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Is anybody else wanting a homebirth? Or a natural birth? I have a very skeptical DH, so we are meeting with a midwife in the area for a consult to see if we can convince him Smile

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I had a natural birth with DD. It was almost a water birth, but about an hour before she was born my water broke and there was meconium in the fluid. Hospital policy dictated that I get out. :annoyed: This time I'm going to be with the same midwives, but at a different hospital. Hopefully I'll get my water birth this time!

My sister has had two homebirths, and is planning a third one for this time. One thing I will say... her first hb mw was not a good one. She was taking something like 30 patients a month, which is insane. Most midwives don't take more than 3. So she was having to miss a bunch of births, and luckily my sister wasn't one of them because she had a hard, difficult labor and needed expert midwife care after. But it wasn't a good situation, and my sister didn't know anything back then and didn't realize it was a problem. So definitely ask that question!

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I've always wanted to do a home birth, or at least a water birth but I'm a wimp - I'll beg for drugs from the first tinges of pain! I really tried to hold out and not get anything with DS (especially since I'm terrified of needles!) but I didn't make it very far, and my OB was really trying to push me into a c-section "because he was leaving at 5pm" and wanted me to deliver before then. o.O (I held my ground on that and didn't let them give me one!)
I wouldn't even know where to start if I decided to do a water birth. I totally applaud those ladies who do homebirth/au natural/water births. Smile

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Its not in the cards for me (too many med. circumstances). I have a friend who has 6 kids... her first 3 she had at the hospital, and the 2nd 3 she had at home. She really prefers the home birth to the hosptial. Her midwife brings in a laboring pool and sets it up in their living room. She loves how much easier she is able to relax, do what she wants as she labors, and so on. If its an option, and you feel up for it, I say go for it Smile

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If I wasn't living on a military base I'd totally be trying to find a midwife here for a home birth! Instead I'm stuck driving an hour just to find a practice that will actually do a hospital VBAC. I want a completely natural and intervention free birth this time. I plan to do hypnobabies self study, but if there were classes locally I'd be doing those!

Pick out some really good birth stories from the birthday naturally board to show your DH. It helped mine realize what a birth should be and what was missing from my first birth. Smile

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Ditto what Jackie said. Come on over to the Birthing Naturally board! We're chock full of advice, support, and uplifting birth stories!

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You guys should watch "The Business of being born". Its amazing. I really want to see the 2nd one, but missed the showing they had near me Sad But, def. watch the first one (if you have netflix, its on there under documentaries) Smile

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Oh, I'd forgotten about the Birthing Naturally board. Yes, it's a great place to go, definitely check it out! Smile

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i live in maryland and currently, there are no midwives who practice home births in this state. i really wish the option was there but if it was, i probably would stick to a hospital anyway. my last pregnancy resulted in over two hours of stitches and i guess i would feel more comfortable being there--even though i am well aware that the midwife comes fully prepared to a home birth. unfortunately, the midwife who assisted during my last labor was not able to do the stitches and i guess that left a lasting memory.

my plan is to still have a natural birth though. i heard it hurts LESS the second time around. i really hope this is true!

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I'm all about natural births, and have been pretty lucky with my 4 deliveries. I would LOVE to do a homebirth, but my hubster is a little nervous about it. I'm more nervous about the flack I'd get for it from MIL, friends and neighbors, and I KNOW that doesn't really matter in the grand scheme, I just hate to raise my freak flag any higher! I'd prefer to do something inbetween...a birthcenter or something, but my insurance sucks and I can't find a birthing center thats covered. I'm not sure what to do yet...

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"augustbaby2010" wrote:

i live in maryland and currently, there are no midwives who practice home births in this state.

Wow, really? My sister had two hb's in MD, both of them very recently, and there were many midwives she could have gone with at that time. Her most recent hb was in January 2011. The midwives were fully licensed and legal. Are you sure about this, or has the law changed since then?

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"argylefrog" wrote:

I just hate to raise my freak flag any higher! I'd prefer to do something inbetween...a birthcenter or something, but my insurance sucks and I can't find a birthing center thats covered. I'm not sure what to do yet...

I hear that. I know people already think I'm a hippie lol I also thought of a birth center, but our insurance doesn't cover it, and the closest one is over an hour away. So unfortunately there is no 'middle ground' for us...it's all or nothing.

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Same here. Home birth or birth center we'd be paying for a good portion out of pocket where hospital is covered expect for $18 a day. Silliness! If it weren't for the fact that I can't home birth here on base, I really would look into. Beats driving an hour while in labor to a hospital or birthing center. There's nothing locally but cut happy docs. Sad

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"alwayssmile" wrote:

Same here. Home birth or birth center we'd be paying for a good portion out of pocket where hospital is covered expect for $18 a day. Silliness! If it weren't for the fact that I can't home birth here on base, I really would look into. Beats driving an hour while in labor to a hospital or birthing center. There's nothing locally but cut happy docs. Sad

Wow, only $18/day!? That's amazing! At our hospital we'd still be paying close to $2K.

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"snuffy1680" wrote:

Wow, only $18/day!? That's amazing! At our hospital we'd still be paying close to $2K.

Yep. Honestly Tricare is one of the big things that encourages DH to stay in. He doesn't get paid nearly as much as he would as a civilian, but the healthcare really helps make it worth it. But I hate how it's soooo super cheap to have a hospital birth that the insurance basically forces families to choose a hospital birth or pay out of pocket almost completely.