! I didn't even know what to say!

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Yeah, I'd be a little ticked on that one, mama.. It's halfway into TWO months after Christmas.

Pft.. sounds like she kinda lives in her own world.

FWIW - *I* think you're important! Biggrin

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Oh, wow.. yeah.. it's so past Christmas. But hey, I can't say anything.. I still haven't mailed my best friends pictures of Noah that I was going to for Christmas LOL I have such horrible pregnancy brain this time.

Anyway, did you call her out about you finding out through FB?

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"nidia" wrote:

Oh, wow.. yeah.. it's so past Christmas. But hey, I can't say anything.. I still haven't mailed my best friends pictures of Noah that I was going to for Christmas LOL I have such horrible pregnancy brain this time.

Anyway, did you call her out about you finding out through FB?

Haven't talked to her yet and probably wont. I know she won't understand and I realize you can't change anyones thinking so I'll just forget about it. This isn't the only time I've been disappointed and I'm sure it's not the last.

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"nidia" wrote:

Oh, wow.. yeah.. it's so past Christmas. But hey, I can't say anything.. I still haven't mailed my best friends pictures of Noah that I was going to for Christmas LOL I have such horrible pregnancy brain this time.

Anyway, did you call her out about you finding out through FB?

Haven't talked to her yet and probably wont. I know she won't understand and I realize you can't change anyones thinking so I'll just forget about it. This isn't the only time I've been disappointed and I'm sure it's not the last.

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Just say ''Congratulations'' and continue with your own life, be happy for your pregnancy and let your sister deal with her own... no big deal, she just doesn't deserve you Smile