Hypnobabies - Birthing Differently this Time

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TLotus's picture
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Hypnobabies - Birthing Differently this Time

Of my four previous birthing experiences, 2 were unmedicated, 2 were with epidural, all four were in the hospital. My longest birth was my first child, 19 years ago (and I was 19 years old). I was induced and in labor for 18 hours. My shortest birth was #3 at 4 hours.

Something that really bugs me is how some labor nurses and doctors like to yell and encourage you to "purple push" to the count of 10. Provided the baby and mother are both doing well, there is no need for this kind of "encouragement". I believe my body knows what it's doing... The only noise I want to hear is my own if I choose to make any.

Since this is my fifth and final, I want to try something different. I just got the Hypnobabies home study course (different from Hypnobirthing). As a Buddhist and a constant "meditator", I think this self hypnosis course is right up my alley!

I'm starting week one today... I'm excited. I will keep you all posted on the progress. Smile

For those BTDT moms, will you do anything different this time around?

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I had a really lovely first birth experience overall. I have no major complaints. I stayed home until 8cm the nurses were very nice once I got there but I did stall and spend a couple hours at 9cm a little pitocin moved me along with no major pain. I did it all unmedicated and delivered a 9lb baby with two very small first degree tears. I took a shower about 45 minutes after he was born and ate the most amazing meal of Wendy's shortly after that LOL! My only complaint is that protocol was IV fluids so IMO part of my stalling was that it was really hard to walk around with a pole and IV. Now I was Group B + so I needed the antibiotics (and I'm ok with that again if I test + again) but this go around I am going to discuss with my doc refusing fluids. I didn't need them, I don't mind if they put the IV catheter in my hand and leave it there in case of emergency (I am kind of a prepare for the worst just in case sort of gal) but I do NOT want to be hooked up to the pole the whole time I'm there. It's too confining. If my doctor really seems to have a problem with this request I will research my other options but that will then require me to go to a hospital at a minimum of 40 minutes away which might actually be harder on my family than the IV will be on me. Sooooo we shall see - my other thought is if I just flat refuse at the hospital they can't make me it's my body. So I may just warn my doc I intend to refuse, period.

The only other thing I want to discuss with him is going home after 24 hours if all is well with my health and the baby's. Protocol is 48 hours but holy god I was bored with Evan. The morning of the second day I got up, showered again, made my bed, and read a book while he nursed. I'm going to go absolutely buck wild stir crazy if Evan and DH and my dogs are all home and I'm stuck for 48 hours at a hospital. Now if there's something wrong that's different but if we're all healthy I want to go home after 24! That's long enough!

Those are my issues to take up next week with my doc - who is a great guy but a man of few words....we shall see!

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I really wish I had extra money to try hypnobabies! I totally believe in power of your thoughts to help you with the pain management. I think it is awesome that you are doing it! I try to visualize and hum when I am in labor, but I know it's just the little snippet of what hybnobabies offer.

Keep us posted on your progress- maybe post some tips?

As for my birthing experiences- I had too many to list. my favorite one was with my second, it was all natural and the nurse was so wonderful. She set the mood and talked me through it.

I also had one painless labor when I didn't know the baby was coming until transition. I delivered my DD in the car. It was completely pain free.

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The only thing I'll hopefully be doing differently is going into labor on my own. I delivered all three babies at the same hospital (which I love, and will be there again with this one), but only baby #1 came when he was supposed to. I went into labor around 10PM and he was born at 7:38AM.

With my second son, I went for my OB appt at 39 wks 2 days, and when she checked my cervix I was already dialted 5 CM although I wasn't having any contractions or pain. She wanted to induce me ASAP because if I was at home and my water broke she thought I might not make it to the hospital in time.

With my daughter, I was in a lot of pain the last month, especially walking around. There was so much pressure, it felt like she was going to fall our and hurt a lot. I also had a bad case of carpal tunnel syndrome, so I begged my OB to induce me a week early because I couldn't take it anymore and she did.

I'm really hoping to go the distance with this baby and let her come on her own, as this is my fourth baby and I know that typically labor with a fourth is pretty short! Hey, as long as there's enough time for me to get an epidural I'm cool, lol!

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I would love to do hypnobabies! With my first I didnt believe in myself and got the epidural right away. With my second I was progressing slow and the nurse convinced me I would be too tired to push and would probably end up with a c section if I didnt get the epidural to get some rest.With my last I was NOT getting one.I took my ipod and ignored everyone in the room.I moved around a little more which helped things moved faster. I was about 6cm and they lost Joshs heartrate.At that point I lost all ability to focus the fear took over and I was unable to breath even.I had an anexity attack and my Dr insisted I get the epidural so that we could get the pain under control so I could calm down. Got the epidural and 10 minutes later he was born.What a waste.This time I am again hoping to get a natural birth but I guess we will see. You will have to tell us how things go.

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"kmm123" wrote:

The only other thing I want to discuss with him is going home after 24 hours if all is well with my health and the baby's. Protocol is 48 hours but holy god I was bored with Evan. The morning of the second day I got up, showered again, made my bed, and read a book while he nursed. I'm going to go absolutely buck wild stir crazy if Evan and DH and my dogs are all home and I'm stuck for 48 hours at a hospital. Now if there's something wrong that's different but if we're all healthy I want to go home after 24! That's long enough!

Those are my issues to take up next week with my doc - who is a great guy but a man of few words....we shall see!

I did just over 24 with both my older ones and with my youngest I had him at 10 pm on the 9th and went home at 1045 on the 10th lol. I wanted to go home at 9 am and they wouldnt let me take the baby then cause of a test that he had to have at 24 hours.I will probably get home as soon as possible again this time just cause it is so much more comfortable at home.

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A friend gave me a hypno babies book - if anyone is interested in it I could mail it to them. I'm a wing it sort.....I went in to labor doing whatever worked LOL No classes and books on techniques do nothing for me. As DH says "I do everything my way anyway" haha

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I got the epi last time around and would like to not get it this time I got it at and 7-8 last time and I blame it for stalling me for 7 hours even with the pit...it made me crazy not being able to walk right away and then after the took my catheter out I felt my bladder so full and physicaly couldn't go and triedfor a half hour to go when I.finally went it was so much...hated being confined to the bed for a while too

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"kmm123" wrote:

A friend gave me a hypno babies book - if anyone is interested in it I could mail it to them. I'm a wing it sort.....I went in to labor doing whatever worked LOL No classes and books on techniques do nothing for me. As DH says "I do everything my way anyway" haha

I would love to look over that book.I could then pass it on to someone else who was intrested too.I will inbox my adress to you if noone has responded.

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I think the only thing I will change this time round is once baby is here I would love to go home as soon as I can. Last time we spent 48hrs at the birthing unit, it's not mandatory but as younger first time parents we felt the need to stay longer.

I hope to have another water birth, I didn't go in with a birth plan nor did we attend antenatal classes - Like Katie I tend to wing things and go with the flow. We will be birthing at another unit since we have moved town but it looks quite nice and they have big baths there Smile

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I am delivering at a different hospital this time and they have big bath tubs.My dr wont do a water birth but I can labor in the water which would be nice to try.I have always wanted a water birth.

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PM me and I'll send it out to you! I have no idea if it's the most recent edition etc but it certainly can't hurt to have if you're interested! Just let me know your address and I'll mail it next week.

I have never been interested in laboring in a tub. For some reason there is nothing soothing about that idea to me. I don't like baths much though at any time, they just ick me out for some reason. I also didn't get the epi b/c I'm a complete control freak and I didn't want be unable to get up. As one of my friends pointed out at some point you're pushing and not getting up anyway which is true but for me I knew I COULD and for whatever reason that was more important than not feeling the pain lol But if for some reason this go around the pain was uncontrollable and I was miserable I'd have no problem opt'ing for an epi I have no huge attachment to natural, it worked well with Evan and I hope it does again but if not I'll do whatever feels right at the time.

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I totally started looking at Portland birth centers within the first hour SO and I were pleasantly surprised by the positive pregnancy test a few months ago....

I have the hypnobirthing book. I'm probably not paying for the class, but I've been moderately successful at developing a daily practice. I'm getting about an "A-" on visualizing before bed/daily affirmations...

But I also know this is my first child. Lots of people (both with and without children) have told me they are certain birth isn't possible without an epidural. I know it is, and unless some complications arise I'm birthing in a place where I can have a tub, my favorite music, acupuncture but epidurals just aren't an option. We'll see how this goes!

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"Nikerz20" wrote:

I think the only thing I will change this time round is once baby is here I would love to go home as soon as I can. Last time we spent 48hrs at the birthing unit, it's not mandatory but as younger first time parents we felt the need to stay longer.

I hope to have another water birth, I didn't go in with a birth plan nor did we attend antenatal classes - Like Katie I tend to wing things and go with the flow. We will be birthing at another unit since we have moved town but it looks quite nice and they have big baths there Smile

That's a nice hospital! I delivered all three of mine at the same hospital and their policy is to boot you out 24 hours after baby arrives (unless there's a problem, of course)! Thank God all of my babies were given the health green light and we got to leave the next day, I hate laying around in there after baby comes, I just want to take them home and kiss them all day!

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Tamara,

The hypnobabies sounds very intriguing...I am now investigating it myself! I'm embarrassed to say I hadn't heard of it before. Please keep us up to date on how it is going for you!

I may join you in getting the study at home package!

Thanks for sharing...

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Side note (sort of) I've found the perfect song to incorporate into my hypnobirthing practice. I like the positivity:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ouw_ZaGWBpU

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"ashamom27" wrote:

I really wish I had extra money to try hypnobabies! I totally believe in power of your thoughts to help you with the pain management. I think it is awesome that you are doing it! I try to visualize and hum when I am in labor, but I know it's just the little snippet of what hybnobabies offer.

Keep us posted on your progress- maybe post some tips?

I will start a new thread next week and update it weekly for anyone who is interested. I want to try the cd's for a few days and get a feel of what is to come. So far, so good though!

"Mommy 4 real" wrote:

Tamara,

The hypnobabies sounds very intriguing...I am now investigating it myself! I'm embarrassed to say I hadn't heard of it before. Please keep us up to date on how it is going for you!

I may join you in getting the study at home package!

Thanks for sharing...

I am loving listening to the CD's and the Daily Pregnancy Affirmations. Would love a hypnobabies buddy...or a few! LOL!

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I will have to look into this...sounds very interesting. I too really believe in meditation and positive thinking. And anything that can keep me calm is great! Yes, please keep us updated.