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kris10gal's picture
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Random , quick question.

How early should kid's birthday party invites be sent out?

DH just visited friends yesterday, who said we'd be getting the invite for the kid's birthday on Feb 4th sometime next week in the mail. Is that late notice, or is that just me thinking this? Honest opinion totally a-okay!

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WAY to late notice. Rule of thumb usually is send invites for anything around 3 weeks in advance. Not too early so people don't forget but not too late so people already have plans. Invites sent out for that weekend is just too late!

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For kids parties where I am, 3-4 weeks in advance. Now that I'm that world (kids parties), esp with preschool, the weekends are snapped up with parties and events. People need enough time to plan on which ones to attend.

Personally, I admit it's hard for me because I'm a last-minute type of person. But, I know I have to change because it doesn't work for others when it comes to the kiddie stuff around here!

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agreed, def 3-4 wks!

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I try to tell people ahead of time and send an invite out a month in advance.

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I think I read that Emiliy Post says 2 weeks is acceptable in most kids birthday cases. Why I read that, I have no idea! I like to have high attandence to my parties, so I send out invitations 4-5 weeks out.

IThey may have decided to throw the party last minute. If you can't go, no biggie. If you're close to them, send a gift. If not then just RSVP no and maybe next time they'll plan ahead better. Wink

I would guess a party with invites sent out within 2 weeks of the date would be a pretty causal party.

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I always thought it was 2-3 weeks. 4 weeks seems a bit excessive to me. I would totally forget about it if I got it that early. But if I got it with less than 2 weeks notice I would think they were like me and did not have their act together. Wink

ETA: Wow, I had only skimmed everyone's responses, but now that I actually read them, I'm surprised at how many of you send them out a month in advance! I can honestly say I don't think I have ever in my life recieved a birthday party invitation a month in advance. Maybe things are more laid back here in the south?? I always tease Jenn because she's a super-on-the-ball party planner (unlike myself) and I know she probably wants to send her invites out a month in advance but even she waits till about 3 weeks out I think.

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Okay, at least I'm not thinking it's odd for nothing. I mean a week & 1/2 is just not enough. It almost made me think that we were an afterthought!

Kind of on topic, it made me start to think about Colby's party. His birthday is Memorial Day weekend. Which day would you think is the best day to have it? Lots of people travel that weekend right? Would Saturday still be okay? My family is coming up to visit for the whole weekend, so I would kind of like to have it Saturday when they come up, before the house starts looking like crap Smile

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That is a yucky birthday! LOL Tiff's birthday is the 23rd of May which always meant the next weekend after her birthday was memorial day. Obviously not as important for a one year old but for Tiff we would up often having her birthday party the weekend before because otherwise more often then not 80% or more of the people we invite would be out of town or unable to attend. Sad

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I totally know right?! The only reason I'm kind of liking it this year is that my whole family is going to come up for the weekend. We're usually not into kid's birthdays, so I'm excited they're coming and everyone will be here to celebrate. (Only problem is they come and dump their stuff everywhere. Cool when it's just us, not cool if I'm going to invite other people to his party Smile )

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I would think 2 weeks is acceptable but the minimum. I prefer 3-4 weeks because I'm anal like that, Carrie was right. :). I have friends and family that call the day of and literally throw something together though. Now that is annoying!

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"Lavender444" wrote:

I think I read that Emiliy Post says 2 weeks is acceptable in most kids birthday cases. Why I read that, I have no idea! I like to have high attandence to my parties, so I send out invitations 4-5 weeks out.

IThey may have decided to throw the party last minute. If you can't go, no biggie. If you're close to them, send a gift. If not then just RSVP no and maybe next time they'll plan ahead better. Wink

I would guess a party with invites sent out within 2 weeks of the date would be a pretty causal party.

Ha! I just saw this. We are somewhat close to them, but they probably annoy me more than its worth. If I were not to go, we would hear about it until the end of time, however they never come to anything of ours they're invited too, and we've never said a thing. So maybe that's our fault. My bridal shower, our bachelorette/bachelor parties, baby shower, my 30th birthday party, Jackson's 1st birthday. They literally have been invited to them all and had excuses not to come to any of them. You would think I would have no problem not going to this (their kid's 2nd birthday). I've had emails written to her explaining my side, yet always chickened out sending them.

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I say at least 2 weeks in advance. I try to send mine 3 weeks out. But most people we invite to our kids party are family and very close friends and I've already mentioned the date to them to see if it works for everyone.

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"kris10gal" wrote:

Ha! I just saw this. We are somewhat close to them, but they probably annoy me more than its worth. If I were not to go, we would hear about it until the end of time, however they never come to anything of ours they're invited too, and we've never said a thing. So maybe that's our fault. My bridal shower, our bachelorette/bachelor parties, baby shower, my 30th birthday party, Jackson's 1st birthday. They literally have been invited to them all and had excuses not to come to any of them. You would think I would have no problem not going to this (their kid's 2nd birthday). I've had emails written to her explaining my side, yet always chickened out sending them.

Sounds like some of my family. They never come, never send anything, but if I don't invite them I will hear about it until the end of time. And, if I miss one of their events--watch out! :roll:

Although, I always find a way to go to kids birthday parties because I think my kids have so much fun, and Ava LOVES Birthdays. Plus, my life is pretty lame, so a Chucky cheese party becomes the highlight of my week. Wink

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I remember you mentioning them before, Kristen. Interesting!

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Kristen, that sounds SO typical of them! I know you've had so many frustrations with them over the years. And here's just one more. Sad
I think 3 weeks is a good time frame for invites, but in our social circle, the norm is that we usually get the official invite about 1 week ahead, but hear about it a few weeks before that, kind of like a verbal "save the date" thing. Like, I just got an invite in the mail yesterday for a party on the 28th, but the mom told us a couple weeks ago, so we knew to keep the date open. Same exact thing happened with a party we went to last weekend.

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If I get "save the date" type info, then I don't care when I get the formal details.