First Disagreement with DH..Boy Names UPDATE Post #10!

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First Disagreement with DH..Boy Names UPDATE Post #10!

So, the thought of having 5 boys is exciting! We had never discussed what we would name a boy. DH really wants a Jr. I am so so against this. Every part of me is screaming no to this.

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  • We discussed making our first child a Jr. and both agreed not to for various reasons. The issue never came up with #2, 3 or 4. So when he all of a sudden brought it up with this LO, I was a bit shocked. I believe a Jr. should be your first born son. That's MY opinion...of course, DH's is different.
  • Okay, this reason is a little superficial and silly, but... Every "Jr." I know personally or know of (famous or infamous) is either dead or has major issues in life. My cousin, Jr... "issues". My Uncle "Jr.".... dead, My other uncle "Jr." - On dialysis... I could keep going with my family. What about Martin Luther King Jr? JFK Jr? Bruce Lee Jr? What about Ray Parker Jr?..what ever happened to him?
  • I just can't see me calling my son "Jr." or "Little BJ"! I believe he should have his own identity. His own name.
  • So, I think I'm gonna propose a comprimise. DH's name is Byron, middle name, Gerard. Let's make that a hypenated middle name and work on a first name together. It is his last son..our last child. I think it would be special. I hope he's open to the idea.

    Thanks for letting me vent a little... Smile

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    I think that's a great compromise! Just please, if you do go for a junior in the end, NEVER call him little BJ, the teasing would unbelievable!!!

    turtnjay's picture
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    Lurker...

    I have 4 sons and am expecting again (though don't know the gender but come on, safe bet is boy) and I agree with you.

    Just seems weird to that #5 would be the Jr. And I always had an issue with Jrs because it was kind of like only our first is special enough to have daddy's name. But also, you're right, he kind of already has a name and shoes to fill rather than getting to carve out his own identity.

    I think your compromise is a great idea, even using just one of his names. I hope he agrees!

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    Honestly, have you thought about doing a II (second) instead of Jr? I think it sounds much more dignified... I always hated the Jr. thing, it sounds hillbilly to me lol!

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    What about having your DH's first name as the middle name? That seems like a good compromise.

    My DH was always wanting to name our boys Peter, cause the first boy in every generation in his family was named Peter, but screw that, I hate that name! (Sorry if anyone has a husband/ son/ dad, etc. called Peter.) Blum 3

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    Its actually really uncommon here to name your child fathers name jr . I just find it strange, lol.

    I like the idea of hyphenating the two as middle names.

    ashamom27's picture
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    I agree with you 100% and we never named any of our sons after DH. The closest we got was our third. We gave him same initials as DH. DH's initials are Thomas Edison B. and DS' full name is Timothy Eric B.

    I like your compromise too.

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    Go with your gut Mamma! Hope you're been able to come to a compromise sooner than later - then you'll both have time to get used to it. Smile I'm a fan of real names and unrelated nicknames... if DH really wants J.R. or Junior or lil Byron or BG then that might become his own nickname for #5, but everyone else on the planet will call #5 by his real name.

    Since I was a teen I always thought if I had a little dark-haired girl I'd call her Pepsi :oops:. But I would NEVER actually name a poor kid that, kwim? Wink

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    "Summer05" wrote:

    Go with your gut Mamma! Hope you're been able to come to a compromise sooner than later - then you'll both have time to get used to it. Smile I'm a fan of real names and unrelated nicknames... if DH really wants J.R. or Junior or lil Byron or BG then that might become his own nickname for #5, but everyone else on the planet will call #5 by his real name.

    Since I was a teen I always thought if I had a little dark-haired girl I'd call her Pepsi :oops:. But I would NEVER actually name a poor kid that, kwim? Wink

    Pepsi....omg that is too funny!

    I think you have a great compromise. I too would not want a jr as the last child...or really any child. On a side note I have a cousin that is BJ...I am not really even sure what his full name is and no one has ever made a comment in the family...at school that may have been a dif story.

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    Well, that dissagreement didn't last long! I proposed the compromise of a hyphenated middle name (Byron-Gerard) and DH loved the idea! He likes the fact that his full name will always be a part of this little one. I even suggested some first names I liked...saving my favorite one for last. With each first name suggestion, he would shake his head no...but when I got to the last suggestion, he said he would have to think about it.

    Well, tonight, about 5 minutes after I posted a response to another member's post about baby names, DH calls me to tell me he really likes my first name suggestion! Woo Hoo! That wasn't hard at all! I even told him we have plenty of time to look at other first names, but he was like, "I'm about 98% sure I like this name".

    I did a lot of meditating on this issue..so I am thrilled it did not turn into a major one! Now we have a name...and I can relax and enjoy the rest of this pregnancy!

    Not quite ready to reveal the name yet. I will soon...but I just want to revel in the success of cooperation and compromise! I love my DH! Smile

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    Woo hoo! Virtual high-five Smile

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    Oh man! I so want to hear what you came up with!

    "Starryblue702" wrote:

    Honestly, have you thought about doing a II (second) instead of Jr? I think it sounds much more dignified... I always hated the Jr. thing, it sounds hillbilly to me lol!

    I agree about the 2nd. My brother is the second and not Junior because my mom thought it sounded hillbilly. Also I heard that Jr is reserved for the actual first son of the father, whereas the "second" could be a 2nd or 3rd (or 5th) son or even a grandson/grandfather/cousin/unlce, etc.
    What about if you do Jr, calling him JR (Jay Are, not Junior Lol )

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    Way to go!!!!

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    That's awesome!!

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    That's wonderful to hear!! I can't wait to hear the full name!!

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    "ashamom27" wrote:

    That's wonderful to hear!! I can't wait to hear the full name!!

    WOW, I am so glad you guys agreed and agreed so easily! I also really like the hyphenated middle name. Not to mention that I think Byron is a completely elegant and intelligent name.

    I really understand what you mean about feeling a sense of relaxation after agreeing on a name. SO is more spiritual than I am - he believes that the baby is a complete soul at birth and therefore we should spend a few hours becoming acquainted before bestowing a name. I think thats really quite sweet BUT I WANT TO KNOW HIS NAME RIGHT NOW!