or maybe moms of girls? I don't know that this is always a boy problem.
I have pretty strong feelings about exposing children to violence --some of it comes from seeing how violent household effect children as a foster mom. Zayden does not and will not have a toy gun, he does not watch or is ever around violent TV, video games etc. I know there is a lot of debate one way or another and other moms who will let their kids have toy guns etc which is fine. At three -- I think that's a little to young IMHO.
Yet for the past month, Zayden has been building "guns" out of Lego's, he runs around making noise and telling me I shoot you mommy, I shoot the cat mommy, etc. WTH??
Now I know he is getting this from school --cause he is not getting it at home and school is the only other place. Its hard to believe boys are born with these instincts but its driving me crazy. I also know this is not part of the curriculum at school and not taught there -- I am certain they do not have toy guns at school. But I am guessing there are other boys who have been exposed, maybe from older brothers? Who knows, and they are playing this on the playground.
I also know from unfortunate experience that the more I say no to Zayden the more enticing it is and the more he does it. I get boys will be boys but I don't want him running around saying he shot some one.
Last week this came to a head when I picked him up. There is another little boy that he and Zayden are oil and water. This is the little boy that his teacher says they physically have to keep them separated because while they always gravitate to each other they wind up fighting immediately. Zayden does not like this little boy and tells me daily that Jackson hit him. (I really don't think Jackson is actually hitting Zayden every single day like he reports --especially cause I know that Jackson is only in school part time) So whatever day that was, Zayden goes on that Jackson is not my friend, then I asked him if he could be nice and play nice with Jackson. No mommy, I shoot Jackson, I killed him. WTF???? Hes three for Pete's sake.
I have parent teacher conferences sometime in the next week so I am going to raise this with the teacher. I think they have recess with some older kids and he occasionally is in daycare with the big kids (school is Preschool to 8th grade and the very early morning and the last hour of daycare is combined.)
So ideas, suggestions? How do I keep my kid from being the next serial killer? Gesh. Maybe girls WERE actually easier. LOL