One of those days..

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nidia's picture
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One of those days..

I'm just a little bummed and needed to vent.

I heard today that 2 people I know are pregnant. Why am I so bummed instead of being happy for them? I know those babies were unplanned.. and here I am.. having the worst time getting pregnant/staying pregnant. It just hurts.. I know it's a little selfish but I can't help it. It's so frustrating also.

I see it all the time here where I work.. girls.. young people getting pregnant not bc they want to be but bc it "just happened." and it's very frustrating. So many people out there.. want babies and can't have any.. or try and try for years until it does. It's just so unfair..

CamelNoodle's picture
Joined: 07/28/04
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:bigarmhug: It's hard to see. I had to avoid preg.org for a while. I have kids, so I'm fortunate, but still this last one is elusive!

nidia's picture
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I know what you mean, CamelNoodle. I'm super blessed to have my son.. still that desire for a second will never go away.

I just have some tough days sometimes.. letting stuff like that get to me.

Heatherbella's picture
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Oh girl. I remember that feeling all too well. When we were trying to conceive DD I used to get so upset when I'd hear of people's 'oopsies'. Sad Heartbreaking.

Lizbet22's picture
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Oopsie drive me mad too.
Especially when the people I see can't take care of themselves let alone a youngun.

Hugs
Xxxxxxxx

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"nidia" wrote:

I'm just a little bummed and needed to vent.

I heard today that 2 people I know are pregnant. Why am I so bummed instead of being happy for them? I know those babies were unplanned.. and here I am.. having the worst time getting pregnant/staying pregnant. It just hurts.. I know it's a little selfish but I can't help it. It's so frustrating also.

I see it all the time here where I work.. girls.. young people getting pregnant not bc they want to be but bc it "just happened." and it's very frustrating. So many people out there.. want babies and can't have any.. or try and try for years until it does. It's just so unfair..

Sad I'm sorry you're having one of those days.. but ya know what? It's ok!! You're allowed to hurt.. and be angry.. and cry and and and.. I agree with those of you who said it's bothersome - at least - to see people have an OOPS! and not care about that child.. them self.. nothing. Like you said you are SOO super blessed to have that little camera ham in your siggy to call your own. He is PRECIOUS! But it, understandably, doesn't dull the desire to have more.. I think one of the biggest keys to working through that frustration is to know that everyone has a story.. Those women you know who are now pregnant may have gone through 4.. 5 YEARS of TTC and it's finally happened. Maybe one of them won't carry to term.. we never know what others' past or anyone's future holds. Fake the smile in front of them if you have to but know in you're heart it's ok to hurt! :comfort:

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Joined: 05/08/09
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I feel your pain girl!! The sting of infertility never goes all the way away. Even when I was pregnant with DS it was still hard to hear about ppl getting pregnant by accident or super easily.

Hang in there girl and know that your feelings are normal!

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"CaityA83" wrote:

I feel your pain girl!! The sting of infertility never goes all the way away. Even when I was pregnant with DS it was still hard to hear about ppl getting pregnant by accident or super easily.

I know what you mean. Our struggles will never be forgotten. *sigh*. That's why I really hate it when people are pushy and ask others when they are having kids. How do they know you haven't been trying for years?

nidia's picture
Joined: 06/08/07
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You ladies are right, we don't know their situation.. at least not everyones.

I feel so much better today! Thanks to all of you ladies for listening and for your kind words Smile

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"nidia" wrote:

You ladies are right, we don't know their situation.. at least not everyones.

I feel so much better today! Thanks to all of you ladies for listening and for your kind words Smile

I'm sorry I miss this yesterday. I am so glad that you are feeling better today!! I hope you get your bfp really soon!

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