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Not sinking in

It's still not sinking in at all that I'm pregnant. I mean I understand that I am and I can definitely feel that something is different but it just hasn't sunk in that this is really happening. I don't know if it's because it's still so early and part of me is keeping a distance from letting myself believe it just in case something goes wrong or if it's just because it's my first and it's so surreal. I mean I used to think when we struggled that I would never get pregnant because I couldn't imagine it happening and then it did and I'm still in shock or something. Is this normal? Lol. I figured as soon as I found out I would start looking at baby stuff all the time and be able to think about nothing but what it'll be like to finally have our baby here with us but I feel like I can't wrap my brain around the concept or something. It's weird...maybe it's pregnancy brain. I can't remember anything as it is right now. Lol. Did anyone else feel this way with their first pregnancies? It could also be because we haven't seen a hb yet. I have another ultrasound next Thursday and we should definitely see it then if it's then because I'll be almost 8 weeks. I wasn't quite 6 at the first one and there wasn't much to see so while that helped it sink in a little it didn't help much. This is driving me nuts! It makes me wonder if there's something wrong and that's why it's so hard to believe. Any input ladies?

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IDK when it'll kick in. haha. I feel like I AM pregnant, but I guess i don't really believe yet that I'm going to have a BABY.

Even seeing the HB I dont feel very reassured.

Hopefully in two weeks at my next u/s I can HEAR a heartbeat and see more of a baby-shape and feel better...

Until then, umm prob not til like 14+ weeks or the 20week scan will I believe it, or when I feel movement, thats when it became SO REAL last time.

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Thanks Cait that makes me feel much better. Lol. I'm not the only one. I definitely have no doubts that I'm pregnant. I feel so terrible. Haha. It's just hard to imagine there being a baby in there or that we're going to have one after all of this time of planning and thinking about it. It just feels so surreal to me. I've been home alone resting all week to recover from this awful infection and learn to deal with morning sickness and I figured while I had time to myself it would sink in but nope not really. Haha. My mom said with my sister (her first) that it didn't sink in until she held her for the first time...I hope it sinks in before then. LOL.

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I think definately when there's movement it sinks in, at least a little.. I remember my long commute to work in the mornings being pregnant and Brody would "wake up" around 6:00am and start kinda kicking at me on the drive- i would kind of just rub my belly and pet him, haha, but it was really comforting and felt like I had company during all of that alone time, it definately felt real then!!

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It comes. When you get bigger and start feeling movement it really sinks in. These are totally normal feelings! I feel the same way, and I've done this before. (A couple of times lol).

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I can totally agree with that! I think in my case I'm trying not to get too attached - I've been spotting and that's never ever happened to me before with my 4 previous pregnancies. Ugh...I definitely have to remind myself that there is something growing in there - as if the fatty bloated tummy wasn't enough to do it! I definitely think it sinks in when you start feeling movement. Come on second tri!!!

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You're definitely not alone Leah, and its not a first time thing either. I'm almost 12 weeks with #3 and I still don't believe that this will last. I've seen the heartbeat, I'm super nauseous and tired, and yet I've somehow convinced myself that everything is all wrong and there won't be a heartbeat at my next appt. I don't know whats wrong with me lol, I'm such a Debbie Downer. I did the exact same thing with DS2, it wasn't until I was 16 weeks that I kind of finally accepted "Oh, hey, I'm going to actually have a baby in a few months" :D. Like the other gals said, once you hear the heartbeat at every appt, and see it moving around on the u/s, and start showing and feeling movement it will become very real.

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It comes. and dont worry, you have plenty of time to go out and look at baby stuff and all that. I find that I dont believe the home test till a dr. tells me yes, you're pregnant. Then, it really doesnt set in till I hear that little train heart beat. And, then it doesnt become real till you feel movement... and then, eventually.. you have that baby in your arms (then you get the wait, this is what was just inside me? really? and the "is this baby really all mine?" and, then, you get home, and its "oh shoot, its all on us now... what did we get our selves into?... lol) any way. Hang in there, it gets more and more real Wink

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I say you're completely normal. Took us 3 years to conceive DS. I was excited, but very paranoid and it took me several weeks to start looking at baby stuff. We didn't tell anyone outside of really close friends and our parents until 15 weeks (once we had a 2nd tri appt). Then I started looking at baby stuff and things felt real finally once I felt kicks at almost 18 weeks.

We're still majorly in shock over here that I'm expecting #2 (this was super duper fast!). I haven't even bothered going to the base clinic (military) to get the pregnancy confirmed yet. Doesn't seem real at all.

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Leah, that happened to me with my first! I didn't have any pregnancy symptoms other than a missed period--no nausea and unfortunately, I read a lot of stuff online that said I was prone to miscarry. I then started thinking that "this pregnancy didn't count because I would probably miscarry". I know that sounds weird but I think it was me trying to process the whole thing. It's huge! Like you said, it's hard to wrap your mind around it. This is my second pregnancy and I feel different. Sorta like, "I got this". Smile

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I'm feeling the same way Leah. It's hard to believe what's going on inside of me. I try not to get too attached just in case. I don't want to jinx myself but it's hard not to feel this way. I have my 1st u/s on Monday. I pray that everything is ok with the baby. I've been pretty much symptom free so that doesn't help me "feel" pregnant. I've been spotting for a few days now and I'm super tired but that's it. I think after Monday it will sink in more for me.

Hope you're feeling better after getting some much needed rest.

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it hasnt sunk in with me either. I think when I get my ultrasound on 3/30 and see a heartbeat then I will feel much better!!