Do you believe everything your toddler tells you? Do you think they know how to lie to get their way at this age?
they lie.. I don't think they are very good at it.. Claire is getting better at it :rolleyes: but usually if I confront her she tells the truth. Most lies are like. Did you spill that? "no" or did you have an accident?? "no" (while standing in wet pants lol) or who broke that?? "not me". Its funny cause sometimes Addi tells on herself, Me "Addi why is Claire crying" Addi "Cause I hit her" lol
I remember when Claire started lying (around this age) and I was like.. OMG can't believe you can do that!!! But like I said I've never had a MAJOR lie, mostly little things.
Deacon does the same stuff you are saying. He will tell me Remi bit him and the whole time Remi is outside and Deacon is inside. Not sure why he does it.
Yup. Little things just like you said. Sometimes he comes home from preschool and says that someone hit him, but they have yet to tell me, so I'm going to ask them to tell me so I know if he's telling the truth or not. I know things like that happen, but if it does, I want the chance to be able to talk to him about it.
Kristen - what if he told you that every day? And what if you know that the child he is talking about in particular is notorious for hitting and scaring kids? What would you do? Just curious because it happens here and most parents never say anything.
I would totally say something. Totally. Honestly, Jackson's started acting out at home after preschool, if he were to start getting hit every day, I might consider pulling him out till next year or dropping him to less days a week. I know that's the extreme, but he's come home sad a few days too and it's starting to bug me. I keep constantly asking his teacher how he's doing every day and they keep saying he's so kind and caring towards the other kids. But something's going on and I'm not quite sure what. You know how it is, I ask him what's going on and he says he can't remember, so I'm not getting the full picture. I'll probably end up volunteering there in a week so I can do some spying to see if it's really a good fit for him. Honestly, if I were the preschool and there was a kid constantly hitting and scaring kids, I would drop that kid eventually. Heck, even my cousin was kicked out of a preschool and she just graduated from a great college. If you're a preschool with the luxury of doing that (I know your school doesn't have much give though), but this one does, I would hope if they problem wasn't solvable, that they would do that.
This is exactly what is happening for us too. Deacon is in my office sleeping now because he said a kid hit him this morning and he didn't want to go back. All the kids complain about this same child. However, who his parents are makes it all kind of tricky. I honestly am not concerned about Deacon's safety - kids fight and kids will always have to put up with other children in their classes that annoy them - in school and later. I just don't know what to do - push Deacon to go and just have suffer all day or speak up, say something and then deal with the consequences. I'm not the only parent that has a kid complaining about this child and no one wants to speak up.
No I don't believe everything he says because 1) he has a very vivid imagination and 2) yes I catch him in lies and I know he is not telling me the truth -- and I know he knows he is not telling me the truth because sometimes he give me a look that totally says I am messing with you mommy.
The rest of the conversation I will stay out of since I have the kid that is the mean one :confused:. I told Charley today that I really hoped some other parents didn't look at the class assignments and say dang it, Zayden is back. Last year they did tell us that some of the parents addressed the issues when their kid came home and said Zayden did x or y.
Jenn and Kristen- I'm sorry your kiddos are feeling sad after leaving daycare. that breaks my heart! I hope whatever is bugging Jackson gets figured out. And I hope that bully at Deacons school shapes up!
Right now I do believe everything Ava tells me. She is super honest and has never been caught telling a fib. Even if the kids are out of my eye sight and Andrew starts crying, she will tell me if she took something away from him or pushed him. I hope she continues to be so honest. I make a point to thank her for it.
Gabby always says that the girls said no to her or hit her or pinched her and it's usually the other way around. They don't exactly lie I think but tell stories.
How sad that Deacon and Jackson have been coming home sad. That would break my heart!
Miles must not have hit this stage yet, because I haven't caught him fibbing yet. (And I would know if he was because I'm with him almost all the time, lol.)
Yes I have caught Sophia lying, but I don't think she really understands what a lie is. And she tells on herself all the time, too. She poked Layla in the eye this weekend and when we asked her what happened she said "I hurt Layla" but then later she made up some story about coloring her eye with a crayon, which she didn't because we don't even have any crayons out anywhere (all her art stuff is packed up) so sometimes I think she just makes stuff up for no good reason. She will also stand right in front of me in soaking wet pants and tell me she did not wet her pants. I will say "Sophia, it's very important to tell the truth, okay?" and she will say "Okay mommy" and I say "Did you pee in your pants?" and she says "No" LOL Somehow she's not getting it. :rolleyes: