Breastfeeding at Three

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Breastfeeding at Three

Did you guys see this?

http://moms.today.msnbc.msn.com/_news/2012/05/10/11640864-times-breast-feeding-toddler-cover-spurs-shock-talk?lite

I can't say I am 100% opposed to it, I wish we had nursed longer but I cannot imagine nursing Zayden at this age. I watch him and he is no longer a baby, or even a toddler. He is a full on little boy now so it would be hard to even consider this.

(and I say that despite the fact that Zayden still had a bottle till about 6 months ago and is still in a crib LOL But other than that he is a little boy LOL)

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DH just texted me about it.

It doesn't bug me. It's not my cup of tea, as I will probably be stopping BFing Colby right after 1 year (he turns 1 in two weeks and now we're down to BFing morning & night, and just started doing whole milk during the day) when he's ready. But, I'm trying very hard to not worry about other people's beliefs/opinions/judging etc, so iI won't judge someone else's choice.

Can I imagine Jackson BFing at his age though? No.

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I agree with Kristin. Is it something I'd do? Probably not. I also could not imagine nursing Ryken at almost 3 1/2. BUT, I could still imagine nursing Sully and he's almost 22 months. He's still such a baby. I also have no judgement towards what other mothers do, as long as it's not causing harm to the child. I do have to say, it's lucky for that child that he's not in school yet. I do feel for him a little because he is too young to have an opinion on if he'd like to be on the cover of a popular magazine breastfeeding.

The article asks if it will help or hurt the perception of breastfeeding? I personally think, that because it's not the norm in the US to nurse that long, it could hurt it. Not a lot, but it could take some people who didn't really have much of an opinion and make them think poorly of breastfeeding.

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I will just go ahead and keep my opinion to myself on this one, since I know there are plenty of extended nursing moms on this site.

And I agree with Katie on two things 1) her whole 2nd paragraph...I think this cover will do more harm to bf-ing than good, and 2) I hope this mom really considered how this little boy will feel when he gets old enough to truly have an opinion about whether he would have liked to be on this magazine cover or not.

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Zayden nursed till 21 months -- even though he was never an exclusive nurser. I pumped until 18 months and got a lot of crap for that at work. So I am not opposed to extended nursing. 3-3.5 seems extreme to me I guess --though if that works for others I agree with Kristen that Its not mine to judge.

But at 2 Zayden was still a baby in my mind, a toddler at least. Now, he is a little boy and I see the child on that cover and he is definitely little boy. I have no issue with extended nursing but that may be a little long? I gotta say I hadn't thought about that poor kid -- I do agree that could be bad for him as he gets bigger!

To each his own I guess? Its more interesting to me. I will have to go get the magazine. To me, I was so sad when Z stopped nursing but if he hadn't I would have stopped it before now.

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"KatieWillis" wrote:

I agree with Kristin. Is it something I'd do? Probably not. I also could not imagine nursing Ryken at almost 3 1/2. BUT, I could still imagine nursing Sully and he's almost 22 months. He's still such a baby. I also have no judgement towards what other mothers do, as long as it's not causing harm to the child. I do have to say, it's lucky for that child that he's not in school yet. I do feel for him a little because he is too young to have an opinion on if he'd like to be on the cover of a popular magazine breastfeeding.

The article asks if it will help or hurt the perception of breastfeeding? I personally think, that because it's not the norm in the US to nurse that long, it could hurt it. Not a lot, but it could take some people who didn't really have much of an opinion and make them think poorly of breastfeeding.

Yep, ITA.

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I don't see anything wrong with nursing a child that long, but I don't think a magazine cover is a place for a photo of it.

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I have a friend who was a kid who did extended breastfeeding. She was old enough to remember the day her mom said "no more." She felt shocked and hurt when her mom told her she was done. She was also very nervous about weaning her own kids, because of the pain she felt when being weaned.

I guess one good thing about stopping earlier is that the los don't remember.

I say to each their own. I know it was quite the statement on the cover of the magazine, but also wonder how the kid will feel about this later in life.

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"AshnBill" wrote:

I don't see anything wrong with nursing a child that long, but I don't think a magazine cover is a place for a photo of it.

Agreed!

"hotdiggit" wrote:

I have a friend who was a kid who did extended breastfeeding. She was old enough to remember the day her mom said "no more." She felt shocked and hurt when her mom told her she was done. She was also very nervous about weaning her own kids, because of the pain she felt when being weaned.

I guess one good thing about stopping earlier is that the los don't remember.

I say to each their own. I know it was quite the statement on the cover of the magazine, but also wonder how the kid will feel about this later in life.

Okay that just seems odd to me! LOL

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"AshnBill" wrote:

I don't see anything wrong with nursing a child that long, but I don't think a magazine cover is a place for a photo of it.

ITA with this. I also know that I wouldn't nurse a child that long - to each their own. Many other countries BF for much longer than what the norm is here.

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I think it's sending the wrong message about extended BF too. I really think it would have been better to start with a younger LO like 2 or even younger. It's more important to encourage BF until 1 than it is to worry about extending it. Our rates of BF are lower than most other countries so it's better to focus on making it acceptable to BF a baby especially in public where it tends to be an issue. I know that's not really the issue here but I do think this is going to hurt BF and we're having enough problems as it is.

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Okay that just seems odd to me! LOL

Luckily there were several of us around, when she told us this. I seriously had no idea what to say to her.

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I agree with Ashley I don't have a problems with BF for 3+ yr but magazine cover... MAY BE NOT Wink

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"SID081108" wrote:

I will just go ahead and keep my opinion to myself on this one, since I know there are plenty of extended nursing moms on this site.

And I agree with Katie on two things 1) her whole 2nd paragraph...I think this cover will do more harm to bf-ing than good, and 2) I hope this mom really considered how this little boy will feel when he gets old enough to truly have an opinion about whether he would have liked to be on this magazine cover or not.

I couldn't have said this better myself. That poor kid!

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"betsy0040" wrote:

I think it's sending the wrong message about extended BF too. I really think it would have been better to start with a younger LO like 2 or even younger. It's more important to encourage BF until 1 than it is to worry about extending it. Our rates of BF are lower than most other countries so it's better to focus on making it acceptable to BF a baby especially in public where it tends to be an issue. I know that's not really the issue here but I do think this is going to hurt BF and we're having enough problems as it is.

I totally agree with this. I have no idea what this mom was thinking. You're not going to shock people into accepting BFing by attaching a half-grown boy to your boob while he looks awkwardly at the camera. It would have been so much better to have dealt with the subject in a way that more people could have maybe stretched themself to understand or accept.

And Tisha....again, I just can't even go there. LOL

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I have no issue with extended breastfeeding, and I think if it works for your family it's awesome. I also recognize that our culture is in the vast minority to even have an issue with breastfeeding at 3 years old.

My problem with the article and cover photo are two fold. I feel like they purposefully portrayed her in a sexy manner, which made her son breastfeeding all the more awkward. Secondly, I hate that the article seems to be trying to add fuel to the "mommy-wars" fire. I feel like most of the Moms I know are so over judging each other for their parenting choices, and the idea of Mommy Wars is just trite and narrow minded. Clearly the author didn't get the memo that Moms are over bickering about personal parenting choices and are moving on to just trying to be the best Mamas they can be.

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"serwachic" wrote:

I have no issue with extended breastfeeding, and I think if it works for your family it's awesome. I also recognize that our culture is in the vast minority to even have an issue with breastfeeding at 3 years old.

My problem with the article and cover photo are two fold. I feel like they purposefully portrayed her in a sexy manner, which made her son breastfeeding all the more awkward. Secondly, I hate that the article seems to be trying to add fuel to the "mommy-wars" fire. I feel like most of the Moms I know are so over judging each other for their parenting choices, and the idea of Mommy Wars is just trite and narrow minded. Clearly the author didn't get the memo that Moms are over bickering about personal parenting choices and are moving on to just trying to be the best Mamas they can be.

I totally agree! Obviously the photo was chosen just to ignite criticism AND with the heading "are you mom enough" just tries to get into the Mommy War syndrome!

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Yes Jen, spot on!!!