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angelover02740's picture
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im back from my appt

First the mw was awesome I really liked her. she did say the brown spotting is old blood which she didnt seem concerned. I asked about having an ultrasound since i was nervous and she pulled some strings and got me one before i left since they dont do it in the office.

the ultrasound didnt go very well. Sad They did see a sac but that's it nothing else in it. He said if im right on my dates then we should of already seen a baby with a heartbeat and there wasnt even a yolk in it. some im so sad right now he did tell me to check my hcg in 48 hrs and see if they are going down or going up if they are going down then he expects a miscarriage. the computer shows the sac at 5w2d. He did see a pool of blood next to the sac which could be the cause of the spotting. So i guess in 2 days i'll know def what is going on. but not seeing anything in that sac I pretty certain this is over.

I knew right from the beginning that something just wasnt right and I guess I was right.

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I am so sorry that there wasn't better news at the ultrasound Sad It may very well be that you are off on your dates. Let's hope.
I will keep you in y thoughts hoping that your Hcg levels are going up!!!
(((HUGS)))

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Oh no Karen, I am so sorry to hear the u/s didn't give you piece of mind. I will continue to send you all my thoughts and prayers and I really hope your betas continue to double.

{{{hugs}}}

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:bigarmhug:

so sorry the u/s didn't go better. i know how stressful that is. i'll be thinking of you.

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Oh, I'm so sorry. I know what you're going through right now, unfortunately. My first pregnancy was similar. Let us know how it goes the next few days. :bigarmhug:

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thanks girls i'll let you know how the hcg goes

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KUP. This sounds like me in Oct. Pm me if you want. It is hard to wait. :hugs:

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:bigarmhug: I'm so sorry the u/s didn't go well Sad Please keep us posted.

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I'm sorry the u/s didn't go better. It is a horrible feeling when you realize they aren't seeing what they expect to see on the u/s.

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*lurker*
Karen sorry that the scan didn't go better. Please KUP on the beta...((HUGS))

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I'm so sorry Karen...I hope the dates are just wrong... (Prayers and Hugs)

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Oh Karen I am so sorry. Sending huge hugs to you and I am praying for you.

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Oh Karen, I'm so sorry for the devastating news. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

Shea

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Karen.. I'm so sorry. I'm hoping and praying that your dates are just off. KUP! >

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So sorry you didn't get good news Karen. Sad

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I am so sorry Karen! I'll say a prayer for you tonight.

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That is really surprising. I didn't expect to hear that at all.
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I'm so sorry.
I know how hard this is.
If you need to chat please pm me.
KUP I really hope your dates are off.
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:bigarmhug: Oh Karen I was not expecting to see this kind of post from you Sad :( Sad I'm so sorry.

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Thinking of you today :bigarmhug:

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thanks girls for all your nice posts. I tried to keep it strong yesterday which I did until about 9 pm and then I had an emotional meltdown about the whole situation. I feel upset since it took us 6 months to conceive and then we finally do and it doesnt work out. So now I have to wait until my body decides to miscarry natural and god knows how long that will take and TTC again. Im not keeping my hopes up about my hcg level tomorrow by looking at the ultrasound I know there is no hope. I know im right about my dates since I had charted

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I wish I had the right words.
I totally understand what you are going through.
Last year i went through nearly the same.
I found out as I had started to miscarry naturally but my body didn't do as it was supposed to and it sadly dragged out for a nearly 2 months for me.
I am really hoping that you o'd late and maybe have a tilted uterus or something.
Maybe it doesn't help when others are so hopeful.
PM me if you need to okay?
I would pm you, but don't want to intrude on you.

Hugs.
They don't help much but know there are shoulders here for you.
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Sad did your mw recommend the miscarry naturally? My doc gave me the option of an d&c. I was glad I did. It was a slow process. Others I have talked to said there took a while too as Liz had said. It can be emotionally draining. I bleed slowly for the 3 days until the d&c and had awful back pain like labor pains. After I had the d&c I did not have a period for 2 months and had to take provera to start one. Your dates are very similar to mine. I just kept trying to tell myself, it wasn't meant to be for some reason that I may never know. Please PM me if you want to talk.

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@ Liz you can pm me anytime I have never gone through a miscarriage so i have no idea what to expect. They havent talked about anything to do with miscarriages because they want to see what my hcg levels look like.

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I've pmed you Karen.
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Karen, so sorry Sad Miscarrying naturally can be painful and drawn out but much better in the long run (so I've been told) as far as TTC again and such. I totally hear ya about the meltdowns, it's hard to keep up a brave face when inside you know things are not as they should be.

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Karen, I'm so very sorry. Sad *hugehugs*

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I am truly so very sorry!!!! I hope you get your miracle today. If you are going to m/c I have had 6 - one D&C and the rest naturally. I can tell you that they are all different. With my the D&C I had a hard time because I was PG when they put me to sleep and not when I woke up and it was done. I had a hard time moving on. When I m/c naturally I feel I get to say good bye and deal with it. But I have friends that are the opposite. I think that for each person and each PG you need to find what is right for you. Take care and if I can help I am here!

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"MelanieP" wrote:

I am truly so very sorry!!!! I hope you get your miracle today. If you are going to m/c I have had 6 - one D&C and the rest naturally. I can tell you that they are all different. With my the D&C I had a hard time because I was PG when they put me to sleep and not when I woke up and it was done. I had a hard time moving on. When I m/c naturally I feel I get to say good bye and deal with it. But I have friends that are the opposite. I think that for each person and each PG you need to find what is right for you. Take care and if I can help I am here!

they put you to sleep when you have a d&C?

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this is exactly what happened to me, on the dot, so please please dont lose hope yet! try to stay calm, i know its hard.

big hugs!

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"angelover02740" wrote:

they put you to sleep when you have a d&C?

Yes, they do. It's a real surgery. You can't eat from midnight on the previous night, they prep you and then you go under.
When I woke up I felt OK, but like Melanie said- I felt like I should have let my body do it to get closure. It's strange.
Anyway, that's if you need the D&C.

Any update on the Hcg levels?

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When I had a similar experience, after the missed miscarriage was confirmed by my HCG going down, I had a D&C. It was what they called "twilight sedation", but I don't remember anything at all. My experience was that it was like being totally out, but it's not the same as general anaesthesia. At the time, my OB pushed the D&C, telling me about risks of hemorage, but since then, I've read a little bit about the risks, and I think I might ask some more about possibly having a natural m/c instead if I ever go down this road again. Feel free to PM me or ask here if you have any questions about my experience. My missed m/c was discovered at a 10.5 week u/s, and the D&C was at 11 weeks.