Pregnancy after a loss

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A_Dawn's picture
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Pregnancy after a loss

So glad my little one is doing great (u/s last Friday). I am so worried of all the "what ifs," that I know I'm paranoid.

With DS everything was so different. I was 22 yrs old when I had him. I didn't have to worry about anything. Sure I puked my guts for 9 months and he was breech, but I never had to worry about him being healthy. I was always calm and certain that he was fine.

With this little one I am 27 yrs, and always worried of anything and everything that can go wrong. I know part of it has to do with 2 m/c within last year. Every u/s brings me peace of mind... and then I can't wait for the next appt to know again that everything is fine. I thought of getting a doppler, but I'm afraid I may over do it and become more obsessive at hearing the heartbeat. Ahh, pregnancy after m/c is nerve wrecking.

TiggersMommy's picture
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Hi, healthy little bean! Those 2 losses must be causing a lot of stress. Try to take solace in knowing that your body has produced a perfect little baby in the past and it can and will do it again. Personally, I'd skip the Doppler. It can cause a lot of stress and that's not good for you or the baby. Swap out mechanical reassurance for faith in your body.

Joined: 07/29/13
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Oh what a cute little thing you've got there. And so healthy. I know it's easier said than done to have faith that everything will be ok, after you've had a loss.

Hang in there hun. You're almost out of the first trimester. And I've read that M/C rates drop dramatically after 9 weeks.
Everything will be ok!

:bighug:

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*lurking!*
Aww what a sweet pic!! Smile

I had a loss in March, and after getting pregnant again I felt exactly the same as you. The last time I had a baby was a dozen years ago. I never even considered a miscarriage, I was all happy in the knowledge that sure, everything would be fine. Now, I worry alot. Especially that really hard first trimester.
I wanted to share this:
Miscarriage Statistics by Week - When To Breathe That Sigh Of Relief

This made me feel better as I ticked off each week. At ten weeks, having a good ultrasound with a good heartbeat is a big deal! It lowers your miscarriage changes by quite a bit.
I know, everyone has their stories they can't wait to share about how losing a baby still happens after these marks, but it's so much more rare. I hope this helps!!! Smile

Joined: 07/29/13
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Thank you for sharing that link, Susan.

A_Dawn's picture
Joined: 09/10/13
Posts: 100

Thank you for the kind words of support.

Thanks for the link Susan, it makes me a bit more confident that things are good. I can't wait for my next appt at 14 wks, so I can give the good news to the family Smile

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