I have been noticing for the past couple of months, my almost 4 year old has been acting out a lot more. We have been having to really watch him with our 2 year old closely since he has been trying out a lot more aggressive behavior (hitting, pinching, pushing down, taking toys away, yelling/screaming at not getting his way) and just doesn't listen or follow directions a lot of the time. It's honestly exhausting at home, and then I found out on Friday that he was very aggressive with another kid in his class at school and I had to sign an incident report at pick up. (I think the teacher felt bad since I was on the verge of tears when she told me - I was feeling pretty crummy already on Friday, that almost put me over the edge!). He has listening problems at school, too, and seems to have a lot of trouble sitting still for even 5 minutes.
Anyone else have experience with this? Do you think it could be partly due to the baby on the way, and/or feeling my discomfort and "over it" vibes? I grew up with a sister, and then twin brother/sister that were 7 years younger, so this physical acting out is new to me and I don't know how much to put up with from brothers, when to step in, when to let them work it out, etc. He's a very verbal child, talked from a young age, can express himself well. And if you ask him what he should have done instead of putting his hands on his friend or brother, he tells you right away what the more appropriate behavior would have been. And he goes right into time out when he acts mean, no fight there since he knows he was in the wrong. I am doing both consequences as well as rewards for good behavior and try to compliment him whenever I see even the smallest nice thing or notice him use words first.
Is this just the age? Is this boys? Maybe he needs more one on one time with me? What else can I try? I am open to any thoughts and suggestions!!