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Asha

Hey Asha. I was just curious. I saw a post where you delivered in a car. I would love to hear that story if you want to share...you don't have to though. I had a friend who delivered in her car...her son was born at 26 weeks just like my son.

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I don't mind at all. It is one of those: "I can't believe this is happening to me" stories.

I was pregnant with my seventh child - Chloe. She was due November 19 th. At the end of my pregnancy with her ( and my 5th and 6th child ), I had a lot of prodromal labor, aka "false labor". At least a week of that. It would sometimes become regular so on November 12, after hours of feeling these not- too-intense, but still noticeable contractions I decided to get checked out in L&D.
They kept me for a few hours and the contractions did show up on the monitor, but they didn't yield "enough progress" so they sent me home. I was really discouraged because it has been going on for at least a week and it was tiring to think "oh it's time" to then be told- no it isn't. Also with 6 other kids in the house, it meant that we had to ask my Dad or my friend to come watch the kids so DH and i could go to the hospital. So I felt kind of stupid coming back and saying "false alarm!"
When they sent me home on Nov.12th , I kind of vowed in my head that next time I come, I will be 100% sure that I am in labor.

So the numb contractions kept coming and going. They would be irregular, sometimes stronger, sometimes barely noticeable. Sometimes they would completely go away.
On the morning of Nov.14, I took my then 4 year old DD to her ballet class. I also had my 3 y-o son and 22 mos old DD with me then. DH was on his way back from work from a midnight shift.
At the ballet class I was videotaping my DD b/c it was a "parent day" where we got to watch the little ballerinas. I remember having some contractions during that half an hour class. They felt just as mild as the ones from a few days ago.
The class let out about 10 AM.

When I got home, I wanted to go to get a hair cut before "the baby comes". I told DH about my plans, but I didn't get to it, b/c the contractions seemed to get stronger, even if still coming in at an irregular pattern.
He asked me if I wanted to go to the hospital, but I didn't want to get sent back since the pain wasn't that intense and the waves weren't coming every 5 minutes. They would be every 6 min. then every 3 then would go away for awhile.... I remember wondering what if there is still "no progress"?
We sat like that for at least an hour. All of the sudden I feel this sharp pain ( and this is when I have to retract saying that this was totally painless labor! ) and I thought, what if my placenta is tearing away? It was this sharp. It was this pain and fear of the placental abruption that made the decision for us to go to the hospital.
Not " regular" contractions.
DH called our friend and next door neighbor. He also called his mom to come, as the neighbor had kids of her own and we didn't really want to burden her. MIL lives about 8 minutes from us. She told DH that she needs to hop in a shower first, thinking that it was another false alarm.

As I was getting into the van, it was about 11:30 AM. As soon as I sat down, my water went swoosh! My feet were soaking in amniotic fluid. And the pressure to push started immediately. The hospital was only 4 minutes away. DH drove as fast as possible as I felt the baby's head basically coming out. I tried not to push. I remember telling him to go through a red light ( not a busy road) .

When we got to the hospital's parking lot, the head was already out and I was trying to pull my pants off. DH parked right in front the ER door and started screaming: " We need a doctor, my wife is delivering the baby right now!".
There was an ambulance right next to our car bringing a patient in. The paramedics opened my door, cut my pants within seconds, and allowed me to push Chloe out the rest of the way.
They had a sheet for us and once she was out, crying- they lowered me down to a stretcher. I was holding onto her while they wheeled us into an ER room. There DH cut the cord and I delivered the placenta. We don't know the exact time she was born. Around 11: 35 Am or so?

I remember having this weird feeling that, i just got to the hospital, to have a baby, but the hard part is over and I don't have to "labor", I don't have to get an IV, no checks on progress... no getting to 10 cm...
I went straight to postpartum room after the ER.
There were suggestions from the nurses, that we name her Van-essa since she was born in a van. No thanks.

In retrospect it was a really nice labor since only 2 hours earlier I was videotaping her sister at a ballet class, going around my business. Not laboring in the hospital room for hours getting pelvic exams from every intern in the facility...
MIL wasn't in a rush and got there about an hour later...
I wish now that I had stayed home instead of rushing to the hospital, it would have been calmer and more comfortable.
Since then I really wanted a home birth and looked into it, but the price tag of almost $ 3,000 is a bit too much when it is free with our insurance to have a hospital birth. I know $ 3, 000 isn't a whole a lot of money, but I would rather spend it on our needs, not wants...
I do get the house ready just in case though. I have a little kit for tying the cord and suctioning the baby, sheets and such...
So that's the story of Chloe's birth. She is 5 years old now and a real sweet and patient child.

lil96's picture
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That is so awesome!

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Great story! She's a beautiful little girl!!!

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Wow, what a birth story! How exciting! And I know how you feel about laboing in the hospital and the constant checks and restrictions. Thanks for sharing!

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Thank you for sharing! I'm so happy your labor was so calm until the very end...Was this your most recent baby?

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"sweetsriracha" wrote:

Thank you for sharing! I'm so happy your labor was so calm until the very end...Was this your most recent baby?

No, I since have had Gabby who is almost 4 and Sebastian who is 2.
Sebastian's birth was different for me b/c I developed a hind leak about a month before he was due. When I went to the hospital to get checked to see why I was so wet all the time, I was not contracting. They did the ferning test and it came back negative ( no leak), but when they did the U/S there was almost no water left. So I was induced.
At some point my uterus wasn't "responding to pitocin" any more and they started threatening C-section. There and then I told myself no way and I started pushing him out. I don't know why, but I just am scared of that surgery. The doctors and nurses yelled at me, but I just pushed anyway at 7 cm.
He came out, I didn't tear, all was well. he was a peanut though.

sweetsriracha's picture
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Wow, so scary! Congratulations on a healthy little guy, though!

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Wow that is amazing!!! I refused to go to L&D with my son to jus.get sent home.so I didn't want to go until it was time LOL I was so set in to that, that I was in denial I was ob labor...granted my Contrax when I went it were about 7 min apart but I was dialating very quickly until I got the epi...I was really wanting to wait until my hubby got home to go in which at that time I was an 8 LOL...I look back and think I could have had him on the road LOL

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"KAYMYA" wrote:

Wow that is amazing!!! I refused to go to L&D with my son to jus.get sent home.so I didn't want to go until it was time LOL I was so set in to that, that I was in denial I was ob labor...granted my Contrax when I went it were about 7 min apart but I was dialating very quickly until I got the epi...I was really wanting to wait until my hubby got home to go in which at that time I was an 8 LOL...I look back and think I could have had him on the road LOL

I completely understand not wanting to get sent home! WOW- did cut it close at 8 cm!

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Amazing stories Asha! I bet with 9 you have a few more stories! It's nice to have someone with so much experience on the BB! And she is really a beautiful little girl

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What an amazing story! It's incredible how fast some babies come! My OB makes all patients do "kick counts", starting around 24 weeks. I have to lay down every day for one hour and get ten kicks in that hour with the time starting when I feel the first kick. If I don't get ten kicks within the hour, I have to get up, drink or eat something, and then lay down and try again. If I still don't get ten kicks within the hour, I am to go straight to labor and delivery, no phone calls or anything, just to go! This simple routine allows you to detect if something is wrong with the baby, or lets you know of when the onset of labor is, as baby will not be nearly as active when labor starts.

This is how I knew to go to the hospital with my first baby, as I got only about 7 kicks within the two hours. I have done the kick counts with all three babies, although I was induced with my second (I was dialated to 5CM at my 39 wk checkup and OB sent me to delivery right away to be induced) and my third (she just hurt me too bad so OB induced me at my request at 39 weeks)... I'm hoping to just go into labor on my own with this baby!

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Fantastic story! I'm also glad of all your hard-earned wisdom to share with us Smile