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    So you girls know that I want a boy, right? Anyway, yesterday a cousin of DH's asked me "Are you having a girl?" I said "I don't know yet.. won't find out til another 8 weeks or so." She then asked what I wanted and I told her I wanted a brother for my DS. She said "I was about to say.. because you are not having a girl." Well gee thanks.. for that. How does she know anyway? It kind of bummed me out she said that.. crushed those thoughts of a girl. My mother in law wants a granddaughter soooooooooo bad. She has 4 grandsons already. Don't you just hate when people think they are sure of what the gender of SOMEONE else's child is going to be? Keep it to yourself. So last night that's all I kept thinking about. I know my mother in law would still be happy with another grandson but it's still exciting to think about how happy she would be.. she would do FLIPS! Sigh..


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    WTF? This reminds me of when I was pregnant with DS2 and I found out he was a boy. Someone at work asked me if I knew what I was having and I told her it was a boy again, and she said, "That sucks." That was her exact response. THAT SUCKS?! This is my freaking child. Little did she know I had just been through a miscarriage, and then I bled for nearly a month with the baby that she said, "That sucks" about. I wanted to punch her in the face. I would've been overjoyed for any healthy baby, and nothing seemed more perfect at that moment than for my little boy to have a little brother to grow up with, to love and protect each other. This is our last pregnancy, most likely... People who know that we have two boys always ask me if we're going to "try for a girl." I also want to punch them in the faces. I "try" for a baby, not for a baby of a certain sex. Grrrr. (Sensitive topic for me, apparently, lol)

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    Mary, that's EXACTLY how I feel! A loss is a loss and when you have one, all you want is a healthy baby! People don't understand that. It gets to me so bad when people think it's ok to tell someone such things.. I'm sorry she said that to you. I would have wanted to punch her in the face too.. in fact, where is she? Lol.

    My best friend got pregnant with her second 3 months after I got pregnant with my first. She kept talking about how "this one better be another girl if not, I'm going to cry!" Needless to say I found out I was having a boy and then she found out she was having another girl. She hurt my feelings really badly bc I found out first about my boy and all she kept talking about was her wanting another girl and she wouldn't know what to do with a boy.. and girls are better, etc. It made me SICK! I wished so bad she was having a boy at that moment and then she found out it was a girl. I told her a few weeks ago finally that it hurt my feelings so bad.. she apologized but the scar is still there.. at least I know how wonderful boys are. So much easier to deal with my son than with her girls.. at least from what I see girls are more needy and whiny. Forgive me if I am wrong lol I'm not saying boys are better.. not at all.. I mean who wouldn't want the opportunity to have one of each?
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    I think having 2 boys in a row is great! But i don't know any different. You can't really choose what your going to have so why does anyone care. I do hate the comments of "are you trying for a girl this time" so insensitive.
    Before we started TTC #3 I asked DH if he was fine with 3 boys. he said yes, so here we are. Waiting for the arrival of our third boy!!! Very shocked if it turned out to be a girl. I don't know what to do with a girl! lol
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    Yeah, having a different gender I am sure can be intimidating at first! Whatever we are Blessed with will be great either way Just want a healthy baby!


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    I have yet for anyone to make an assumption as to what I'm having.. but I have had a lot of people ask me if I know what I'm having yet. Im about ready to buy a t-shirt that says "No, I don't know what I'm having and it's none of your business how much longer I have left before I pop." Maybe that would get the point across.. I'm pretty bloated (cuz it can't all be "baby" up there.. ) so people think I'm pretty far along.

    A baby is a baby is a baby.. what we get is what we get.. and as moms and moms to be, we just want healthy.. sure some of us have preferences but personally, I think it's rude for people to assume they know what you're having or to come to ridiculious conclusions.

    Wanna know what I'm having? Ask me May 3rd.

    MARY - You've GOT to be kidding me, right?? Seriously she said "that sucks." when you told her a boy?!?!? (Not that I don't believe you.. I'm just like..

    WTH is wrong with some people!?!?!?!
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    Quote Originally Posted by blondiess4u View Post
    I think having 2 boys in a row is great! But i don't know any different. You can't really choose what your going to have so why does anyone care. I do hate the comments of "are you trying for a girl this time" so insensitive.
    Before we started TTC #3 I asked DH if he was fine with 3 boys. he said yes, so here we are. Waiting for the arrival of our third boy!!! Very shocked if it turned out to be a girl. I don't know what to do with a girl! lol
    I could have written your post! We also get the 'maybe it'll be a girl this time' comments. I am pretty sure we will be having boy #3 and I will be thrilled! We make cute boys and I know how to do boys! Of course a girl would be awesome, but I'm going for healthy and happy!!
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    Oh my! I haven't gotten any comments or guesses on the gender. But people sure do surprise you with what they say sometimes. I would normally say "who says things like that?" But after my wedding, I will believe anything. Rude comments just seem to come out of the woodworks when it comes to having babies and planning weddings. People need to learn to keep their rude comments to themselves.
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