Are you planning on cosleeping (aka room sharing) when your LO is born? Will you use a basinet, a cradle, a cosleeper beside the bed, or a crib in your room? Or are you planning on bed sharing? Or will baby go into their own room from the first night home? Or are you unsure yet what you want to do?
BTDT moms, what did you do with your older LO(s)? Did you end up doing what you planned to do while pregnant?
With DS I bought an arm's reach mini cosleeper to attach to the side of the bed and planned to use it for the first few weeks and then move him to his crib in his room. Then he was born and that totally didn't happen. DH was in military training at the time and was required to get so many hours of sleep at night. Trying to get that baby in and out of the cosleeper to nurse all night meant I got little sleep and DS was not fond of not being next to me, so at 2 weeks old we switched to bed sharing at night and we'd nurse laying side by side. What relief! I got so much more sleep and DH was getting his sleep too b/c he would never hear DS cry (cause DS wasn't crying b/c I could respond faster!). DS never used his crib till 4 months and that was just for naps. I learned from DS to be flexible and do what works!
My thoughts right now for this new baby is to bed share at night. I'm going to put the arm's reach downstairs set up as a basinet to use during the day. I'd love to cosleep as long as possible at night, but if for some reason that isn't what the baby wants that's okay too. I can easily move the cosleeper upstairs or use the crib, though I'd rather not get up to nurse! Ha ha!
With DS1 I had a baby basket that I had right by my bed. When he woke up at night I could just roll over, take him out, nurse and change. Then, sometimes I would put him right back, and sometimes I would snuggle him in bed with me. It would all depend on his mood... and how many times he had already been up at night. He moved into his own room when he was about 5 months old.
With DS2 I had a cradle, again, right up next to my bed. He slept almost through the night right from go, but again I would roll over, nurse, change him, and put him back in the cradle or keep him in bed with me. He moved into the other room with his brother when he was about 3 or 4 months old. (DS1 didnt sleep through the night till that happened).
DD was a different story. I had a pack n play that I had right up against the bed. Right from the beginning she slept better in bed with me. She was in our room, either in bed with us or in the pack n play, till she was about 9 months old. Then, she moved into her own room and into a crib.
This time around I plan on doing what Ive done in the past. Just going by what works, and what gets me, and the baby, the most/best sleep
We use a basinett or cosleep for the first few months. I love cosleeping, but it does make me nervous. I would rather have the baby in a basinett, but sometimes cosleeping works better. We definitely won't be using the cib until 4 months or so. We need to buy another set of bunk beds and transition my just turned 2 year old into her own bed. Fun!
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We have the fisher price rock n sleep, which we used for Ellie. It's great, very comfy! We are thinking though that we will put the baby in the nursery and put ellie in with us on a toddler cot. She is often sick and will probably need the most care at night. We'll see though, plenty of time to decide!
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With my boys, we had a bassinet or pack n play by the bed n our room for the first 5 months or so. Most times, they slept in it but sometimes, I'd fall asleep nursing so they'd stay in bed with me. That made my DH really nervous. He was so worried they'd smother. Honestly it worried me a little too but it's so hard to stay awake while nursing! We plan on doing the same thing with this baby.
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DS slept in the bassinet for the first six weeks. We moved him to the crib in his room for a few months then he learned to sit up. For the next year or so he slept in bed with us. I did the ferber method and he went back to sleeping in his crib. Then he got sick, really sick with pnemeunia and from that moment on, DH was terrifed to let him out of our bed. So he slept there till he was four. Finally at four years old I'd had enough and said it was against the law for little boys to sleep in mommy and daddys bed and we moved him over to the toddler bed.
With this one, I fully intend on using the bassinet again but then I'll move to the crib, but keep the crib in our room for a year or two. When he or she is old enough for the toddler bed, we'll move it to his brothers room.
With DS I didnt really have a plan, well, I bought a big pack and play that has the infant top on it with the music/mobile/vibration and planned to let him sleep in my room for a little while...
He ended up sleeping with me, we slept sideways so he wouldnt roll to the middle, and i BARELY slept, so it really sucked but i was so paranoid to put him down.
THIS time, I bought a smaller bassinette and PLAN on forcing baby to sleep in there- definately not IN my bed because Kevin will be on dayshift so i dont want two adults and one baby in bed.
Then I'm gonna try to get her to sleep in her own crib soon after... *hope*.. I think if I get a video monitor I might feel better
We used a pack n play w/ bassinet on top for DD. That lasted for about a month before moving her to her crib in her room. I am such a light sleeper, I would wake up to her every tiny move and squeek on that plastic-y mattress. DS was in an arm's reach co sleeper...but again, that only lasted a month until he moved to his room. I really like the idea of co sleeping in bed, but DH is a very heavy sleeper, and I worry about him rolling over on baby. I swear I need a piece of wood sticking up a foot or so in the middle of the bed to separate his side and my side!
About cosleeping, when Aiden was itty bitty I slept in the middle and DS slept to one side so he wasn't near DH. We had these foam bumpers on the edge of the bed. Worked GREAT! I loved that it allowed us to travel and cosleep safely too. When Aiden got older and DH said he was comfortable with it Aiden started spending some of the night in the middle of the bed between us. My back really appreciated that because I was able to shift DS around for nursing rather than lean in funny ways to nurse the top boob. I plan to buy a 2nd set so that DS can use his bumpers on his big boy bed when he moves to that this fall and the 2nd set will be on our bed.