Life works in mysterious ways...

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TJPam's picture
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Life works in mysterious ways...

Hey girls! I feel somewhat guilty telling my story, but honestly it truly is a miracle.

3 weeks ago tonight my dad passed away suddenly of a heart attack at the age of 64. It was the absolute worst day of my life. I got to my parent's house when the paramedics were working on him. My mom witnessed the entire thing. She's doing ok now but of course she's sad and misses him. We're a very close-knit, strong family so we're going to be ok. On a happier note, two little blessings will be arriving to our family. A boy in May (my brother's son, his first baby). And another baby (sex unknown) due in June (my sister's 3rd). I have 2 nephews, ages 5 and 3.

My common-law hubby and I haven't been TTC but we eventually want children together (he has a 6 yr daughter). I went off the pill in June and we used protection. When my dad died it was such an emotional time for us and when we got intimate this month, we didn't use protection. In a time of sadness and emptiness I think we just both wanted to feel the ultimate closeness and love. We never imagined that it would result in a baby this fast!! We had no idea what our fertility issues would be, since I'm 38 and he's 40. I was actually going to make an appt in a few months to see my Dr to get a referral to a fertility Dr.

We are sooooo excited!! This is my 2nd pregnancy (lost one at 8 weeks, 12 years ago) so I'm praying that this little bean is digging some strong roots right now and wants to stay, grow and be born into an amazing family.

I look forward to getting to know you all and to read your stories and share mine.

Sending "sticky bean" vibes to everyone!!!!

Pam :cat:

mandynz's picture
Joined: 01/29/12
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What a fantastic blessing for you at this difficult time! I'm so sorry for your loss, I'm so glad to hear that you have such a close family to support one another!

My family has suffered many losses this past year ( two family members + earthquake related deaths of friends) and it has just brought us all so close, I can't remember a time where we have all been as close as we are right now.

Sticky bean vibes to you!!!

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Joined: 06/29/09
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Pam, what a wonderful surprise during such a rough time. (((hugs))) I know how hard it can be to lose a parent. I'm praying your little sweetheart is burrowing right in and you'll have a wonderful and uplifting 9 months! ~*~sticky vibes~*~

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Joined: 09/14/11
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Pam that is such a wonderful story. It's so amazing to have such a wonderful blessing during such a hard time. Sometimes I think these babies just decide when it's time for them to come and whether we realize it or not they come when they're needed the most or when the time is best. Smile I'm so glad you're here and hope that everything is all happy and healthy. It'll be so awesome if our due dates are the same. Mine could be the 4th or 5th depending on how they want to calculate things. My cycles are 28-31 days and change around a lot so I'm not sure which model we want to follow. I'm still feeling so overwhelmed but happy of course. I hear back from the doc on Monday about my first beta and get my second on Monday as well. Have you made an appt or talked to a doctor yet? I'm sending you sticky vibes!

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Welcome and congratulations Pam! What a wonderful blessing for you! Praying that all goes well and your LO is snuggling in well!

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Congrats on your blessing! Hopefully, this will give your family something positive to focus on while everyone adjusts to the new norm. I am sorry about your loss.

TJPam's picture
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"Leah261" wrote:

Pam that is such a wonderful story. It's so amazing to have such a wonderful blessing during such a hard time. Sometimes I think these babies just decide when it's time for them to come and whether we realize it or not they come when they're needed the most or when the time is best. Smile I'm so glad you're here and hope that everything is all happy and healthy. It'll be so awesome if our due dates are the same. Mine could be the 4th or 5th depending on how they want to calculate things. My cycles are 28-31 days and change around a lot so I'm not sure which model we want to follow. I'm still feeling so overwhelmed but happy of course. I hear back from the doc on Monday about my first beta and get my second on Monday as well. Have you made an appt or talked to a doctor yet? I'm sending you sticky vibes!

My cycle is an average of 26 days. I had a cone biopsy done on my cervix in 2005 so I don't get the usual discharge during ovulation. I was so confused and wanted to understand my body better, so I did an OPK in January and this month, although I wasn't going to after all that's been going on. We already DTD twice before the test showed ovulation within 1-2 days. It was February 13th when I ovulated. We DTD Valentine's Day and the 15th. We both knew it was close and there would be a chance of conception. It was our first time without using protection and honestly didn't think it would happen since we're up there in age.

On Monday I'm going to pick up a lab requisition at my Dr's office. They said it would be only a urine test. I want a blood test too. I'm also requesting an U/S at 6 weeks because along with my cervix surgery, I had surgery on my uterus in 2007 to remove a septum inside that I was born with. Plus I had one m/c, so I think my Dr will order the early U/S. I was told by the surgeon who did my cervix surgery that when I get pregnant I will have to be monitored because that cervix needs to be closed. It may need to be stitched closed until the big day. I also may need a c-section if it doesn't dilate. Ugh.....sooooo many things to worry about!!

Can wait to hear the update on your beta results Biggrin

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"TJPam" wrote:

My cycle is an average of 26 days. I had a cone biopsy done on my cervix in 2005 so I don't get the usual discharge during ovulation. I was so confused and wanted to understand my body better, so I did an OPK in January and this month, although I wasn't going to after all that's been going on. We already DTD twice before the test showed ovulation within 1-2 days. It was February 13th when I ovulated. We DTD Valentine's Day and the 15th. We both knew it was close and there would be a chance of conception. It was our first time without using protection and honestly didn't think it would happen since we're up there in age.

On Monday I'm going to pick up a lab requisition at my Dr's office. They said it would be only a urine test. I want a blood test too. I'm also requesting an U/S at 6 weeks because along with my cervix surgery, I had surgery on my uterus in 2007 to remove a septum inside that I was born with. Plus I had one m/c, so I think my Dr will order the early U/S. I was told by the surgeon who did my cervix surgery that when I get pregnant I will have to be monitored because that cervix needs to be closed. It may need to be stitched closed until the big day. I also may need a c-section if it doesn't dilate. Ugh.....sooooo many things to worry about!!

Can wait to hear the update on your beta results Biggrin

That is a lot to think about! Wow! Will you be considered high risk? I'm in a similar boat but for different reasons. I'm immune compromised. I was born with what's called a primary immune disease. I basically have little to no immune system on my own. So I do infusions weekly at home. And they are absolutely necessary for my survival but the medication that's in the infusions is a Category C so they're thinking I should be high risk though I've known plenty of people that take it all through pregnancy and are just fine. I'm also having to stop some of my medications at least for the first trimester so my kidneys are more vulnerable, etc, etc. My chance for infection is already so much higher than the average person so high risk is probably the best way to go. I guess we'll see after I get to see the doc whenever that is. I POAS this morning, my last one, and it was as dark as the control so I feel like it's definitely getting darker. I sure hope everything goes great for us on our labs and our first appointments. I hope you can get that early ultrasound. Sounds like you need it! Good luck sweetie!

gabeminamom's picture
Joined: 01/09/11
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That is wonderful news! It's what meant to be and maybe you had a little help from above Smile I"m so sorry about your dad. I too know the pain of losing a parent ( My mom passed 4 years ago of a sudden brain aneurysm while we were camping). Having a strong close family is all you need to get thru these tough times, and a baby will only make it easier! Please stay strong, since you are now on a very emotional roller coaster for a while here, keeping you in my prayers and wishing you a very happy and healthy 9 months!!!!!

TJPam's picture
Joined: 02/24/12
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Thank you everyone for all your kind words and well wishes. I will only think positive thoughts and what will be will be. Wishing you all happy and healthy pregnancies. And very, very sticky beans :openarms:

LoriLoo's picture
Joined: 07/19/07
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Congrats to you! I'm sorry to hear about your loss but also excited to hear about such a happy gain! Best of luck to you in the coming months!

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In Nov. 2009 my grand mother had a stroke, she passed just after Thanks giving. The night of her wake, Dec. 4, a good friend of mine and her daughter were murdered. Not too long after that I found out that I was pregnant with my daughter. I cant remember when I would have gotten pregnant. I was out of town a lot during that time, visiting my grandma, then dealing with funeral stuff, then all the fall out of everything, plus I was still nursing my 2nd (he was 9 months old at the time of conception) and I really hadnt gotten a period. Let alone when I was in the mood. So, when my son started fighting me with nursing, I didnt think anything of it... till I was watching 19 kids and counting. It was the episode where the mom announched she was prego with #19. She said that she knew that she was prego because #18 started having trouble nursing. So, I went and bought a test, and sure enough.

I truly believe that my daughter is here because of the 3 wonderful women I lost at the time. I think it was their way of telling me they loved me, and that life would go on, and that happiness was possible again. I think the same thing for you. This was your dad's way of giving those same gifts to you

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