Ungrateful ... no make that SELFISH wives piss me off! (UPDATED)
Ok, after seeing a friend of mine post on FB actually COMPLAINING that her husband was having Christmas cards and letters sent to her while they are underway, I am just really upset at how ungrateful she is being. Our husbands are on the same submarine, though they are on separate commands, so the way things are handled for each command can be different. She posted today that she has been receiving letters and cards that were written by her husband and obviously sent by someone else, and she's unhappy because she doesn't think he put enough emotion and thought into them. WHAT?!?! I would seriously push a toddler out of my way to get to a letter from my husband right now, even if all he talked about was what movies he was watching or what video game he wants to buy when he gets back to land. How on earth could ANYONE be ungrateful that their husband was thoughtful enough to write cards and letters (even if they aren't filled with paragraphs of reasons why he loves her) and have someone else send them while he is gone underway. I haven't had a single word from my husband, while I keep watching my friends getting cards, letters, flowers, presents and other misc little things from their husband. I'm not at all bitter with my husband, I know how he feels and I don't need or expect things like that, besides, he knew I wouldn't be home for a large part of his absence while I took the new baby home and to his parents.
Anyway, I just had to vent somewhere, and FB was not an option. I am generally good friends with this girl, but she can be so self destructive. I feel like I spend more than half my time when our husbands are underway trying to keep her spirits up and thinking positive, but all she wants to do is wallow in her aloneness, and ***** and moan about every perceived slight at her. I generally tend to push these people away, but I do worry about her, and would hate to not be there when no one else would be. But this.... this just pisses me off. Its just so goddamned selfish. "WAH my husband wrote me a card but its not good enough. I don't even want to get them anymore." SHUT UP! Your husband wrote you a card, be glad he took the time because I can tell you, there are more than a hundred other wives out there who didn't get bupkis.
good grief. I'd be happy with what he ate all week if he were deployed and letters were all I got. At least I'd know he thought about me, though I might want something just a little more than a list of food, lol, but not much. I can't imagine not being able to talk, write or in any other way communicate with my DH on deployment.
Pretty sure I'm done with this girl. On top of this complaining, she just screwed me personally, and I'm upset.
I have been visiting with my family and my in laws for the last week and a half, and will be home in another few days. She was watching my cats for me, which just involves going there every 4 or 5 days to refill their bowls. I gave her 40 bucks for gas and the effort, plus a really nice Christmas present to say thanks. Yesterday, she fell and sprained her ankle and said she had to stay off it for a week. I scrambled from across the country to find someone else to take over cat duty for her. It took me about 6 hours but I finally found someone. When it was about an hour from the time the new girl was going to go pick up the key from this girl, I get a text that she wasn't going to be home. She asked the new girl to meet her less than a mile from my apartment. No joke. The new girl went after that and found the bowls empty and the cats upset. This girl had claimed she went Monday but there's no way their bowls would have been empty by yesterday if she really had refilled the bowls on Monday. AND THE KICKER? I found out this morning via Facebook that she had gone out for a girls night last night.... Too injured to take 10 minutes to take care of my cat, but not injured enough to spend hours drinking with her friends? Awesome.