So, you all know I really really really (do I sound like a little kid right now? LOL!) want a water birth. I'm still striving for this ... but it looks like cost may be an issue for me. My husband can't see us spending thousands of dollars..money that could buy us a second car or help buy the things we need for the baby and our other boys for an "experience that will only last hours"..in his words. DH is disabled (recovering from a stroke he had in 2008...partially paralyzed on his left side) and he feels he can contribute to my labor and delivery more if we were in a hospital, than a birth center (don't understand his logic..but I'm not gonna argue with him)
While we are weighing the pros and cons of water birth costs and logistics, I have completely accepted the possibility that it may not happen and I may give birth in a hospital. I've had two medicated and two unmedicated births. While all four births were vaginal and they came out healthy (minus a couple with jaundice...I suspect because they clamped and cut the cord too soon..but that's another issue), I gave birth the way the nurses and doctor's told me to. I know I have rights..and can refuse certain interventions if I choose, but when you are in the middle of transition and contractions, it's hard to advocate for yourself.
I met with my doula this week and we had a wonderful talk about hospital births. It made me realize that just like I took charge of my fertility (after two losses, I never gave up!) I can take charge of my birth experience in a hospital as well. It's been almost 10 years since I have given birth in a hospital..and I know a lot has changed.
There are so many things I know I don't want... IV's, manual cervical checks, fetal monitoring (I hate being strapped to that thing!), all of that counting and yelling for me to push...or not push, immediate cord clamping and cutting. So many things I DO want: Freedom to move around, freedom to eat or have more than ice chips, to deliver in squatting position with a birth stool if I want, to allow my body to dictate when I push..if I push (baby #3 for me just literally slid out! LOL!), to delay cord clamping until it stops pulsating. The list continues..
I know things can happen...but even when they do, sometimes natural methods work before the medical ones. However if baby is in distress...true distress, then my wishes are not important. Do whatever you need to do to save baby!
I'm reading "The Thinking Woman's Guide to a Better Birth", by Henci Goer. It has great information on interventions done in hospitals and what I can do to avoid them as much as possible. It's so important to me..with this being my last child, that this birth experience is what I want as much as possible. I'll keep you updated on what my birth plan will eventually be...
Well, if you've gotten this far, you must be bored! LOL! Thanks for reading and please, chime in with your thoughts!