Do you plan to breast feed, or formula feed? No judgement here, just share what your plan is For you BTDT mommas, what has your experience been in the past??? and what are you planning on doing this time???
With my 1st I started leaking around 20 weeks. With him I went from a b cup to a double e. Even though I started leaking so early, it took a while for my milk to come in, and for my body to learn to have an actual let down. It was a struggle with DS1 not latching well. He went from 6lbs even at birth, to 5lbs. It was a fight to get him latched, then he would suck a few times and fall asleep... so, would never get any of the fattening hind milk. The doctors considered him failure to thrive. What finally worked with him was for me to pump for a few minutes before nursing him, that way my let down was just starting as I got him latched and he would get more. He was my bird. Seemed to just nurse till he had just enough in his belly. He was my baby that nursed every 2 hrs or less... with major cluster feedings, and crabbiness, through the night. I did find that if I pumped before his 10pm feeding, then nursed him, and then had DH give him what I had pumped from a bottle, then I would get a 3 hrs stretch right away. He didnt start going more than 3 hours till he was close to 6 months, if am remembering correctly. I nursed him till he was 13 months old.
There was a 11 month gap between when I stopped nursing DS1 and when I got pregnant with Ds2. I could still get some liquid out every now and then...though I never did leak before DS2 was born, but nursing came much easier. With him I went from a D (what I went down to after weening DS1) to a double D. He just knew what to do, and so did I. He went from 5lbs 8oz to only 5lbs. Though, when he nursed, he did it well... and came home sleeping 4 to 6 hrs straight at night. I would wake up to check to make sure he was breathing lol. I had to ween him at 10 months after I got pregnant with DD. So, I never dried up between those 2.
DD knew how to nurse from the beginning, but was no where near the eater that DS2 was. She went from 5lbs 5oz to 4lbs some odd ounces. But, after the other 2 I didnt let it freak me out. She nursed, and was sleeping as many as 3 or so hr stretches at night, so I never let it bother me. I stopped nursing her at a year just because I was sick of her only taking milk from me. She refused to take a bottle, at all. The other 2 I could pump and leave a bottle for who ever was watching them and they would be ok for a 4 hrs stretch so that I could get out every now and then... or, I would even just pump and give a bottle to DH so he could feed and bond with them while I got things done. Not DD though... so, I had to take her EVERY WHERE. Not going to make that mistake a 2nd time lol. As soon as I know that he is latching, nursing, and my milk is established, wee dude is getting a bottle. That way I can pump and go to bed while DH give him his last feeding before bed.
This time I havent started leaking, but I am definitely growing. I was down to about a C or a D (depending on the bra)... I am guessing by the time wee dude is born I will be at least a double D. I guess we shall see
With DS1 he had tongue tie and my pediatrician refused to let us have him treated for it. I tried to just deal with it but because he couldn't latch right it was very painful, we tried nipple shields and I just couldn't get the hang of those. I remember being soooo engorged and crying because it hurt so bad and DS just couldn't latch. He went from 8lbs 8oz down to just under 8lbs and even then my pediatrician wouldn't schedule the surgery so we bought a Medela pump and supplemented with formula. Finally, when he was about 8 months old I took matters into my own hands and went directly to an ENT. He had the surgery to repair it and latched perfectly, but at 8 months bottle was the easier thing to him and he pretty much refused to nurse.
This time around I plan to see a lactation consultant in the hospital and have DS2 checked for tongue tie because with newborns they can actually repair this in the hospital (would have been nice to know before!). I'm really hoping that this isn't the case and he doesn't have it so I can have a nice normal breastfeeding experience, but if he does I have my pump and I plan to store up as much milk as I can and buy bottles that are made for breastfeeding moms. I know they have so many more options out there now than they did 5 1/2 years ago so I have high hopes!
Angela, WTH was wrong with your ped? I understand not everyone being willing to clip it, but he could have at least referred y'all to someone else immediately! I hate hearing about moms suffering for something that can be so easily improved. I had a lip tie (it was fixed in elementary school since it affected my teeth), which my mom claims to this day didn't affect her BFing me b/c my ped said so.....and yet she stopped at 6 weeks due to problems that wouldn't go away. *sigh*
I will breastfeed Baby Girl. Aiden just weaned earlier this month. He wasn't so fond of no milk and then colostrum. He was getting a lazy latch anyways and combine that with nipple sensitivity it was very painful for me, so good timing for him to choose that he's done (I decided on self weaning)! DS and I were very lucky because there was zero BFing help where we lived at that time. The closest of any kind of help was 2.5 hours away. I learned to BF by a book (The Nursing Mother's Companion). We did have latch issues, but thankfully between the book and the ladies on pg.org I was able to figure out how to help him correct it. Our biggest hurdle was a nasty case of mastitis at 2 weeks. I kept a 104* fever for 3 days, but we had no formula in the house so I had to keep BFing. It hurt like hell, but after those 3 days were over I was SO SO SO happy I pushed forward. Since then BFing has seemed so easy. I did introduce bottles with pumped milk at 4 weeks since I wasn't sure about BFing in public, but after 6 weeks he outright refused to ever take a bottle. I didn't press the issue and learned to BF in public. I won't bother with bottles period this time. I'm a SAHM and have zero issues by this point BFing in public without any sort of cover (usually I nursed in public with a baby carrier anyways). Where we live now has an active La Leche League group, which I do attend and will continue to attend. If there are any issues, I'm grateful to have a support group and leaders with lots of information on who to see if more help is needed.
We're planning on trying to breastfeed again, but it didn't work for my other two.
With DS he was slightly tongue tied, but not enough to have it fixed and wouldn't latch correctly. I used a nipple shield with him for the first four weeks, but still had to supplement with formula because I couldn't produce enough for him. I started leaking at 16 weeks with him but it took 5 days for my milk to come in. He was supplemented in the NICU with formula because he was so jaundiced and it was just much easier for him. I pumped for him for another month, but just couldn't get enough and it ended up not being worth it when I went back to work.
With DD she had a full tongue tie that was clipped on day two. That same day my milk came in. I over produced for her, had very fast let down, and she would choke. So breastfeeding was a struggle, she would choke, pull off, get upset, I would get upset and it would start a vicious circle. I pumped for her for 3 months but had so much milk I was able to give her breast milk for 6 months.
I plan to try my hardest to breastfeed completely for the first 2-3 weeks to get a good experience, then I'll have to introduce the bottle, so I can go back to work. If we have a hard time I will just pump exclusively. I want to try to pump for the whole first year, so I am trying to decide if I want to purchase a pump or just rent one, since this is our last child.
I wish I had pumped the whole year with DD. I just let myself get so stressed between having the two kids, and working full time, that I thought formula is just easier and DS did fine on formula, so will she. This time with two other kids I will struggle to pump/feed the whole year, because spending that much money on formula doesn't make sense to me. This is the one area I know I struggle with so I am really going to have to push myself.
With my son I had planned to use formula bu he came 6 weeks early and we ended up trying breast feedng while he was in the NICU. He did ok but we mostly pumped and added Neosure to the breast milk to help him gain weight while in the hospital. we kept pumping when he got out. We did this for 5 months when we finally stopped. He was getting more formula then breast milk. Wen I returned to work my supply started to really dry up. I was already struggling a bit as it was but work really seemed to add to the stress of it all.
My son was a little over 5 pounds when he was born and now is almost 11 months old and weighed 21 pouds at his 9 month appointment. So I think he did just great growing and is still doing great. You would never guess he was a preemie looking at hime.
With this baby it really depends on if he comes early or not.
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With #1, I was young and listened to those around me and didn't even try to breast feed. I still regret it.
#2, I breast fed for four months. At four months, I had to start cancer treatments. I had enough frozen breast milk to last to 6 months and then went with formula.
#3, she was exclusively breast fed for 6 months and continued to nurse until 18 months. Even when I'd had to leave her for two days at a time for my dr appointments, she refused bottles.
#4, I plan to breast feed, but I'm hoping this one is a little more flexible with bottles of pumped milk.
#1 Was completely breastfed until 9mo (with the occasional bottle of pumped milk)
#2 Breastfed for 3mo. She had the worst case of colic and would scream all day. One day I gave her a bottle of soy formula to see if it made a difference, she was a completely different baby. At that point I was done.
#3 Breastfed for 6mo.
#4 Ellie was in the NICU for the first two weeks. I was able to nurse her some (we had a few days where she had aspiration pnuemonia and an NG tube and they wouldn't let me.) I pumped, but never really was able to make enough to exclusively BF her. I think it was our poor start. When she had her second surgery (around 5mo), I stopped completely. I nursed her through her first surgery, but felt horrible for getting her out of bed to nurse when it would have been less painful for her to lay in bed and take a bottle.
This time I am hoping to nurse exclusively from the beginning.DH and I discussed just bottle feeding, with all that is going on with Ellie I wondered if it would be easier. But he encouraged me to give it a go and nurse as long as I can. We have great lactation support where I will deliver and I have started re-reading some of the good nursing books. I have a tendency to get lazy and start adding bottles of formula (I won't pump- no time)and once I do I start to lose supply. I hope to avoid that this time by not stocking up on bottles etc. and avoiding the temptation. That said, if for some reason he ends up bottle feeding earlier than I plan, I won't feel guilty.
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I plan to BF. This is something I really love doing and look forward to doing. I go back to work when baby is 12 weeks old so then I will try to pump at work and nurse at home. I think I can do it as long as I stay on top of it while I am at work. I BFed DS until he was 13 months old and we luckily and thankfully had no issues. I mean, we had some trouble at first figuring out his latch and all that stuff, but I tried to remain patient and not beat myself up when it was a struggle. Eventually, it just became 2nd nature to both of us and I am happy to say I was able to nurse him for as long as I did. I hope I can do the same for this baby(or even longer) even though I will be back at work. I think it's doable. I didn't have any supply issues last time and in fact I felt like I often had too much so I hope the pumping doesn't dwindle out my supply when I return to work. I hope the nursing in the morning, evenings, and night will be enough with the pumping to sustain it.
With DS I hadn't planned on bottle feeding for the first few weeks but the nurse at the hospital talked me out of it saying it would confuse him in the long run and since I was going to have to switch to bottle at six weeks due to taking a class D drug, I switched over to bottle only. With this one, I was thinking I'm going to breast and bottle feed for the fist six weeks to get him used to the formula and so it wouldn't be a problem when I had to switch, but then I started reading about my friends experience with mastitis. She just had twin girls. Exclusive pumper as neither of them would latch. Then about a week ago they started sleeping through the night so she slept better too. All of a sudden, she developed a fever that wouldn't go away without antibiotics and she's still up and pumping through the pain in the middle of the night even though the girls are sleeping just to keep the ducts clear. Now I'm wondering if thats the best route for me of if I should just go straight to formula. With DS I would have had no problems producing milk. Two years later I was still leaking colostrum. My np told me to wear an ace bandage around my breasts and that finally stopped it.
DD was exclusively breastfed. For waaay too long. She refused bottles, refused solids, refused pacifiers, refused to suck her thumb... etc. I suppose I could have forced the issues, but I never did. She did eventually learn to eat food and we made her wean at 33 months.
I don't regret it. We did what we needed to for her, and it worked for us. Even though it was really rough (she was colicky and never really had a good latch - even though experts could find nothing 'wrong' with her latch it was always painful for me), I still plan to nurse this baby.
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