Super pissed (non baby related, xp)

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Starryblue702's picture
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Super pissed (non baby related, xp)

So for a few years now I've wanted to have my son Maximus tested for autism/asperbers syndrome, but have put it off because I don't want him to be "labeled" by anyone. Don't get me wrong, if he does have one of these problems, it's at the very end of the spectrum, as his symptoms are miniscule. He's highly intelligent, but just has some behavioral problems that are especially coming out now that he's in school all day and around others besides family. So in keeping with trying to make a long story short, this year, by the grace of God, he was put with a wonderful teacher. I'm telling you girls, she is a blessing, and is so wonderful and patient with him. She used to nanny for a child that had a slight form of autism, and recognized some of his signs right away. Since school started she has been very open in communication with us on ways she's helping him in class, from rubbing his back to calm him down (he rocks and hums without knowing it sometimes) to getting him a squishy stress release ball to hold in class during reading times to keep him calm. She is just the most amazing teacher I've ever met, and I couldn't be happier. Well, yesterday when I showed up at school to pick up my boys and I ask her (as I always do) how he did, she started crying. Turns out, her and another teacher have been let go (not fired, but are being transfered to another school... because they were the last hired so they're the first fired) and I am furious. I hate hate HATE this "last hired, first fired" rule, I think it's absolutely ridiculous. I know for a fact that there are teachers in that school that couldn't care less about the kids, and think that they all should fit in to this "cookie cutter" make believe child form that all behave the same and are smart. My oldest child is fine with a teacher like this, because he's very bright and always makes straight As, behaves perfectly... no issues. But every child is different, and some kids are born with behavioral issues that they just can't help, and so many teachers just label these kids, like my Max, as the "trouble-makers." I started crying right there with her, telling her that I wanted to go and scream at the principal, the school district, and anyone else that had anything to do with what happened to her. I can't believe that this is happening, that my son who has fallen in love with his teacher the past 6 weeks of school is going to have his class split up and just shoved onto another teacher that knows nothing about the work that we have been doing with Max to get him comfortable in the classroom. I'm seeing red I'm so pissed off about this, and more about the fact that there's nothing that I can do about it. DH called the school district superintendent and spoke with them a little bit yesterday, but they said that these are administrative calls (the principal at the school) and that the best thing to do is to talk to them. So he made an appt with the principal for Monday morning. I'm sure it won't do one bit of good, but at least we can get our points made... that we are outraged that something like this could happen, and how we do not want her moved anywhere else. This November there is a new question on the ballot that supports letting go the "bad" teachers first, no matter how long they've been employed, instead of the first hired. And like I said, it's not like any of them are fired, just moved around (which I think is ridiculous as well, if they are consistantly bad and not teaching the students anything, just freaking fire them!!! Sorry, that's a whole other debate entirely...). I'm sorry this is so long, but I can't believe this is happening, especially to my six year old first grader who needs Mrs. Aguirre.

kmm123's picture
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:bigarmhug: so sorry! I'm guessing there's no way to transfer your son along with her? I lived in a fairly small district so the elementary schools weren't that far apart I knew a few kids who switched elementary schools. Parents were responsible for transportation as they no longer fell on bus routes but if they could handle it kids could attend whatever elementary school the parents wanted.....

Joined: 02/20/11
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My daycare did that to my daughter... Yanked her out if her group and put her into a new one. We now have behavioural problems that aren't getting any better.

I'm a teacher and our union is strong. They do let go of the new teachers first but do it in the summer before bew classes are assigned. That way the kids aren't effected. As for firing the bad teachers it has never happened in the history if our school boardvqhich disgust me. I saw a teacher punch a whole through the wall and nothing happened.

I must admit, I like my job stability, but as a professional, it erks me that there are no professional standards I need to be held up to. It devalues our jobs and jeopardizes childrens well beings and futures.

If the option to transfer your child exists, do make sure to weigh the pros and cons of keeping his teacher vs. Changing his environment and friends. It's a tough call. I'm sorry you are in this situation, your heart must be breaking.

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I'm so sorry this is happening to your family. It shouldn't be this way for your son and I hate hate hate that this story isn't unique at all. This last hired, first fired BS in schools is something I take very personally. Teachers unions have been detrimental to our family and we've been better off finding one-year contracts at private schools.

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I am so sorry especially because you had just fell in love with her! I can completely relate to the loving teacher situation, our old principal was excellent in finding the "good ones" and bringing them into our kids' school- which was full of some older, somewhat jaded teachers ( the mentality kind of spread and poisoned the atmosphere). Then the wonderful principal left and we have this woman without a heart in place...

So, do fight for Mrs. Aguirre- let them know what you told us, maybe, just maybe a miracle will happen! I will keep my fingers crossed!

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I just wanted to add that you should put it in writing and send it to the superindendent, the principal and the teacher. Even if you lose your battle that letter will mean the world to the teacher.

Summer05's picture
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Boooo. So sorry you're going through this, it's so unfair and just after school is back in is ridiculous. Hope you have some sort of success through your letters and visits.

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Thanks for the support girls!

"Freesia34" wrote:

I just wanted to add that you should put it in writing and send it to the superindendent, the principal and the teacher. Even if you lose your battle that letter will mean the world to the teacher.

Well, we have an appt with the principal on Monday morning. I'm sure it won't do one bit of good, but at least we can get our voices heard. I went out and bought her a card and wrote her a "book" inside thanking her and telling her how wonderful she's been with Max and how much we appreciate her and will miss her. She thanked me profusely yesterday after school, and we stood in tears again as I told her that we're trying to fight for her by calling the superintendent and meeting with the principal. She was touched by that, but seemed to be resigned to the fact that it wouldn't help anything, which I'm sure it won't. Oh well... such is life...

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If you are really ticked off, send that letter to the newspaper!

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I am so glad that you are trying to get heard. Having these special teachers are so important to all kids but especially to those extra special kids. I have been so blessed to have teachers that have been so amazing with my son...it would suck to loose one of them. I would be ticked off too. Keep us posted on how it goes on Monday