Laszlo's 2 month CU (LONG!)

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sweetsriracha's picture
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Laszlo's 2 month CU (LONG!)

We had Laszlo's 2 month check up yesterday! He's hit all of his milestones for two months (and according to my copy of What to Expect the First Year, all of his three month ones, too!). His latest tricks are pushing himself up at a 90 degree angle during tummy time (like the yoga pose cobra) and grabbing my hair.

He weighed in at 11 lbs 13 ounces and was 23 inches long, and his head is now 17 inches around. I'm still at PP weight, which means I exited the holidays with zero gained or lost.

I was frankly surprised that he wasn't heavier. He actually only gained 1 lb in the last three weeks. The practitioner was really pleased since he's so healthy, but Warren and I realized we're still a little concerned.

We're still doing breastfeeding with about a 2-3 ounce supplement afterwards. After the appointment, we've bumped it up to about a 4 ounce supplement. His latch is PERSISTENTLY shallow (and he doesn't have either a lip or tongue tie), and I'm really beginning to wonder if he's just incredibly inefficient and virtually all of the breastmilk he gets is from my pumping yields.

I'm honestly really, really tempted to quit breastfeeding. I know that the small amount of breastmilk he gets from me is really valuable, but I have to work SO hard (2 hours total a day on the pump, 9 fenugreek tablets a day) to get that amount. Everyone around me supports me stopping and formula feeding, and I do believe that I've literally tried everything humanly possible (except for a non-fda approve pharmaceutical domperidone) but I just don't know...thoughts?

kmm123's picture
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I always tell everyone to do whatever is best for them. I can say for me I'd do everything on earth to BF -- and if I were you I'd probably be willing to stop. You've done it all, you've worked incredibly hard, but you know medically you probably won't produce enough. I have to believe it's entirely possible that if you don't produce very much he's not very interested in nursing - why would he be ya know? I am super pro-BF'ing, and I'm pro moms doing whatever works for them. For me personally I'd do everything I could to BF and from all you've said you have - everything and more than most and you've made it 2 long months doing it. I wouldn't personally take non-approved drugs. Just not my thing. I'd rather use formula. And if that's the route you go I think you should be extremely proud of how hard you tried, all you did and the healthy happy little boy you have! If you want to keep pumping and working at it every drop will be valuable.

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You are doing such an amazing job with sticking to bfing! I'm so proud of you! I felt so torn about quitting so I know exactly how you feel. Ultimately, it was better for my mental wellbeing if I just ff him instead. It was a hard decision but once I started I never looked back. Carter is thriving and meeting all his milestones...and even doing some things EARLY! So if you choose to give it up and go to just formula, don't feel bad. Every drop of breast milk you give him is so beneficial and you've already done a great job. Think about what you want to do and then just go with it. I still get plenty of bonding with Carter when we do skin to skin, which is the part of bfing that I missed the most. KUP on what you choose to do!

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I think you've done an amazing job with BF Jasmine!! Can I ask (sorry, I didn't read it anywhere else although I'm sure you've posted about it in the past!) what's going on with your supply? Are you just not producing enough for him? I know how hard it is to want to BF them so badly and just not be able to do it because of the supply. This was my problem with my first three babies actually. Maybe I was just too young and didn't do any reseach on the subject (which was probably the case), but it wasn't something that went well for me at all. I was maybe able to exclusively BF for a few weeks for each of them. I always had a pump, and I pumped what I could and did that until 3-4 months, but during those months they were also drinking formula. I think another big problem was nipple confusion, because it wasn't until these amazing Tomee Tippee bottles that are more shaped like a mother's breast that I was able to bottle feed and BF! Trystsan has been doing both, as I'm back to work. I was super concerned that the same thing would happen to him... that he wouldn't want to BF with me anymore because he was getting a bottle when I wasn't around, but he's doing great with both! Anyway (sorry I'm long winded lol), in the end you have to do what's best for you and your little man. He'll be just fine with formula, as all of my other babies were! But, there is something special about knowing baby is getting your milk as well... I would be just as torn as you are...

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:lurk:

You don't know me from Adam Blum 3 But I wanted to say that tomorrow, in fact, i will be celebrating the 18 month nursing milestone with my Son. We supplemented from Day 1 all the way to a year old. I had low supply..took fenugreek, blessed thistle, marshmallow root, fennel, (and more crap I can't remember) AND Max dose Domperidone. And pumped. And nursed. Dalton also had (still does, in fact) a shallow latch. At a year I ditched all the herbs and meds, and low and behold here we are! still going strong!

Just wanted to say, that I TOTALLY understand where you are at right now :bigarmhug: And nursing is just SO much more than nutrition!! My little guy and I have a bond stronger than I could have ever imagined. Stay strong! You are doing AMAZING!

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"girlisrad" wrote:

:lurk:

You don't know me from Adam Blum 3 But I wanted to say that tomorrow, in fact, i will be celebrating the 18 month nursing milestone with my Son. We supplemented from Day 1 all the way to a year old. I had low supply..took fenugreek, blessed thistle, marshmallow root, fennel, (and more crap I can't remember) AND Max dose Domperidone. And pumped. And nursed. Dalton also had (still does, in fact) a shallow latch. At a year I ditched all the herbs and meds, and low and behold here we are! still going strong!

Just wanted to say, that I TOTALLY understand where you are at right now :bigarmhug: And nursing is just SO much more than nutrition!! My little guy and I have a bond stronger than I could have ever imagined. Stay strong! You are doing AMAZING!

Awesome post!!

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"Starryblue702" wrote:

Awesome post!!

Summer05's picture
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Way to grow Lazlo and way to go Jasmine! Sounds like you've got BF'ing good support and nobody is pressuring you either way which is good so you can make the decision that is right for you.

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Joined: 03/29/11
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Thanks for the support and feedback! FWIW, I'm not going the domperidone route...mostly because one of the side effects is weight gain! I am also glad that people around me are so supportive of any choice I make in this situation.

@Krystal, I was diagnosed by an IBCLC and a Physician with hypoplasia or Insufficient glandular tissue (IGT)...I'm one of the rare cases where the breast tissue didn't develop correctly as a teen. Sad With pumping and herbs I've been able to get my supply up significantly, but that for me means making about 8-12 ounces per day total.

@Joey- thank you for the encouragement! I think you hit the nail on the head. I was making a list of pros and cons and I realized that even though breastfeeding isn't the most efficient way to feed my baby, I'm not quite ready to stop. My life is a mess of breastfeeding sessions, bottles of herbs, washing bottles, bottle feeding and pumping, but I'm choosing to continue indefinitely. I'd LOVE to hit 18 months, but I'm not going to beat myself up if we don't get there.

I've learned loads being Laszlo's Mama...and I think my biggest lesson thus far is that you really can't judge! Formula feeding, breastfeeding, c-sections, natural births, attachment parenting, etc - children just need love to thrive and we all do the best we can1

Thank you again for the support!

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What a big boy! Glad to hear he is doing great! I hope you figure out what is best for you, with my first breast feeding just didn't work for us. DS and I just didn't get the hang of it so I went to formula, with DS2 I BF for 15 months. You just have to do whatever works for you.

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