Ummmmmmm... I'm not sure any part of the DELIVERY process freaks me out.. just the not knowing when he's coming and if I'll have time to get the hospital. DD was born in about 2 hours, start to finish.. everyone says to camp out at the hospital this time cuz I most likely won't make it. lol..
I don't think longer pushing times mean more tears - I've actually heard the opposite. I also pushed for an hour but with no tearing. My doc put almond oil and had me take my time so that I wouldn't tear.
Transition was a bit more intense - but I went into a crazy trance for it which was nice. I was practically asleep.
I don't look forward to peeing AFTER delivery. That part seriously sucked!
Yeah, they were really careful with stretching my perineum and everything but I still had an almost 2nd degree tear. This time I'm trying to stretch my perineum ahead of time. I also have varicose veins of the vulva (yeah, just as great as it sounds) which I think makes me more susceptible to tearing.