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Jenn0113's picture
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We are home! xp

Kara Elliot
Dec 27th, 8:36 am
7lb 1 oz
20.5 in
apgars were 8, 9

On Tuesday, Dec 27th we were scheduled for a csection at 8:30 am. I got to the hospital at 7:15 and by 8:36 Kara was born. I had been so nervous all morning for some reason, like scared to death of the surgery. That's pretty out of character of me but I couldn't shake it. At one point right when the doctor had walked in I started saying "I'm scared, please give me something, I'm really to scared to do this!" and the anesthesiologist said "scared of what, they have already started and she will be here in a minute". After that for some reason I was completely calm and didn't mind the rest of the procedure. They let Justin stand up and video the actual delivery so that was really cool. As soon as she was out the nurse said "do you have big babies? she is big" but then they showed her to me and all I could think was how tiny she was. Then the doctors and nurses were all commenting about something on her face. They had Jus come over and look and it was a gold piece of glitter. So weird! They said they have never seen anything like that before. Anyhow, they finished up my surgery and we went to recover for a few hours. Once I had been in there for an hour they allowed Deacon to come back and see us. He walked in and was so excited that Sister was finally here. He was thrilled to give her a hug and a kiss. Then he said 'come on daddy, let's go get Mimi (my mom) so she can see her' LOL.

After I finished the required time we were moved to a room. The nurses was great and loved Deacon, so they let him push her to my room all by himself (with Jus' supervision). As soon we we settled in the grandparents came in to meet her. I was pretty sick all day from the spinal and then exhausted from the anti-nausea meds. Justin stayed with me he first two nights and then my MIL stayed the last night. We got home yesterday (Friday).

Since Kara was born I have literally been on cloud 9. I never put her down and I miss her when someone else holds her for too long. I even held her to sleep every night in the hospital. She is such a good baby but man does she have her days and nights confused. She sleeps the entire day and is wide awake from 11p to 7a. I spend my nights trying to stay away and mu days trying to catch up on sleep. But right now I don't mind too much. Smile I am going to try to work on reversing her days and nights this week while I have Justin home to help me with Deacon. Jus has been amazing with D this week. He is playing with him and taking care of everything for him so I can focus on me and Kara. Its been much easier than I ever expected but I know its only because Jus has been so helpful.

Kara lost 9% of her body weight in the hospital and the nurses were really concerned. The pedi said she wasn't as worried since I'm a BTDT mom and she remembers how chubby Deacon got when I was BFing him. She asked me to nurse every 2 hours between now and our appt on Tuesday just to help her gain a little. However, had Kara been my first baby we would still be in the hospital. She was down to 6lb 6 oz when we left and she is TEENY TINY! She is so small and its the first thing everyone comments on when they see her. Even her features are tiny.

Anyhow, that's what we have been up to - exhausted days, tons of visitors around the clock and adjusting to being a family of 4. Its been amazing but it leaves no time for me to do anything else right night. I'm not sure when I will be back on the boards regularly but I will try to get on and lurk. I'm on FB since its easy to do on my phone while nursing or pumping. I'm sure you have seen her pictures on FB. I'll try to get some online soon or at least more on FB.

kris10gal's picture
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Awwwwww, I am SO SO SO glad I checked this! You are going to have the BEST New Years on your baby-high!!!!! I would trade going out for the night for being with my baby Colby in the hospital any day.

So glad things went well. A little glitter is because she's already a star. Seriously, your cloud nine and hospital and holding her to sleep, brings me back 7 months. Second baby's are so different in that way! You know how fast it goes and want to be able to cherish it even more.

She is darling and I'm dying for more pics!!! So happy for your family of four!!!!

Kara is a DOLL and I can't wait to hear and see more! Smile :) Smile :)

3inpink's picture
Joined: 01/11/07
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So glad you are all home and you sound very happy, that's the best part. Enjoy every minute of it, teeny tiny today big and running around the next. You know how fast it goes, it goes even faster with 2!

Looking forward to seeing more pictures!

mommaphoebs's picture
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Glitter?! Wow, Miss Kara knows how to make an entrance!! Enjoy these beautiful early days with your new little darling!!!

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"kris10gal" wrote:

Awwwwww, I am SO SO SO glad I checked this! You are going to have the BEST New Years on your baby-high!!!!! I would trade going out for the night for being with my baby Colby in the hospital any day.

So glad things went well. A little glitter is because she's already a star. Seriously, your cloud nine and hospital and holding her to sleep, brings me back 7 months. Second baby's are so different in that way! You know how fast it goes and want to be able to cherish it even more.

She is darling and I'm dying for more pics!!! So happy for your family of four!!!!

Kara is a DOLL and I can't wait to hear and see more! Smile :) Smile :)

I could have written this!! I'm still trying to hang onto Lauren being my baby at 9 mo!! I snuggle her all time and we're still working on getting her out of our bed! She's such a momma's girl!

Kara is absolutely precious! What a miracle she is! D looks like a great big brother!

Glad Jus has been helping sol much, that makes all the difference in the world! Enjoy your time off!

serwachic's picture
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Jenn, I'm so excited for you! Even though you were scared and nervous, I'm so glad to hear that everything went smoothly, and I hope your'e recovering okay from the spinal and meds. I totally agree with Kristen, it seems like the experience with the second baby is so very different, you know what to expect a little more, so you can spend less time trying to figure stuff out and more time just enjoying. SO glad Justin is taking such good care of you guys - I'm sure that quality time means the world to Deacon and will go along way in helping in adjust to Kara!

Has Deacon regressed in anything at all? Did he have time off from daycare for the holidays, and when does he head back? How long do you have for maternity leave? Has Kara adjusted to days/nights any better?

I know you're super busy and probably still super tired, just wondering how things are going. Wink

Tanylisa's picture
Joined: 08/30/07
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So happy you guys are home now! Kara is so adorable and deacon seems to be so good with her, I'm hoping Jack is like that with his brother! That's so funny about the glitter.

Hope you get plenty of rest and recover quick, and looking forward to seeing more pics!

1aBABY's picture
Joined: 12/05/06
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So good to hear everything went well. A miracle in deed. Kara is precious and looks so much like D! I can't wait to see more pics and hear about your family of 4 now.

SoCaliLover's picture
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Jenn -- your miracle baby is SO cute and amazing! I am glad you are home and that things are going well. I am so impressed with how well Deacon is doing! When Arya was born, Zayden was (and still is) a total punk! I would be scared to get preg now with the way he acts!

So happy to hear how well things went! Enjoy your time with your sweet little girl!

Joined: 12/06/11
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So happy for you Jenn! Other than the sleeping issues newborns are so much fun and exciting! Glad Deacon is handling all the changes so well. That makes everything so much easier!

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"serwachic" wrote:

Has Deacon regressed in anything at all? Did he have time off from daycare for the holidays, and when does he head back? How long do you have for maternity leave? Has Kara adjusted to days/nights any better?

Deacon left daycare when I went on maternity leave and he won't be back until I go back to work. We can only utilize the daycare when we are at work. He will start an in-home daycare next week for just 2 days a week and from 9-2. I need to take him by there this week to just show him around. Its at a neighbors house so he will only be 3 doors down.

Kara is still confusing her days and nights and she is such a deep sleeper that we can't wake her during the day. I have no idea how to fix this. I've started just putting her down at night wide awake and going back to sleep myself. I get up a few times a night to nurse her or pump - usually I pump after she nurses. I'm feeling like I handle it better this time than with Deacon but at the same time losing sleep is never easy.

"SoCaliLover" wrote:

Jenn -- your miracle baby is SO cute and amazing! I am glad you are home and that things are going well. I am so impressed with how well Deacon is doing! When Arya was born, Zayden was (and still is) a total punk! I would be scared to get preg now with the way he acts!

So happy to hear how well things went! Enjoy your time with your sweet little girl!

Deacon has amazed me. He has yet to get jealous and all he wants to do is hold her or kiss her. He hasn't tried to pick her up himself (knock on wood), he just asks us if he can hold her and runs to sit down until we hand her to him. Then he whispers to her "my baby, hi my baby, hi my baby" LOL He is so adorable with her. He has also hit this totally UN-ADORABLE stage of talking back and being a turkey at times. So its weird to see him go from one extreme to another. Last night I was feeding Kara and I just started crying. Jus cam and got her from me and brought me Deacon so I could cuddle him. I miss my one on one time with him so bad and find myself fighting back tears all the time. I love that he isn't jealous and I just hope he doesn't start to resent the time I have to spend with Kara.

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I'm just now getting by here to comment! Congrats again Smile So glad you're home & doing well. Hopefully you'll get Kara's days & nights straightened out soon. So great to hear how Deacon has taken to his baby sister. Sawyer was the same way. I was soo worried about how he'd act since he's like my shadow but he's been wonderful & still is. VERY loving with her & always trying to help. I'm very grateful for that cos it does make it alot easier on me. So how does it feel to actually have a little girl? Amazing huh? I still find myself saying "wow, I have a daughter! I can put dresses on her, bows in her hair" I promise it'll never get old....LOL There's sooo much CUTE girly stuff out there. I'm gonna start making stuff b/c I'm become so obsessed with it all. Glad Justin is there helping with Deacon. Can't wait to see more & more pics of her! She's simple beautiful Smile

serwachic's picture
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I'm glad Deacon will get some time in a daycare, hopefully that'll give you a chance to bond more with Kara and get some rest. Plus, I bet you'll be ready to give Deacon more focused attention when he gets home, AND Deacon can run off some of his toddler energy someplace where he doesn't have to worry about waking up a baby. Smile

Reading about how Deacon whispers to Kara made me tear up a little bit! I still miss getting that one-on-one time with Jude, but I really try to make it happen when Cohen's down for a nap or Shawn's spending time with Cohen. Maybe once life stabilizes a little bit, you and Deacon could start doing Mommy/Deacon dates? I've been thinking of actually starting that idea with Jude - even a quick trip to the store without Cohen can be a special "date." Smile

Cohen had his days and nights confused a little when he was first born, and the most effective thing I did was to start his bedtime routine. After I put Jude down for the night, I'd nurse Cohen with the lights dimmed, change his diaper, put his PJs on with a little baby massage. I'd turn on his sound machine, turn off the lights, pray for him, sing him a lullabye, and lay him down. Even as a newborn, I'd let him fuss for two or three minutes if he needed to - but I could pretty easily tell the difference between the working on falling asleep fussing and the - something's wrong, where the heck is my Mom- fussing.

Anyway, after a week of just having a consistent routine at a consistent time, he straightened out days and nights. As an added bonus, I've always been able to lay him down awake and he can fall asleep on his own. I'm pretty sure Jude wasn't able to do that until he was 2 years old!

I don't know, maybe it won't help at all, but that seemed to help Cohen figure out the difference between night time sleeping and naps.

AshnBill's picture
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Glitter!?! What the heck!?

I'm glad everything is going well. The lack of sleep is the hardest part! I hope she gets her days and nights figured out soon. I've heard it might help during the day after feeding, even if she's sleeping, to put her in the bouncy seat or some type of "activity".

KUP how D does with daycare! I so wish we had something like that to keep Miles busy. He's driving me crazy w/being cooped up in the house., It's too cold to go outside here now when it's just me and the kids here (can't bring V outside in this weather!).

I'm looking forward to watching Kara grow!

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"serwachic" wrote:

Reading about how Deacon whispers to Kara made me tear up a little bit! I still miss getting that one-on-one time with Jude, but I really try to make it happen when Cohen's down for a nap or Shawn's spending time with Cohen. Maybe once life stabilizes a little bit, you and Deacon could start doing Mommy/Deacon dates? I've been thinking of actually starting that idea with Jude - even a quick trip to the store without Cohen can be a special "date." Smile

YES! That part will get better. Soon Kara won't be so dependent on you and you will be able to spend special time with Deacon. I make it a point to take just Sophia with me places...the other night just she and I went out to dinner and it was really fun, and also made me think that I'm going to make it a regular thing to have a special "date" with her every week or so. See a movie, eat dinner, go to the mall...something with just the two of us. It may feel impossible to you now but before you know it, it will be possible.

The glitter thing is SOOO random. lol

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"Jenn0113" wrote:

Deacon has amazed me. He has yet to get jealous and all he wants to do is hold her or kiss her. He hasn't tried to pick her up himself (knock on wood), he just asks us if he can hold her and runs to sit down until we hand her to him. Then he whispers to her "my baby, hi my baby, hi my baby" LOL He is so adorable with her. He has also hit this totally UN-ADORABLE stage of talking back and being a turkey at times. So its weird to see him go from one extreme to another. Last night I was feeding Kara and I just started crying. Jus cam and got her from me and brought me Deacon so I could cuddle him. I miss my one on one time with him so bad and find myself fighting back tears all the time. I love that he isn't jealous and I just hope he doesn't start to resent the time I have to spend with Kara.

Awww -- Its funny, sometime after Z was born, and I started talking to DH about another one, one of his major reasons as to why he didn't want anohter is that he did not want to be shared and did not want to give up his one on one time with Z. As much as I wanted another, I do understand that too.

(Plus there is NO way Zayden would ever be this sweet if we had a baby!)

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Thanks for the encouragement. I'm hoping the weepy stage passes soon and Kara flips her days and nights.

We visited the daycare today (it's three doors down from our house) and deacon didn't want to leave. He starts Tuesday morning which is perfect timing since I have Kara's 2 week check up that day. She even feeds the kids, how great is that?!?! I'm so use to packing him a breakfast in the mornings and a lunch for the day that it will be nice not to worry about his meals. If he likes the daycare he will go tues-fri. If he doesn't, oh well, tues and thurs.

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YAY I'm glad he liked it!! That will be such a relief for you Smile

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I'm so glad Deacon liked the visit! Hopefully he'll love it, and you'll be able to get that extra day! That's awesome that she feeds the kids, and such a time saver for you. I always forget that I have to pack Jude's lunch until the morning of school. It'd be so nice to not have to even think about that!