I'm learning that people can be giant turkeys, especially when it comes to pregnancy. Sorry you are feeling judged. I'm planning on having a natural birth without induction (if I can), but by golly if I was told an induction was necessary, I'd sure as hell do it. And I would never question anyone's birth. The important thing is that the mom and baby are healthy.
Both my younger two came early, I think this one will too. I don't like that they came so early, 38 and 37 week but they were healthy and that's all that mattered. I know people who schedule early inductions because it's more convenient. I think those people give inductions a bad name.
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Being in very similar shoes (have induced both my previous births), I hate hate hate when people think they have some insight you didn't consider or something. Hello, it was a huge decision - it's not like I just thought, "Hey I should get induced today!"
That being said, I have a friend who had an 37 week c-section with her first due to extremely low fluid and has a doc who favors sections (for better or worse depending on your own opinion) - he told her he didn't think inducing would work or would take days and then could end up being an emergency c-section. So with her second (now keep in mind she is a complainer and was probably driving him nuts) her doc allowed her to have a c-section at 38 weeks just because she was "done" That drives me crazy! But I keep my thoughts to myself...I'm not her and it's not my decision to make.
I mostly BF the first 6 months, but feel like I have judging eyes on me if I'm out with baby and giving him/her a bottle (even if it's pumped milk!).
Ugh, (((hugs))). I saw that and it bugged me too. Want to know a secret? I was induced with my first two at 38 weeks. My first because she was "too big" ended up being 6 lbs 10 oz and my 2nd because I requested it so I could avoid a custody hearing. Yep, that's right. But I agree, you shouldn't be judged or attacked for any decision you make with your own child (well unless you're abusive or neglectful). I think you're a great mom and if you have to be induced again, thank goodness you're willing to do what you need todo for a healthy baby!!
Totally get this! I had an emergency c-section with DS. He stopped responding and it ended up he had the umbilical cord around his neck twice. If we had not had a c-section, he would have been seriously brain damaged or not here at all. So people can judge all they want, I don't really care. I made the right call when the time came.
On top of that, anyone ever try to feed their child in public...one that was on a feeding tube? Talk about stares. I have had people ask what I did during the pregnancy to cause that. SMH At this point, I couldn't give a rat's *ss what people think of me or my family. I know that people that think that way or say those things are low on self-esteem and just need an ego boost. How sad for them.
So sorry you're struggling with this, Mary (and all!).
Anymore when people stick their noses in my personal business, I advise them it's not a topic open for discusson. My life is MY life and I don't have to answer to anyone when it comes to my body and health of myself and baby!
I'm often curious as to why people use formula, but not in a judgmental way. To me, it seems like a last resort as it's so expensive. That being said, if I had to go back to work at 6 weeks or 12 weeks post partum, I'd probably have to use formula too. Pumping SUCKS and having to do it full time at work is like a second job. I feel so bad for those of you who have to go back so soon. We are so lucky in Canada.