My biggest fear about this birth is that my Dr is going to be late for the delivery. I keep reading old posts about birthing experinces, and it always seems like the nurses are telling every mom to stop pushing so the Dr has time to arrive.
With my first labour, my Dr showed up 3.5 hours after I felt the urge to push. My body kept involuntarily pushing, I had absolutely no control, and I had four nurses all standing there screaming at me to stop pushing, when it wasn't my fault. By the time my Dr showed up, I was so tired from already having been through labour for 34 hours with 3.5 of those hours being wasted away on waiting for her, that it took me another 3 hours to finally push the baby out. It was horrible. My whole labour was horrible, the nurses were so mean (one nurse wouldn't let me move my legs to relieve my pain, which is so hard to do ), they wouldn't let me try any of the birthing positions I had wanted to try, they wouldn't even believe me that I was in active labour and kept sending me home until I refused to go home and they FINALLY decided to check me for dilation and I was already 8 cm. I hemorhaged almost to the point of death, I had third degree tearing.. They told me that they'd send me home if I didn't take demerol (when I was 8 cm!!!), so I gave in, and I'm ALLERGIC to demerol. I was puking and hallucinating for what seemed like forever. But the worst part of it all was laying there in agony for 3.5 hours, waiting for my Dr to show up, and having nurses yell at me for something I couldn't control.
So I switched Dr's this time, hoping that this one will be a little (okay, A LOT) more timely. I was so happy to see that she was constantly running in and out of her office to drive to the hospital to check on women in labour or deliver babies. She didn't seem concerned about making her patients wait because she had to go and deliver, and that was fine with me! That's what I wanted to see. She told me that if the nurses are being rude to call her and she will come to the hospital just to support me -- thaty I am HER patient and she will be respect all of my wishes and what I want to do to be comfortable and happy. But now she announces to me that she is leaving the country on my due date. Funny enough, this is the same reason my best friend refuses to go to this Dr -- because the week before HER due date (4 years ago), this Dr left the country with little notice. My due date is next Friday... And so if I don't deliver before Thursday, I'll be stuck with a Dr that I have met a few times, but I don't know anything about. I don't know if I'll be a priority or if she's going to make me wait like the last one did, or if she'll try to force me into things I'm not comfortable with.
I really hate this hospital and all you ever hear are horror stories, but the hubby absolutely refuses to let me give birth in one of the other hospitals because they aren't as close to home. I was SO optomistic about this birth, but now that I know my Dr is leaving, I'm terrified that history is going to repeat itself.
For moms -- How long has everyone else had to wait for the Dr to get there? Is it really common to be stuck waiting for a long period of time?
I'm really not comfortable trying to get the ball rolling; I'd rather baby bake until she's ready to come out... So if I'm on time or late and stuck with a different Dr, then I will have to live with it..