VALENTINE DAY ... I feel bad...

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VALENTINE DAY ... I feel bad...

OK We got a note by the pre-school that Tuesday at 3:30pm there will be a "valentine tea" thing.. not mandatory to attend and if you wanted to come to bring a card (home made or whatever) with the other kid name on it)... Florian doesn't go to school on Tuesday and I didn't feel like driving 60 miles for 30mn tea Wink

plus in France VALENTINE DAY isn't a big deal at all....

so we skipped

yesterday he had in his "box" a bag full of cards from the other kids Sad

I FEEL TERRIBLE.. for "us" Valentine day is just an other day.....

do you think I should apologize even so the "tea thing" wasn't mandatory or e-mail the director told her we just don't celebrate it .....

I FEEL PRETTY MAD RIGHT NOW Sad

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I wouldn't feel bad, Claire made valentines for all 17 or so kids in her class she got back about 11 not everyone participated, I don't feel upset that we gave a kid a card who didn't give us one back, its valentines day, its for fun, its not about who give and gets what. I'd just tell him how nice it is that he got cards from his friends. If he wants to do it next year (and your not against it) then let him.

ETA I wouldn't apologise or send a email, if you send an email it might make the director uncomfortable that she invited you to something you don't celebrate. It wasn't mandatory so I wouldn't even worry about it.

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"mama22Girls" wrote:

I wouldn't feel bad, Claire made valentines for all 17 or so kids in her class she got back about 11 not everyone participated, I don't feel upset that we gave a kid a card who didn't give us one back, its valentines day, its for fun, its not about who give and gets what. I'd just tell him how nice it is that he got cards from his friends. If he wants to do it next year (and your not against it) then let him.

ETA I wouldn't apologise or send a email, if you send an email it might make the director uncomfortable that she invited you to something you don't celebrate. It wasn't mandatory so I wouldn't even worry about it.

I totally agree with Kim on everything. Noah had 37 kids in his class for VDay, I sent 36 valentines, I think we came home with maaaaybe 15-20 from other kids? So even then, all the kids who came didn't bring valentines. It's really no big deal. I bet they don't even know. The parents are usually just told to have a certain amount for the class--no one knows who gets/gives what really.

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Yep, I agree with Kim too. Totally not mandatory and there is no way those kids or other parents would even notice (or be upset) that they didn't get a card from Florian. The only reason they put them in his bag is because they parents who came, and brought cards, brought them for everyone in the class, so those are his. I'm sure they never even considered that making you feel bad because you didn't participate. You have NOTHING to feel bad about, truly. We have a guy in my department from England and he said that it is not big over there at all either. I said do you guys celebrate it over there? and he said "Hallmark does, but people don't" ha ha