My girlfriend called me last night and was telling me about her son's diaper rash and how bad it was and how his poor little butt hole was bleeding!! Then she proceeds to tell me how fussy he is and how he has to take all kinds of diff medication and has 2 diff diaper rash creams to heal him up. Then, she calls me this morning to ask me do I want to babysit! I had literally gotten up 15 mins before she called and was sitting at the table attempting to eat something before I had to throw up. I said NO! Nicely of course, but am I wrong for not wanting to watch him? Wait... did I mention that its 4 mnth old twins?? I have all 3 of my kids home today, plus I have been super nauseated since last night. I just dont think I can handle 5 kids today with how I am feeling, let alone have to deal with a super fussy baby. She never wants to pay anyone to watch her kids either. If I really need a babysitter I will at least offer to pay someone! The only people I dont expect to have to pay are my parents!! UGH! Am i being a bad friend?
Nope, not a bad friend. You're definitely not at the top of your game so you're not exactly the babysitter those twins need!
I agree with what other ladies have said. Not a bad friend at all. You are not obligated to watch her kids just because you are friends, especially for free...
Mama to Kostas with the Mostest, born 07/10/07
and Marek "Cricket" Joshua, born 12/07/12
No! She should be sensitive to what you have going on! I wouldn't feel bad at all!!
DS 9 DD 7 DD 4 DD 3 DS 6mo
Nope, I don't blame you. Babies that little need a lot of attention and you're not up for it. She should understand.
Connor, Landon, Liam, Noah, Keaton, Amaris and 9/04 12/04 11/11 1/12
My friends and I never pay each other, we just trade off when we need it. I would never think that I would have to pay my friend to watch my kids (unless it was something that occurred on a regular basis or the privilege was being abused), but I would never think to ask a friend who was in the early stages with m/s to watch my young infants.
See its not like that with us. She has 5 kids of her own and I have only asked her in desperate times of needing a sitter and then I have always paid her! My friends and I dont generally watch each others kids. Its normally the parents who takes the kids. Or a lot of my friends are single moms and they do their thing on the weekends they dont have their kids. I wouldnt even mind a few hours with one of her older kids, but fussy twins are not my forte right now!
Did I mention she invited herself over to my house yesterday afternoon and just assumed that I would be taking care of one of the babies while she was there. My husband had some company, so she decided that it would be just fine for her to show up. She had one baby laying on my boppy and was holding the other and turned to me to tell me the one laying down was getting fussy "just so I knew". And she wonders why we dont get together often. I dont mind helping out when I feel up to it, but dont invite yourself over and expect me to take care of one of your kids. I love the little guys, but when I feel like garbage the last thing I want to do is take care of someone elses infant. I normally LOVE babies and love to hold them! If its my own child obviously I have to take of it no matter how I feel, but I should have the choice when its not my child. UGH! Sorry for venting, just had a really off day yesterday and she had no respect whatsoever.