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Who do you shop for at Christmas? Do you buy for everyone? Just your family? Friends? Only kids? Just white elephant?

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Only kids. And only nieces and nephews, with a $25 limit. I might fill the stockings for Andy and I (and Noah of course), but that's the extent of it. Instead of buying for all our friends and family, we do our charitable donations (Phoenix Children's Hospital and the Arizona Humane Society) at Christmas time (gotta get that tax deduction in, lol!), and we usually adopt a needy family to purchase gifts/necessities for.

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Nieces and nephews ($25 limit too) and then I give my parents something small from the kids and something from us. Then our kids of course. We give each other a little something from the kids to each of us and then DH fills my stocking and I fill his. Santa usually brings mommy and daddy a HUGE Troblerone Wink or costco size box of walkers shortbread...soo bad yet sooo good Wink And then my Bff and I get something small for each others kids. This year we lucked out and found video games (hers have a leappad and mine have a vsmile for $5 each) so were giving the girls that and then giving each of our kids $5 or so to go to the dollar store and buy their friends something .. its going to be cute to see what they get. We dont do much for the adults, its more fun shopping for the kids.

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Jess - what do you consider a child? My brother and I had this talk yesterday. He has two kids that are 20 and 19 and I said this year they shouldn't be included, neither should BIL who is 19 too. They all have jobs and one of them lives on her own in a city 2-3 hours away. That's pretty adult to me.

We buy for our parents and the kids (nieces and nephews). The kids usually get a $10-15 gift and I feel so cheap. But I figure they don't care how much it costs as long as they have something to open.

I buy for Carrie's kids and a family gift for my other BFF that has 4 kids. Usually a GC to a restaurant or the movies or something.

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"Jenn0113" wrote:

Jess - what do you consider a child? My brother and I had this talk yesterday. He has two kids that are 20 and 19 and I said this year they shouldn't be included, neither should BIL who is 19 too. They all have jobs and one of them lives on her own in a city 2-3 hours away. That's pretty adult to me..

I think under 18 your a kid, after that your not lol. Right now we buy for all the kids, as they become teenagers we might do KK so they can get a bigger gift worth more $$$. When all the kids turn $18 we might do the white elephant Smile

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"mama22Girls" wrote:

I think under 18 your a kid, after that your not lol. Right now we buy for all the kids, as they become teenagers we might do KK so they can get a bigger gift worth more $$$. When all the kids turn $18 we might do the white elephant Smile

What's KK?

I thought 18 as well but someone at work told me they consider 12 the limit. That seemed young to me.

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"Jenn0113" wrote:

Jess - what do you consider a child? My brother and I had this talk yesterday. He has two kids that are 20 and 19 and I said this year they shouldn't be included, neither should BIL who is 19 too. They all have jobs and one of them lives on her own in a city 2-3 hours away. That's pretty adult to me.

Yeah, I definitely agree with you on that one. But an actual age cut off? Mmmm...that's hard. For us, once they're past the age of 13-ish, we usually buy a family gift that's for everyone. For example, DH's brother has 4 kids, they're all teenagers (13-17), so this year we bought a Wii game for the whole family--Family Game Night. Last year we bought them an Uno game. If there were less kids or they were younger, we'd buy individual gifts. Like for next year, they'll have a new-ish baby, so we'll buy the baby something seperate from the older kids. It also depends on the relationship. I'll buy for my brother's kids for a long time yet...they're my babies. I can't imagine not getting them individual gifts or ending that.

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We buy for all the kids and our rule is until you have a child of your own. I believe that rule was invented to protect my sister since I had kids way before her and it wouldn't be fair for her to have to buy gifts and she got nothing in return. (Totally backwards but that's my family).

We buy for the kids, neices and nephews, cousins, aunt and uncles, parents and grandparents, a few friends. Way to many people!

What's the White Elephant? I've never heard of that before?

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We buy for all the kids and our rule is until you have a child of your own. I believe that rule was invented to protect my sister since I had kids way before her and it wouldn't be fair for her to have to buy gifts and she got nothing in return. (Totally backwards but that's my family).

We buy for the kids, neices and nephews, cousins, aunt and uncles, parents and grandparents, a few friends. Way to many people!

What's the White Elephant? I've never heard of that before?

Really? Its really popular here. Everyone plays their own way and there are WAY too many rules and its called different things too.

When I have played at office parties you normally bring a unisex gift (and you determine ahead of time the total of the gift) and everyone draws numbers or plays some kind of random game to pick a gift. You can steal a gift already opened or pick a new one. Also, with White Elephant some people bring gag gifts and stuff from home. Like one party I have been there is the same box of ties that floats around every year.

We did it once with my siblings and my mom and they had some crazy high dollar amount and it had to be a nice gift. Try buying a nice, $100, unisex gift that everyone would want. Its hard.

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We draw names for both mine and DH's family and buy gifts for the children of the family.

I would consider a child under 18. BUT I have a cousin who is 14 (but thinks she's 30) who wanted to be part of the name drawing. I still get her a gift, but the rest of my family does not, since she decided to be part of the drawing.

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"Jenn0113" wrote:

Really? Its really popular here. Everyone plays their own way and there are WAY too many rules and its called different things too.

When I have played at office parties you normally bring a unisex gift (and you determine ahead of time the total of the gift) and everyone draws numbers or plays some kind of random game to pick a gift. You can steal a gift already opened or pick a new one. Also, with White Elephant some people bring gag gifts and stuff from home. Like one party I have been there is the same box of ties that floats around every year.

We did it once with my siblings and my mom and they had some crazy high dollar amount and it had to be a nice gift. Try buying a nice, $100, unisex gift that everyone would want. Its hard.

I LOVE white Elephants! I think they're so much fun! I always buy a gift I would want for myself, and if there is nothing better fight for it! Biggrin

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We don't do gifts much (we don't celebrate Christmas), but my office usually has a White Elephant party so I sometimes buy for that. It's usually gag gifts and the party is always a blast. I sometimes do Secret Santa at work, too, so I'll buy gifts for that. In the past, we gave gifts to A's daycare providers, our house cleaners, mailman, etc. I might randomly give holiday gifts to some friends.

I don't know if we'll start doing gifts now that Aasha is in our lives and is getting old enough to know that others get gifts for Christmas. I am struggling with this, actually.

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We buy for our kids, my nieces & my parents! That's about it~we sometimes get Danny's mom something small.

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We don't do gifts much (we don't celebrate Christmas), but my office usually has a White Elephant party so I sometimes buy for that. It's usually gag gifts and the party is always a blast. I sometimes do Secret Santa at work, too, so I'll buy gifts for that. In the past, we gave gifts to A's daycare providers, our house cleaners, mailman, etc. I might randomly give holiday gifts to some friends.

I don't know if we'll start doing gifts now that Aasha is in our lives and is getting old enough to know that others get gifts for Christmas. I am struggling with this, actually.

How come you don't do Christmas - aside from the religious part? I would assume a lot of people celebrate it without tying it to anything religious - happy holidays anyone? Smile

I am just curious because its so much fun, lol. I remember a kid in school that was JW and he had to sit in the library when we had parties. I always felt so bad for him. And I never did Halloween until I had Deacon. Now I love it because he does. Its funny the things we will start doing for our kids.

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I dunno, I guess I associate Christmas entirely with the religious part. I know it's well beyond that, but it seems strange to me to do the non-religious stuff since the whole point of it (in my head), and its origin, is deeply Christian. But yeah, you're right, I guess that doesn't match with Santa, reindeers, elves, etc., lol.

We do "celebrate" the holidays in that we do attend holiday parties, do holiday cards, etc., because I like to celebrate the end of the year and new year, just for fun. But, before Aasha, we didn't see any point in lights, decorations, gifts, tree. We will reconsider now.

Don't know if that makes any sense.

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"Jenn0113" wrote:

What's KK?

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Kris Kringle we put names in a hat and pick out a name and buy for that person.

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We buy for all the kids and our rule is until you have a child of your own. I believe that rule was invented to protect my sister since I had kids way before her and it wouldn't be fair for her to have to buy gifts and she got nothing in return. (Totally backwards but that's my family).

My brother was the only one who didn't have kids so he still bought for all the niece and nephews and we would pool our $$$ together and give him a gift from all the little kids sort of an uncle gift, but this year his wife is pregnant so were buying the future baby a gift.

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I pretty much buy for everyone, though I am going to start limiting things.

We have always done a huge Christmas for the girls but now that they are out and on their own (and now that I need to add their SO to the list) we are going to start limiting it to one big thing and a few small.

Right now my List is Adrienne, Jon (SIL), Ashley, Tiff, DH, Zayden, my dad, my brother, and Liz (DH's ex --she always gets us stuff so we reciprocate). Not sure if we will get something for Tiff's SO or Ash's bf--maybe just a bottle of wine for Ash's bf and more of a joint present for tiff and jeff.

I will need to get something for my staff at work -usually a bottle of wine and a gift card.

We do a secret santa at work too so I need to figure that out soon

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I dunno, I guess I associate Christmas entirely with the religious part. I know it's well beyond that, but it seems strange to me to do the non-religious stuff since the whole point of it (in my head), and its origin, is deeply Christian. But yeah, you're right, I guess that doesn't match with Santa, reindeers, elves, etc., lol.

We do "celebrate" the holidays in that we do attend holiday parties, do holiday cards, etc., because I like to celebrate the end of the year and new year, just for fun. But, before Aasha, we didn't see any point in lights, decorations, gifts, tree. We will reconsider now.

Don't know if that makes any sense.

Makes perfect sense. Its funny because since all the hype the last few years about making it Happy Holidays and making it a non-religious holiday sometimes I feel like its not a religious holiday at all. I have to remind myself and teach Deacon why we, as a family, celebrate Christmas. However, I will never stop with Santa, reindeer, etc - that is all part of the fun and magic of being a kid.

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We buy for everyone in my family (adults and kids), and send money to DH's family in Ivory Coast. We don't really buy for friends but might to take them a bottle of wine or something like that if we go to their house at the holidays. I did find a little tiny fun something for the Fergusons (just because I couldn't resist) and Kara's gift came in the mail today Biggrin Now to find something for "the boy who has everything" (aka Deacon LOL)

Oh and my department at work always adopts a family in need so we got the info on that yesterday....this year's family has 5 kids and they are so cute! We always have fun and usually end up spoiling our adopted family rotten with way more than they ask for. (there are 14 people in my dept so plenty of people to buy plenty of stuff) That is one of my very favorite parts of Christmas Smile

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We buy for everyone in my family (adults and kids), and send money to DH's family in Ivory Coast. We don't really buy for friends but might to take them a bottle of wine or something like that if we go to their house at the holidays. I did find a little tiny fun something for the Fergusons (just because I couldn't resist) and Kara's gift came in the mail today Biggrin Now to find something for "the boy who has everything" (aka Deacon LOL)

Oh and my department at work always adopts a family in need so we got the info on that yesterday....this year's family has 5 kids and they are so cute! We always have fun and usually end up spoiling our adopted family rotten with way more than they ask for. (there are 14 people in my dept so plenty of people to buy plenty of stuff) That is one of my very favorite parts of Christmas Smile

Forget the kids - just bring me a bottle of vica-fun to the hospital! ROFL

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"Jenn0113" wrote:

Forget the kids - just bring me a bottle of vica-fun to the hospital! ROFL

I wish I had some! I'm about to resort to back alley street deals!

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We buy for everyone on both sides. But neither of our families are terribly big. Mine is just mom, dad and brother (he's not married, no kids) we buy for. DH's is his mom and dad, sister and brother, their spouses and sister has 2 kids, brother none yet! So 11 people total other than our little family!