Frustrated and nervous

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babydreamer11's picture
Joined: 01/23/11
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Frustrated and nervous

Well here i am a week later and still no baby... when i went to the docs on Friday she really had me convinced that i would go into labor over the weekend or the beginning of the week... yeah well he's still in there... Monday we did have our first trip to LD... i thought my water broke and after waiting about an hour we decided to head to the hospital .. they hooked me up and did the NST and test my girl parts to see if there was any trace of fluid from the sac.. everything was fine.. so they sent me home.. so now it's going to be Friday tomorrow and i go to the docs and we will find out if they are going to induce me or make me wait some more.. im just getting impatient and nervous cuz im not sure what its going to feel like and im not sure if i want to be induced only cuz at the birthing classes they mentioned that induction can cuz you more pain especially if they have to break your water.. and we are really trying to do this birth with NO drugs... ..i just want to hold him and see him... i know this wont happen but i feel like i will be pregnant forever.. Sad sorry for the vent im just frustrated...

Jenni Beth's picture
Joined: 03/03/11
Posts: 1407

I had an induction 9 days ago. Since it was my first I had no point of reference for the pain level. For me, I did fine until my water broke then the contractions became more intense and came really fast. I had an epi to keep my pain therefore my bp down. I'm not going to sugar coat it...those contractions really hurt. I wonder if I could have tolerated natural contractions better than Cytotec contractions. Don't be upset or disappointed if you have to have that epi. Once I had it I felt so much better through the rest of my labor and since I had a 3rd degree tear I'm glad I couldn't feel anything.

Besides, after you're holding your little bundle you won't care how he got here. Just know you have pain management options and don't feel bad or let anyone else make you feel bad for having to use it. Despite any obstacles you can still choose to be positive about your experience even if it wasn't the one you planned. Good luck. I'm looking forward to seeing pics and hearing your story!

babydreamer11's picture
Joined: 01/23/11
Posts: 155

Thanks Jenni.. i know there is pain management available my concern is i have back problems already and im afraid that it can go in a bunch of directions.. it works fine... it only works on one side of my body.. it doesn't work at all .. or it works and i have problems afterwards.. i have heard and read some stories of years later moms have worse back issue cuz of improper placement and other things.. and i know once i hold him it will be a very distant memory it's just that i wish i had something to reference.. Smile i have had three surgeries and i would have to say my worse one was when i had my gallbladder out and that sucked it hurt so bad... the pain never went away ... if i can handle that im hoping i can get through..

but thanks so much for your support Smile

Jenni Beth's picture
Joined: 03/03/11
Posts: 1407

I had that fear of injury too. But if you listen to your caregivers and be as still as you can then everything will be okay. The only medicine I regret getting was the IV Stadol because it made me feel out of it, mentally. I couldn't focus. And when I tried to sleep it made me have insane dreams. My birth story about my induction is on page 2 or 3 if you want to read more about my experience. I had to have my epi placed twice because the first didn't work.

I understand your apprehension. I was really scared and nervous going to the hospital that night. Just take a deep breath and think about that sweet baby that you get to hold at the end. That is worth all the pain in the world.

melody811's picture
Joined: 02/18/10
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I've had two inductions and didn't get an epidural or any pain meds along the way. It's doable..just remember to not fight the contractions and listen to your body, help it along by relaxing. You can do it, just believe you can.

ashamom27's picture
Joined: 07/06/06
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Try to read up on hypnobirthing. Even without taking the course, you can learn a lot about how your state of mind can help you get through the pain. I had to have pitocin with a whole bunch of my labors and I did not get epidural. however this time, I just choose to try it.

jeepbaby's picture
Joined: 11/08/07
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How frusturating! Hopefully the little guy will decide to come out soon!

babydreamer11's picture
Joined: 01/23/11
Posts: 155

Well we went to the docs this morning and i really havent progressed..so we will have a nst on tues...if i still havent gone into labor i will be induced on friday morning.....uggghhhh.....i just hope and praying he will come before then.....

kmm123's picture
Joined: 12/13/08
Posts: 1839

Well with Evan I went to the doc at 39 w 3 d and had nothing going on at all. Doc said see you next week -- and he did at my delivery Smile So things can change quickly. BUT I remember feeling INSANE waiting. I'm much calmer this time mostly b/c I have no desire to be induced, they'd have to force me in to that for a huge medical reason (and I have none BP is great, baby is fine blah blah) I rather liked it all happening naturally but I did have some pitocin when I stalled and at least for me it wasn't a big deal but I was 8cm and had been in labor for hours so what was a little more?

sandraleigh's picture
Joined: 11/23/06
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I'm sure it's hard to walk around knowing you are 3 cm and nothing is happening! Unfortunately, it happens to lots of women. A lady on the birthing naturally board was walking around at 6-7 cm for days and days, not in labour!

You won't be pregnant forever!

Starryblue702's picture
Joined: 04/06/11
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First off, happy due date!! I'm sorry that you are feeling so uncomfortable... I know the feeling! I was going to suggest, if you're dialated some already, you can always ask to be induced, just without the pit. They can manually break your water (which does hurt, but nothing that you can't handle, especially if you're trying to go naturally!), and see if your cervex contracts on it's own. If it doesn't they'll want to give you pit, which does make your contractions worse. But just remember, baby needs to be delivered within 24 hours of your water breaking to avoid infection. Just some things you might want to talk about with your doc! Good luck!