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Job Update!

So, I posted on the Weekend Chat thread, without details, about DH going to Boston for a job interview. Left y'all hanging, I know. Smile
DH got the job; found out yesterday. It's NOT in Boston. Smile We'll still stay where we're at, but he'll be gone out of state Sunday night/Monday morning until Thursday night, pretty much every week. We are both super excited. He has been miserable in his current job and I think this is just the change of pace he needs. He'll be working as a consultant for a software system, setting up the HR/payroll side of it for different companies; a new project every 6-12 weeks. I LOVE the idea of him being gone--I'm very independent and love my alone time/time just Noah and I (check back in a few months...I may be regretting my words, lol!). Noah and I get along so much better when DH isn't around--he's much better behaved and our routines go much more smoothly. DH and I get along when we're not around each other so much. Things have been very difficult between us lately because we're both so unhappy with our jobs. Miserable individuals = miserable spouses = miserable parents. Not a good equation. So we're thinking this will help a lot. It's not too much more pay, but he does get a cell phone and home internet allowance, plus some other good perks. He'll start January 3rd. We're going to give it a year, then re-evaluate how things are going.
Also, we're almost done with the potty training! We've been taking it VERY slowly (like 3-4 months now?) and we went out in underwear for the first time last Saturday--no accidents! He's still having a difficult time at daycare, but I think it's because she's not pushing the issue like we do at home. He wakes up dry 6 out of 7 nights...I'm just very excited! Finally I see the end!
So, that's just a quick(?) update. Smile

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I've been checking back for updates on this! Glad to hear he got the job and glad that it seems so positive for you both. It would be very hard for me to not have DH around a lot but I have a friend whose husband is gone weeks at a time and she loves it! She says the exact same thing you do --if it works then great!

WTG Noah on the potty training!

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Jess, that sounds great!! I fully agree with you on the easy by yourself, nice to have a break thing. Jackson is better behaved the days Donnie is gone too.

Congrats, very exciting!

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I know I already said it but I'll say it again - congrats to both of you!!!

Where will he be traveling to if its not in Boston? Or will it be somewhere different every 6 weeks or so?

That's so exciting!

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We have done the dh is gone Mon-Thurs for a year and a half. It has it's perks and it's downfalls.

Congrats to your dh for getting the job

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"Jenn0113" wrote:

I know I already said it but I'll say it again - congrats to both of you!!!

Where will he be traveling to if its not in Boston? Or will it be somewhere different every 6 weeks or so?

That's so exciting!

Thanks!
He'll stay west of the Mississippi as much as possible, mostly Southern California and Texas. And we already discussed that if he got to go somewhere cool, say, like...Houston, he'd stay over the weekend and I would join him. Wink He'll go somewhere different every 6 weeks or so. The cool thing is, he gets to book his own flights and hotels, so he can basically do whatever he wants as long as he's on the project when he's supposed to be.

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That's awesome. I was telling Justin about it last night and saying "can you imagine the airline miles he will rack up?"

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Congratulations to Andy. This sounds like an exciting opportunity for you guys, it's nice to see that you are looking forward to it! Hope it works out even better than you think Smile

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Wow Congrats to Andy! I agree when you are both miserable in your jobs it can't make for a happy home! I hope his new job helps out with that.

I actually look forward to the weekends that Doug spends at the hunt club. I can do whatever I want, cook what I want and not have to answer to anyone. I would prefer sometimes that he travel for work LOL Don't tell him though I wouldn't want to hurt his feelings.

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Congrats, it sucks when you have a job you hate (one of the reasons I didn't go back.. I loved where I worked just not the job lol) I hope the break from each other works for you guys.

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congratulations !!!!!!!!!

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Yay - it sounds like it's a really good move for him. I'm usually not a fan of when Shawn is gone because those hours between 3:00-6:00 can be so rough without the break of him coming home. Then again, I really love my time after the boys go down for the night. I get to watch all the reality TV I want, eat Reese's Pieces for dinner, and do an at home pedicure/fask mask/waxing, etc. Hopefully you'll get lots of rejuvinating alone time! Smile

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Congratulations! Jill I totally can relate, I love the days when DH works the overnight shift or 3-11. The evenings are so much more relaxed, I have no expectations and things go very smoothly.

I wish DH traveled for work I think it would give me more breathing room. Our relationship is in a bad place and we are not in a position to make things official so if a traveling gig would come up for him it would work so well, needless to say sorry for adding my issues to your post, so happy for you and I hope it goes smoothly and it works for all of you!

WTG Noah on the potty training - Gabby hasn't even started yet, I have not even attempted it and she shows no sign of being ready so you are ahead of me already even if it took long!

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Congratulations to Andy! I hope he loves it. You'll have to give us an update after it's been a few weeks.

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"Mommy2AvaBunny" wrote:

I actually look forward to the weekends that Doug spends at the hunt club. I can do whatever I want, cook what I want and not have to answer to anyone. I would prefer sometimes that he travel for work LOL Don't tell him though I wouldn't want to hurt his feelings.

Exactly, Mel! I cook quite differently for Noah and I when DH isn't around and that excites me--we actually eat a lot healthier because we love leaner meats, fish and veggies while DH hates all that. I can go out shopping with Noah, run errands, not have to worry about being home with dinner on the table at a certain time...the freedom! Smile

"serwachic" wrote:

Yay - it sounds like it's a really good move for him. I'm usually not a fan of when Shawn is gone because those hours between 3:00-6:00 can be so rough without the break of him coming home. Then again, I really love my time after the boys go down for the night. I get to watch all the reality TV I want, eat Reese's Pieces for dinner, and do an at home pedicure/fask mask/waxing, etc. Hopefully you'll get lots of rejuvinating alone time! Smile

Yeah, if I was a SAHM, I don't know that I would be so excited about this because those hours between nap and dinner are rough. And with my alone time, I'll feel like I can use that to exercise instead of feeling obligated to hang out with him. That will help me tremendously!

"3inpink" wrote:

Congratulations! Jill I totally can relate, I love the days when DH works the overnight shift or 3-11. The evenings are so much more relaxed, I have no expectations and things go very smoothly.

I wish DH traveled for work I think it would give me more breathing room. Our relationship is in a bad place and we are not in a position to make things official so if a traveling gig would come up for him it would work so well, needless to say sorry for adding my issues to your post, so happy for you and I hope it goes smoothly and it works for all of you!

WTG Noah on the potty training - Gabby hasn't even started yet, I have not even attempted it and she shows no sign of being ready so you are ahead of me already even if it took long!

Yes, things do run much more smoothly. Like last night, DH went to a sports bar with a buddy to watch the football game, and Noah was an angel. To the bolded: ours is too. I almost kicked him out the night before Thanksgiving. I was SO ready to, really. He just doesn't realize how easy he's got it, how easy I make things for him. It's absolutely maddening.
And with the potty training--it'll come in time, it'll happen quick. Once Gabby's ready, it will happen in no time. The little girl at daycare--she's a month older, they just started last week and she's nearly completely trained now. So don't worry! I've been freaking out about it, but the pedi reassured me that if it's before 3, just at 3...they're actually ahead of the game.

"AshnBill" wrote:

Congratulations to Andy! I hope he loves it. You'll have to give us an update after it's been a few weeks.

I will! I think that most of all, I'm excited about a change--life has gotten SO boring and I feel like we're in such a rut, but don't have any way for something different. So I'm excited about having something different. Smile

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"jlildrip" wrote:

Exactly, Mel! I cook quite differently for Noah and I when DH isn't around and that excites me--we actually eat a lot healthier because we love leaner meats, fish and veggies while DH hates all that. I can go out shopping with Noah, run errands, not have to worry about being home with dinner on the table at a certain time...the freedom! Smile

Yeah, if I was a SAHM, I don't know that I would be so excited about this because those hours between nap and dinner are rough. And with my alone time, I'll feel like I can use that to exercise instead of feeling obligated to hang out with him. That will help me tremendously!

Yes, things do run much more smoothly. Like last night, DH went to a sports bar with a buddy to watch the football game, and Noah was an angel. To the bolded: ours is too. I almost kicked him out the night before Thanksgiving. I was SO ready to, really. He just doesn't realize how easy he's got it, how easy I make things for him. It's absolutely maddening.
And with the potty training--it'll come in time, it'll happen quick. Once Gabby's ready, it will happen in no time. The little girl at daycare--she's a month older, they just started last week and she's nearly completely trained now. So don't worry! I've been freaking out about it, but the pedi reassured me that if it's before 3, just at 3...they're actually ahead of the game.

I will! I think that most of all, I'm excited about a change--life has gotten SO boring and I feel like we're in such a rut, but don't have any way for something different. So I'm excited about having something different. Smile

It's been the same for us, I asked him to leave the week before Thanksgiving for the millionth time, and he leaves for a few hours and comes back. I actually said to his face how do you treat the person who does EVERYTHING for you so badly. Without me you have no clean clothes, no food, no kids, no bills paid, all he does is provide the money to pay the bills and it's a joke at that. Living like poor people but as long as he can put on airs and act like the perfect father it's all good.

He says he would DIE if he couldn't see his kids but when he is with them he is NEVER with them, does that make any sense, he's on the phone with work or sucked into the tv.

Anyway, Jill I feel you sorry for taking over, but it's so nice to hear that someone else gets it, we don't have a marriage we are room mates and I don't even know why we share a bed it's been nothing going on in it but sleeping for 2 years. It's so pathetic.

As far as the potty training I'm okay with her being older. Emma was good 1, 2, 3. Kailee was so bad with the pooping that we had problems for years to come, I figure when Gabby's ready she's ready.

I've even gone as far as leaving her in a wet diaper for HOURS, really gross long HOURS and the little monster doesn't care, she doesn't even want me to change her, she is such a stinker!

I hope this works for you and Andy and makes things better if for nothing else but finances I would be gone, I love being on my own with the girls and I know I can do it on my own!

XOXO

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