Thread: Getting sick of it

I'm really getting tired of the comments I get when I tell people I'm pregnant.

"Wow, you really have your hands full." --Strangers who see me out with 3 by myself, not even knowing #4 is coming.
"Oh, I couldn't do it."
"WHAT?! Was it planned?"
"Are you done now?"
"I wouldn't have the patience."
"I couldn't stay home with all those kids."

Seriously. I only have 3. And yes, they will be close together. Yes, it will be hard for a while. Yes, I planned every last one of my pregnancies. Yes, I'm nervous about the future, but I couldn't be more blessed with this beautiful family! People should limit their comments to the following:

"You are amazing! I'm so excited for you."
"Congratulations!"
"That is wonderful news!"

And the ever elusive "Let me know if I can do anything for you!!"

I haven't even announced on Facebook yet. Hopefully those will be more short and sweet like my approved comments selection.

Is anyone else experiencing this?

I did with my last pregnancy. Even more so now with #5. Plus, 4 and 5 are so close together. Fortunately friends and family have been nothing but supportive! Try not to be offended Who cares what people think?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5mYUS...layer_embedded
(try not to laugh too hard )

People (in general) are dumb and don't think. Family size is a personal decision for a couple and many seem to forget that.
I've just gotten "wow, you know life is going to be hard with a toddler and a newborn." No, you don't say. I think it's going to be a cake walk.

Originally Posted by alwayssmile

People (in general) are dumb and don't think.

This. We learned that in a BIG way after our miscarriages. People say dumb things, often without even thinking about how they will come across.

You should just come back at them by saying that you are doing it for your health, since moms with more kids live longer.

I haven't posted on fb yet either. When we were even thinking of #3, DH's entire portuguese family was like, " You guys don't need 3, you hav e the perfect family a boy and a girl, you couldn't afford 3". Stupid comments like that. But i felt we weren't done/complete. And yes I agree the first years are always hard but I think you are so blessed to have kids and as they grow up and get older, I think of the holidays , the birthdays, the parties, the get togethers, how heart warming is that thought and feeling! A big family! Love it! I agree, nobody thinks before they speak. But you are the lucky one here!

a bunch of people have asked me if this pregnancy was planned. i didn't hear this at all with my first so i wonder why people are asking now. and, i wonder why they ask in the first place? what if the pregnancy wasn't planned...and i told them so. i suppose they aren't expecting that as an answer.

I know that they aren't trying to be rude and the comments don't offend me. I think it's just that the comments make me question my decisions and abilities. When they say stuff, I find myself thinking maybe they're right. Maybe I'm in over my head. Maybe we should have waited. And I HATE thinking that because of what OTHERS are saying. I am really nervous about having 4 ages 5 and under. The comments just scare me. That's why I want them to stop. I want to be excited and have all positive feelings about this pregnancy. They are just kind of bringing me down. I know I can do it...people from all over and all different times have managed (and are still managing) having larger (and far larger than mine) families. Thanks for your encouraging words and for letting me vent a little.

Tiffany-That is my vision for my family and I'm so excited to see it unfold!

idk why people think just becuase they see you with children or with a preggo belly they think the door is open for whatever they want to say. my bff warned me of this (and she doesn't even have any children or has ever been pregnant!) i guess she was just wise.

i think what you have is a beautiful growing family <3

I am in the same boat. I've even had some blatantly mean comments from people with DD and this time... not even WORTH repeating. People just forget that their nose doesnt belong in other people's business, and that just because something pops into their heads doesnt mean they HAVE to say it. As far as the mean comments that I have gotten, I just have to think of how miserable these people's lives have to be that they feel the need to tare other people down.
I am on another site totally devoted to families with 4 or more kids. Trust me, being on there, 4 seems like a small family lol. One of my good friends growing up was #2 of 10. All 10 were the most grounded, nicest, people I know. I always knew that I wasnt going to only have 2 kids, and being the oldest of 3, I hated that there was always an odd person out (usually me lol). Yes, we are more than likely only going to have 4 biological children. In the future I would LOVE to do foster care. Yes, I may be crazy. I am crazy about my family, and especially, about kids. If that's a crime, lock me up, or commit me. But, like pps have said, how many children a couple has is between them and god (or what ever they believe), and not for anyone else to decide or judge.

Every one in my family has asked me if this baby was planned. EVERYONE. Um, Yes and No. And None of your damned business if you honestly want to know!!!!