MOPS (Mothers of Preschoolers)

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MOPS (Mothers of Preschoolers)

Has anyone ever been involved in a MOPS group? A friend of mine suggested I look into it -- the parish I am moving into has a MOPS group and she suggested that might be a good way to get situated in a new area, meet new friends, etc. Course it says it is for all moms, including working moms, but it looks like they meet during the day which I could not do.

Where we are moving is pretty far away from any place I know so it would be nice to meet with new friends and get some help transitioning into a new place but I can be some what shy, and working can be hard for me to do things.

Just wondering if any one has been involved in this before?

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I go to a group thats run by Ontario Early Years. Its for moms and dads with kids from newborn to 6 (well most programs are) they welcome all ages. All programs are free, most are for a certian age range, and then they usually have dropin free play for all ages. The one Addi and I go to is for 2-4 so I guess preschool age. They have crafts and toys for the kids usally each week is on a different theme and then there is snack time (you bring your own) and then story time. The young groups usually do song time ect. There are a bunch of different programs, more for newborn to 1 since most moms here are on mat leave the first year so there is more demand. During this time most of the moms chat and drink coffee. I loved these programs when Claire was a newborn since i was bored at home and needed adult interaction Wink With Addi we don't go every week just because were busy. But I have made some great friends there. We have been chatting since Claire was a baby. So it is great for networking. And now that its just Addi and I that go (Claire has school) she has her own little group of friends she plays with. I found it GREAT for Claire socially to mix with not only her friends once or twice a week but new kids every week as well.

See if they have any evening or weekend events. The place here has classes on weekends all the time

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Where we go sounds really similar to what Kim and Addi do. Each week the first part of class is crafts/free time. There's a few different crafts set up so the kids can do whatever...if they're not into crafts they can play. Then we have circle time...sing songs, the teacher reads books, etc. Then we have snack. During this time the parents go to another room for parent discussion while the kids stay back with the teachers (it's like 30 minutes or so). Miles loves it. Look into the school district. Ours sends out a booklet each season with all of the extracurricular activities that are being offered and that's where I found out about this. Oh. The only difference from Kim's, is ours isn't free, but is on a sliding scale so what you pay is based on what your yearly income.

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I have not ever actually been a part of a MOPS group but am very familiar with it because pretty much every church I have ever attended has had one and I have family members who have been MOPS leaders. I do think it tends to be much more geared for stay at home moms (even though of course anyone is welcome) for two reasons:

1) SAHM's are the ones that tend to seek out those groups more because they have the time to do it, and
2) especially in more conservative religious groups and churches, there is a much higher percentage of SAHM's than in the average population because they tend to believe that the husband should be the breadwinner and the wife should be the homemaker.

So yes, if you go you will likely find that most of the women involved are SAHM's. For me, that makes it kind of a turn off because they live a completely different life than I do. They want to have playdates during the weekdays when their husband is at work, but I'm at work then too. On the other hand, I have seen some MOPS groups advertise a late afternoon meeting...if you find one of those you will be more likely to find more working moms there.

It is really hard to find a group like this that works for working moms. I have looked quite a bit here as well. I pretty much have to meet people at church on Sundays because that is my only outlet to make new friends.

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The MOPS group is a specific organization -- Carrie's right, it looks like it is mostly assocaited with a church organization and it does appear to be faith based.

While it does say all are welcome and it is for SAHMs and working moms, most of the times are during the day.

Carrie -- I agree that my life is very different then most SAHMs and that is hard cause sometimes there is just not much in common. I also bet anything that this area we are moving too is going to have a high percentage of SAHMs. Too bad I am the breadwinner LOL Also I would add to your list that not only do SAHMs have more time to seek out things, they probably seek out the adult interaction like Kim said! Though they pretty much sound like the same program Kim and Ashley are doing.

I got an email response to my inquiry and yes, they meet every other Tuesday from 9-11:30. Ehh, not so much.

I did scope out the church nearby (actually is were the MOPS group is) and they seem to have a good program. The weird part to me right now is that I have lived in San Diego since 1996 but our entire lives have pretty much been centered around the same area. Even with all our moves it was from one neighborhood pretty much to the next one over. Now I feel like we are moving to a completely different city --we actually we are -- and I know almost nothing about the areas. I want to seek out things to make friends, scope out the nearby things to do, etc but working all day makes it tough.

I just gotta find away to meet friends outside work and family!

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Hi Amy! I just wanted to chime in because I have been involved in a MOPS group before. You are right, it is faith-based and pretty much geared for SAHM's, although open to all moms. The meetings themselves are just for the moms. The kids go to a childcare area to allow moms some "free time." The group I was involved in (I say "was" because my group dissipated for lack of interest in my church at the time) would have guest speakers, craft projects to either do for yourself or with kids, parenting strategies, and then just some chatting to help everyone get to know each other. I loved it and it's really where I found a good group of women with kids my own kids' ages. I'm sorry they aren't meeting at times that work for you because I really think it's a great organization. I hope you find a niche in your new community after you move.

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Thanks Beth! Its hard cause so many moms groups are all structured for SAHM --which I understand -- but then I don't know a single mom who has a kid Z's age IRL (other than on preg.org). I don't even really have access to other moms of kids in Z's class because he is in before and after school daycare so most of the kids in his class are long gone by the time I pick him up.