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    My brother came back home in july 2011.He is 22 years old and has already been to war twice.He serves the Marine Corps in infantry.He's been there since 18 years old.Signed his contract for 8 years when a minor at 17 years old.He came back changed....

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    during his time in iraq the last time,he had left a girlfriend back in his hometown.Well they started sending each other letters and calls back and forth.And I thank her for that because that kept him going.That went on for like 2 years.And they would let him come home few times home for only a week or so before he was sent to war,too.Well he finaly came back home in july 2011.And physically he had changed.Emotionally he was different,too.He DID NOT want to talk about what had happened over there,and I don't blame him.I am his oldest sister(already married w/kids and live separately)Well he came to stay at my parents house.(Its my mom,dad,and 3 other sisters that are 15,17,21)We all have been very supportive towards him and have been patient.Well we started noticing that he has a impulse of losing it when there is a discussion about something.We were shocked because he wasn't like this before. For example,if my sister suggests you should do something this way.And he will say no this way.And it has to be what he says or it becomes bitter.Well during that time he got back,he married this girl he'd been with for awhile.She has been very stressed lately and doesn't know what to do.My brother has changed.I feel like he has post traumatic stress going on.He wakes up at night sweating and crying hysterically from his dreams.We've already taken him to psychologists and they just want to give him medication.When they sit down to supposedly "listen" they don't.They ask him stupid provocatory questions and that fires him up.It's very stressful.We've been trying to find someone better but it's REALLY hard.My parents thought it was best for my brother and his wife to stay with them.To give their support,help,and supervise.Recently, one morning my dad found my brother at the bottom of the stairs crying so hard.Telling him that he was scared.His wife had gone out to walk the dog. My father just hugged him and took him to the sofa,kept hugging him and rocked him to sleep.I feel like my brother is losing control.He was fine and all of a sudden this drastic change.We NEED help ASAP,someone PLEASE HELP.Anyone that knows someone or advice or someone thats been in the military anything.

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    For Immediate Help 24/7 Call Military OneSource at 1-800-342-9647. Everyone who answers the phone has a Master's Degree or higher, and they will put you in contact with the resources specific to your area.

    Also, if he is still in the military I would call his chain of command and inform them if it is so serious. You could save his or someone else's life by doing that even if he is mad for a little while.

    And keep in mind he may need medication to get him stable enough for counseling or other help to be effective. He may need it forever or he may not. Some mental disorders are made worse by chemical imbalances in the brain that medication can help to level out over a period of time. If multiple doctors are suggesting medication then it may be a valid recommendation.

    I would encourage him to find a Veteran's group to get involved with. We as family members will never understand the things that they have seen and been forced to do. But other Veterans will. He may not feel comfortable opening up to family for fear that he will disappoint you or make you sad or worried, but he might be more apt to talk to people who have been there.

    GL and be sure to come here for your own support. While we will never understand what they have been through, they will never understand what it is like to support a family member who is in a war-zone, and once they come home.

    You have every right to be concerned, but there are resources out there available to him. Let us know how it goes.
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    This sounds a lot like what happened to my BIL when he came back from Iraq (he was a prior Marine as well). It is heartbreaking to see them like that. I cannot add much to what Ariel said because she has some great advice. I definitely urge you to contact his chain of command if he is still in and call military onesource. My thoughts are with you and your brother.



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    Ariel gave some great advice. Military OneSource is great and it is important to contact his command if he is still in. Good luck and feel free to come here if you ever need to talk.
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    I have no advice I just want to send you a hug.

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    Thank you everyone for your support,and honesty. Since we sought help for him,he actually wasn't mad. I thought he'd be furious(since he never likes to ask for help)But it wasn't like that at all. He's actions were yelling out for help.And he has it now. I'm relieved,and know he's getting the right help.He was diagnosed with post traumatic stress. Thankfully, they see a positive outcome. He's doing much better. Thank you everyone again.

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    Where did you go for help for him? Just out of curiosity in case anyone else is ever in the same situation, they may find this thread helpful.
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