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Ugly words

Sam got the Toys R Us ad, and has declared that she "adores" those Ugly Dolls. http://www.uglydolls.com/products/category/Classic/322.0.1.1.102286.14988.0.0.0
That's when DH says to me "I don't like her using that word." Somewhat strange of my hubby to pipe up, but it got me thinking what other
words I try to avoid using. Off the tip of my..er..fingers, I can think of these
Hate, Stupid, Dumb, Shut-up, Can't, and now ugly

What our yours?

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Caca or kaka, IDK how you spell it. I DESPISE that word and MIL uses it all the time. Ugh. Every time Jackson comes home from visiting her, he says it and I have to break him of it. Finally DH hates it now too.

Jackson has 2 Ugly Dolls. He got this one when he was less than 2 and named it "Bunny" and I thought it was SO adorable. http://www.uglydolls.com/products/productdetail/Big+Toe/part_number=10171/322.0.1.1.102286.14988.0.0.0?pp=16& He still loves it and it's one of his top 2 he sleeps with Smile They wash great too.

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I love the Ugly dolls! I think they're so cute and teaches a message that even "ugly" things can be loveable.

As far as words....I don't have any off hand that I can think of. Ava said 'heck' today, as in "what the heck?" and I didn't care for that too much. I don't like "can't" either. But I have a really hard time not using it in conversation so it's hard to get Ava not to say it. Although, she uses it differently than I do. Hers is an excuse not to do something or to give up, and that bothers me.

Kristen- is your MIL hispanic? My Grandma uses Caca too. It's really cute coming from her and makes me chuckle. But it's never a word I would use myself or teach my kids.

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"stillsurprised" wrote:

words I try to avoid using. Off the tip of my..er..fingers, I can think of these
Hate, Stupid, Dumb, Shut-up, Can't, and now ugly

What our yours?

in the context of the doll I don't think I'd have an issue but if she were to call someone ugly I would have to talk to her. Addi doesn't use many of those words but Claire does because of school (she hears her friends use them)

I try to get Claire to avoid words like Stupid, looser, shut-up, hate, idiot, (those are all I can think of right now)

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Kristen- I actually read your post out loud to DH. We both :eek: I have never met anyone who has the same disdain for that word as me!!! I REALLY dislike that word. It gives me ick chills every time I hear it. I thought I was a weirdo. Guess you are too. Smile

Kim- I'm okay with ugly in that context. Sam knows that's the name they're given. I'm okay with that. I'm with you on "idiot". I use that and "jerk" when I drive. Need to cut that out.

Lavender- I have never thought of the dolls that way! Now I like them even more! Great perspective!

I have the Ugly Dolls on my Xmas list, but she's so infatuated, I'm going to get one this week for her birthday.--She has the ToysRUs ad folded up and put in the tub of her dollhouse. She often breaks it out to remind me that she needs "a blue monster". Kristen- Glad to hear that they wash up easily. I can be a little obsessive about clean laundry, pillows and stuffed animals in my house.

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I don't mind the word "ugly" at all because I tell Noah he's acting "ugly" or naughty when he's being bad.
Noah more uses phrases that I try to break him of and I usually just try to get him to be polite about it. Like yesterday, I was talking to his babysitter and he said, "Mommy, stop talking. I wan go home." I told him he needed to use his magics (please/thank you) and be nice about it.

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Jude says kaka ALL the time, but it's on his list of random nonsense "words" he likes to shout. Along with keeko, loola, and meemo. Is there another meaning to the word I should know before letting him shout it in the middle of Target?

After letting Jude watch the Charlie Brown Halloween movie, he started saying blockhead. Actually, he started calling Cohen a blockhead, which I wasn't a fan of. Shawn thought it was hilarious. :rolleyes:

Other than that, my list of words I get fired up about is similar to your alls': hate, stupid, dumb, etc.

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maybe I'm being old fashioned, but I want things to sound sweet when they come out of my little girl's mouth. I don't like it when she says, butt or fart.

Speaking of kids yelling out random words. Lyla loves to yell "bacon." She thinks it is funny, and it has become our inside joke.

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Wow those ugly dolls are really ugly! I can't say that I'm a fan but maybe they'll grow on me Wink I don't think Sophia has ever seen them. DH also doesn't like the word ugly or really anything that describes the way someone looks. He doesn't like for us or Sophia to focus on the way someone looks...he's kind of wierd about that. Even if we are watching something and I'll say "that lady has a strange look about her" or something like that, it really bothers him if I say something like that in front of Sophia. He doesn't want her to learn to "judge people" for the way they look, although I don't think you really learn that, I think it's just kind of an inherent trait that everyone has at some level, but maybe I'm wrong. Okay, I'm way off subject here. LOL

Caca is a very unpleasant word, I would have to agree. There is just something about it. But then again, it does mean poop, which is also an unpleasant word. LOL The other day I was in the car and I yelled at a woman in another car "yeah, you're blocking traffic, you idiot!" and I hear Sophia's little voice from the back seat "mommy, are you talking to me?" DOH! Gotta be more careful what I say in the car! Definitely don't want her to use most of the words you guys have mentioned here and another one I'm sensitive to is "fat". She has a couple of books that use that word (they are old books my mom gave me) and I always skip it or replace it.

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Carrie- I totally agree w/ your DH. I try and avoid judging, (out loud, anyway), peoples appearance. I really don't want Sam to think different is ever bad. That goes double for me. I tend to get a little self conscious and vain. I don't want Sam hear me judge myself, because I don't want her to inherit all the hangups I have about MY appearance. I cringe when I think she might think of herself as "fat" or feel the need to cake on makeup to hide her "uglies". I realize all these things she will undoubtedly pick up along the way, but the longer I put off all those particular life lessons, the better.

Tisha- If you're old fashioned, then so am I! We say "poot" instead of fart, and "bottom" or "booty" instead of butt. I've also made a rule that we call adults Ms or Mrs Mr whatever, unless they ask you to call them something else.

Jen- I'm sorry, but I think "blockhead" is hilarious!!! I understand why you're not thrilled with it, but that is too cute. Smile

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Carrie- I totally agree w/ your DH. I try and avoid judging, (out loud, anyway), peoples appearance. I really don't want Sam to think different is ever bad. That goes double for me. I tend to get a little self conscious and vain. I don't want Sam hear me judge myself, because I don't want her to inherit all the hangups I have about MY appearance. I cringe when I think she might think of herself as "fat" or feel the need to cake on makeup to hide her "uglies". I realize all these things she will undoubtedly pick up along the way, but the longer I put off all those particular life lessons, the better.

Yeah, I think you're right. He has a good point. I'm really bad about it too. Not saying rude stuff, necessarily, but I'll just point stuff out that I probably shouldn't. He also doesn't like for us to focus on people who look GOOD or tell Sophia that she's cute, etc. My cousin's wife put this quote on FB yesterday, I thought it was good:

Compliment your kids 90% of the time on their character (kindness, thoughtfulness, attitude, smarts, etc). Save only 10% for actions and appearance.

If it were up to my DH, we would never compliment Sophia on her appearance. I think he's a bit overboard on that. I agree it should not be focused on but can I tell my kid she's cute once in a while??? :rolleyes: