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    I'm learning that people can be giant turkeys, especially when it comes to pregnancy. Sorry you are feeling judged. I'm planning on having a natural birth without induction (if I can), but by golly if I was told an induction was necessary, I'd sure as hell do it. And I would never question anyone's birth. The important thing is that the mom and baby are healthy.
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    Both my younger two came early, I think this one will too. I don't like that they came so early, 38 and 37 week but they were healthy and that's all that mattered. I know people who schedule early inductions because it's more convenient. I think those people give inductions a bad name.
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    Being in very similar shoes (have induced both my previous births), I hate hate hate when people think they have some insight you didn't consider or something. Hello, it was a huge decision - it's not like I just thought, "Hey I should get induced today!"

    That being said, I have a friend who had an 37 week c-section with her first due to extremely low fluid and has a doc who favors sections (for better or worse depending on your own opinion) - he told her he didn't think inducing would work or would take days and then could end up being an emergency c-section. So with her second (now keep in mind she is a complainer and was probably driving him nuts) her doc allowed her to have a c-section at 38 weeks just because she was "done" That drives me crazy! But I keep my thoughts to myself...I'm not her and it's not my decision to make.

    I mostly BF the first 6 months, but feel like I have judging eyes on me if I'm out with baby and giving him/her a bottle (even if it's pumped milk!).
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    Quote Originally Posted by akpufa View Post
    I mostly BF the first 6 months, but feel like I have judging eyes on me if I'm out with baby and giving him/her a bottle (even if it's pumped milk!).
    Exactly the feeling here.. but you know.. not the same thing works for everyone! My DS bottle feed most of this infant and toddler life and he's perfectly fine, healthy and not over weight at all.


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    Ugh, (((hugs))). I saw that and it bugged me too. Want to know a secret? I was induced with my first two at 38 weeks. My first because she was "too big" ended up being 6 lbs 10 oz and my 2nd because I requested it so I could avoid a custody hearing. Yep, that's right. But I agree, you shouldn't be judged or attacked for any decision you make with your own child (well unless you're abusive or neglectful). I think you're a great mom and if you have to be induced again, thank goodness you're willing to do what you need todo for a healthy baby!!
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    Totally get this! I had an emergency c-section with DS. He stopped responding and it ended up he had the umbilical cord around his neck twice. If we had not had a c-section, he would have been seriously brain damaged or not here at all. So people can judge all they want, I don't really care. I made the right call when the time came.

    On top of that, anyone ever try to feed their child in public...one that was on a feeding tube? Talk about stares. I have had people ask what I did during the pregnancy to cause that. SMH At this point, I couldn't give a rat's *ss what people think of me or my family. I know that people that think that way or say those things are low on self-esteem and just need an ego boost. How sad for them.
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    So sorry you're struggling with this, Mary (and all!).

    Anymore when people stick their noses in my personal business, I advise them it's not a topic open for discusson. My life is MY life and I don't have to answer to anyone when it comes to my body and health of myself and baby!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Pixacious View Post
    On top of that, anyone ever try to feed their child in public...one that was on a feeding tube? Talk about stares. I have had people ask what I did during the pregnancy to cause that.
    I didn't realize your son ate through a feeding tube. Is that still now or just when he was little? My step daughter is special needs, so I know what it's like to get the stares. I've sort of stopped noticing it now...but when DH and I were first dating it was new and weird.
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    Quote Originally Posted by akpufa View Post
    I mostly BF the first 6 months, but feel like I have judging eyes on me if I'm out with baby and giving him/her a bottle (even if it's pumped milk!).
    People are so judging with bottle feeding. This will be my first kiddo. But one of my friends told me outright that she gets upset when she sees people feeding their babies with bottles, because she can't help but think there is formula in the bottle. I asked her "so what if it is?" And reminded her that the baby could have been adopted, the mom could have had a mastectomy, or the mom just couldn't breastfeed for whatever reason. I do plan to breastfeed and use bottles, but I can't believe people are so judgey on this matter. I just don't care what other people do I guess and it bothers me when people butt into what I want to do. You get judged both directions. I think DH's parents and my parents will freak when they hear I want to breastfeed. DH and I both were formula fed as babies.
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    Quote Originally Posted by eliann View Post
    But one of my friends told me outright that she gets upset when she sees people feeding their babies with bottles, because she can't help but think there is formula in the bottle.
    I get more upset when I see people put a bottle in their baby's mouth and walk away. Or sit on the couch next to them and totally ignore them. It's not the bottle that bugs me...it's the loss of closeness. Bottle fed babies can get the same closeness as BF babies by being held and looked at while eating but I guess moms are busy and like to find a minute here and there.

    I'm often curious as to why people use formula, but not in a judgmental way. To me, it seems like a last resort as it's so expensive. That being said, if I had to go back to work at 6 weeks or 12 weeks post partum, I'd probably have to use formula too. Pumping SUCKS and having to do it full time at work is like a second job. I feel so bad for those of you who have to go back so soon. We are so lucky in Canada.
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