What part of the delivery process freaks you out the most??
Since I am having a c-section.. not being able to see what is going on is what freaks me out. I hope Lucas cries and cries LOUD when he is born lol
Transition is made to sound very scary. I'm also afraid of tearing. Oh and pooping. I'm not cool with someone seeing me poop. I hope I get stuck in a trance and don't care what's going on down there.
I always had the fear or pooping too. Like.. UGH.. but you know they always say it's normal and normal for doctors to see that stuff.. just imagine though some people get asked if medical students can watch. I would totally say 'No, sorry!" lol.
Let's see, the part I'm scared of the most? The ENTIRE THING.
Ummmmmmm... I'm not sure any part of the DELIVERY process freaks me out.. just the not knowing when he's coming and if I'll have time to get the hospital. DD was born in about 2 hours, start to finish.. everyone says to camp out at the hospital this time cuz I most likely won't make it. lol..
Probably the pushing part - I pushed for an hour with DD (first vaginal birth) and I tore a LOT. I really don't want to tear like that again and I'm really hoping this baby comes out in like 2 pushes or something.
I don't think longer pushing times mean more tears - I've actually heard the opposite. I also pushed for an hour but with no tearing. My doc put almond oil and had me take my time so that I wouldn't tear.
Transition was a bit more intense - but I went into a crazy trance for it which was nice. I was practically asleep.
I don't look forward to peeing AFTER delivery. That part seriously sucked!
Yeah, they were really careful with stretching my perineum and everything but I still had an almost 2nd degree tear. This time I'm trying to stretch my perineum ahead of time. I also have varicose veins of the vulva (yeah, just as great as it sounds) which I think makes me more susceptible to tearing.
Ouch, ouch, ouch!! That all sounds very painful and uncomfortable.
Question, how do you try to stretch it out ahead of time?
Yeah, it was pretty much worse than birth to get it sewn up.
Here is a link for how to do it: Labor Massage: Perineal Massage
Thanks, for sharing! I won't need to use it but I am sure it will come in handy for some mama's
That moment when they come out and they're not crying yet. It's just a second, but it FEELS like eternity!! That is the part that freaks me out the most.
As for the tearing... I had 2nd degree tears with my first, then was lucky not to tear at all with my second.. The difference in recovery was AMAZING. I had virtually no pain after giving birth, aside from those crampy after-pains when nursing. I really hope I can avoid tearing again.
Oh, and as for pooping. Yep... I did that with my first too. I had an epidural and couldn't even feel it, ugh. I wouldn't have even noticed if I wasn't watching in the mirror. I could see my doctor just wipe it away and go about his business like it wasn't a big deal, so that made me feel better. With my second, I was "lucky" enough to be up with nausea and diarrhea all night the night before he was born, so I was emptied out, haha.
ETA - I thought of one more thing that freaks me out a lot. With DS2, my blood pressure dropped quite a bit after I got the epidural. It went down to 70/40 and I was getting scared, not knowing when it would level off and stop dropping. It made me really nervous and this time, I'm on blood pressure medicine on top of that. I would like to just go without the epidural to avoid that, but I'm afraid I'll chicken out.
Yeah I remember pushing in the tub and the midwife scooped something out with a tissue and discarded it. Pretty sure it was a turd. But no one said anything about it and it didn't feel weird at all.
I was totally thinking of doing the perineal massage but my midwife, doula and birth classes are all anti perineal massage. They all have told me that its actually more likely to cause tearing. So weird that the opinions differ on that. I guess it depends where you are.
Really? Hmm, I might ask at my next appointment. I'm pretty sure they give it out in the paperwork so they encourage it but I'd like to double check now that you said that.