OK, who's had sex already?! (xp)

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Starryblue702's picture
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OK, who's had sex already?! (xp)

So I know it's no big surprise to you girls that I'm totally crazy with hormones and want to jump DH's bones lol! Trystan will be three weeks old tomorrow, and I know the Dr always says to wait six weeks, but I just don't see why!!!?? I had no tears or any problems down there... the baby came out in one push so it's not like my va-jay-jay went through too horrible of an experience during L&D! Six weeks is the standard time frame for EVERY woman, and I just don't see the need to wait that long when everything feels perfectly fine down there! DH won't come near me, and every time we start doing anything more than a little peck of a kiss, he backs off and says that he wants to stop! He's like, "I can't believe you're getting mad at me for looking our for your well being and making sure you're completely healed before we do anything!" I don't care about whatever mumbo-jumbo he's talking about, I just want some sex and I can't believe he's holding out on me! So here's my question to you ladies that are BTDT moms... did you wait the full six weeks to DTD, or did you go ahead when you felt OK before your time was up? Do you think it matters either way?

Jenni Beth's picture
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Well I'm 7 weeks pp but still haven't DTD yet. But that is because AF started back (9 days ago, sigh) and I'm feeling crampy. I wouldn't have tried having sex any sooner anyway because I had a bad tear. You sound like you're feeling pretty good and your body might be ready. I hope you can talk hubby into it Wink

sweetsriracha's picture
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LOL, I almost posted this same thread.

We did, on Saturday - so we were approximately 4.5 weeks PP. It was much better than I thought it would be Smile

brady_bunch_plus_one's picture
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We have several times actually. As soon as I stopped bleeding (2 weeks 3 days) we DTD. Which cuased some bleeding that night but it went away pretty quick. We have been DTD every other night or so since. I think I am having AF now so we are waiting but I had a simple delivery with no tears or cutting and felt ok.We took things slow and it did hurt a little if he went in too far( TMI sorry) so we just had to take things slow.

MelanieP's picture
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We have too but I had a c-section. Hope DH sees it your way soon Smile

TLotus's picture
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Devin is 3 weeks 2 days. DH and I haven't DTD yet. I haven't had the energy. I have had my first postpartum orgasm, though...wasn't as mindblowing as when I was pg!

Really don't want to DTD until I get my ParaGuard in 3 weeks. As fertile as we are, I don't want another suprise little one! LOL!

Summer05's picture
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2nd degree tear. We are 6 weeks postpartum on Thursday so I am waiting for the Doctor to check me out later this week at my first follow-up appointment, he will probably do a pap. I feel like I've healed up around 3 weeks PP, but then was dealing with what I assume to be a mild roid, so really there's not much desire over here anyway. I'm a little nervous about penetration. Previously with DD and 3rd degree tear I wasn't even thinking about it for like months, then it was painful right up to 6 months postpartum and caused more frustration and emotions than it was worth (obviously that is what is making me nervous this time).

lily0624's picture
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omg helllll no! i have zero desire to have sex....like ever again!

Jenni Beth's picture
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"lily0624" wrote:

omg helllll no! i have zero desire to have sex....like ever again!

lol Nancy!

I think I win the award for vagina that suffered the most damage during delivery. I can't see me having sex for a long time.

aimee05's picture
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I'm almost 3 weeks pp with a csection and I sometimes get the feeling of wanting to DTD but won't even chance it! I'm still occasionally taking pain medication for my incision and I can't imagine doing it right now. But if you feel ready I don't see why not, you know your body better than anyone else.

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"lily0624" wrote:

omg helllll no! i have zero desire to have sex....like ever again!

LMAO! You poor thing! And you too, Jenni... I felt just like you did after I had my first. I had an epesiotomy and tore twice on the inside (it took almost an hour to stich everything up)! But if it makes you feel any better, I never tore or needed to be cut with any other baby after that!

So still no sex for me! I'm so annoyed I can't even tell you. He went out and bought four different types of condoms the other night... and then NOTHING!!! I don't think I've ever been this sexually frustrated! I just don't understand what his problem is? Like I said on the December board, I think I'm just gonna lie and tell him that I called the OB and asked if sex was OK and tell him that they said yes!!! Lol I know it's a low blow, but I don't know what else to do! At least I've stopped bleeding, so I know it's safe in that regard, and we have birth control... so I really don't see what the big freaking deal is...