Obsessing over weight gain

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harmonybear's picture
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Obsessing over weight gain

I know I shouldn't, but I'm starting to worry over my weight gain. I'm only 7 weeks, but I've already gained 3 lbs. If this had been my first pregnancy I don't think I'd be quite as worried over it. But this is so different from last time. Last time I lost weight in the first trimester (very mild m/s), and didn't gain a pound until week 15. Also, last time I started out at a good weight for me. This time I'm starting out 5 lbs heavier. I'm not overweight, but I'm starting out on the upper end of my healthy weight range, and I'm gaining so much quicker than last time - doing pretty much nothing different from last time, so far as I can tell.

Yes, it's too early to be concerned, but I just wonder why it's so different from last time. So what do you think? Is it normal for second pregnancies to have completely different weight gain patterns? Also, if I gain a bunch of weight in the first tri, will I gain less than last time in the second and third? Maybe?

It's very disheartening to be seeing numbers I didn't see until over halfway through my last pregnancy so early this time. Sad

KatherineD's picture
Joined: 10/03/06
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I really know how you are feeling. I'm starting out 20lbs more than my last two pregnancies. I'm trying not to worry too much, but I was working hard at loosing weight and now I have to stop. I'm having a hard time eating/keeping things down though, but I know towards the end my weight is going to go up higher than I've ever seen and it scares me!

Astolate's picture
Joined: 07/16/06
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I weigh the most I've ever weighed in my life, adding a pregnancy into that equation and now I definitely find that I'm stressing about gaining even more weight. With DS I gained 80lbs during my pregnancy! (a majority of that was amniotic fluid, I lost 35lbs the day I had him!) I definitely hope I don't gain as much with this pregnancy, I've been watching what I eat more and trying to stay active. I have a friend who was in the same situation as me and gained 80lbs with her first pregnancy and only 15lbs with her second. I think it all depends on your metabolism, mindset, and diet.

Joined: 03/20/12
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I can totally relate. I am six weeks preg with my 5th baby in 7 years. I am scared to death of gaining weight again, even though I totally comprehend what it means to be pregnant. I am currently training for a half marathon and still am afraid of the weight gain. I just find myself having no self control. I try not to have tempting high calorie foods in the house. If you are able, maybe just try to walk each day, a little exercise goes a long way not only for the body, but the mind too. However, I know how hard it is. Maybe those 3 lbs are simply the extra fluid etc. Best of luck to you!

alwayssmile's picture
Joined: 08/26/07
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I'm concerned about weight gain this time myself. With DS my starting weight was my lowest in years. I was very fit and healthy. I gained 40 pounds. I was HUGE. Since I'm still BFing I have never lost those last 5 pounds (which is common). But then we moved twice this winter. Every time we PCS, I gain 5 pounds. So now I'm up 15 pounds from what I was with DS. I *really* don't need to gain 40 again this time!
My goal is to make meals that I can freeze half of for later, so that days where I don't feel like cooking I can still have a home cooked meal. I also went by the grocery store a few days ago and bought healthy snack foods. As soon as I stop feeling like I'm going to puke every 5 minutes, I plan to get back into walking. For the longest I was walking 20 miles a week (which isn't that much when you break it up over 7 days lol). There is also a pregnancy workout video on Netflix instant watch I plan to try out. I *really* wish that there was a Stroller Strides here. Many location also have a fit group for pregnant moms too. Our last location had one and it was fantastic, great motivator to stay in shape.

lemonlemon's picture
Joined: 12/30/07
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I'll just say DITTO
I already gained about 15 lbs right before my BFP from TTC stress-
Now according to the doc scales im up like 5ish lbs
So disapointed in myself..
My goal is to eat healthy and try to maintain..if Im not eating bad to gain a lot of weight I wont feel guilty
But I delivered @ 200lbs last time and I really dont want to do that this time!!

AkMomma07's picture
Joined: 07/04/07
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I'm really stressing about it too. I am definitely overweight and have struggled with weight issues for years. I gained 45 with my son and I desperately want to get no where near that this time. I am still tracking my calories over at myfitnesspal and plan to continue running until its no longer comfortable. I really need to start focusing on eating more fresh fruits and veggies... that's something ive let slide lately.

Leah261's picture
Joined: 09/14/11
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I've been feeling the same way. I don't usually weigh everyday because it just depresses me and I find that it sets me back because I get all depressed and feel like what's the point in trying. So I've been weighing once a week and I may have gained one pound but since weight fluctuates who knows. I'm really short and am starting to get varicose veins which run in the family and are typically really bad once they get going good. Usually pregnancy caused the other women in the family to have major problems with them if they didn't before so that's a concern too. The biggest thing that I'm doing aside from being careful about what I eat and trying to keep it balanced is walking. I walk 5-6 miles a day every day without fail unless I'm super sick or something. I have a pedometer and keep track of my steps, mileage, aerobic minutes, aerobic steps, calories burned, etc. that way. I also set a monthly goal of 10k a day but lately I've been trying to get 11k-12k. That little bit extra can make a big difference and having the pedometer is really motivating. I find that even when I feel bad I can walk. I just walk in my house usually while reading a book or watching something on tv and before I know it I'm done for the day. So that helps me a lot. Hopefully we'll all stay nice and healthy throughout the whole 9 months. It's already harder than I thought it would be.

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Joined: 01/09/11
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I'm also in the Ditto camp. It's soooo frustrating but I wanted this! I crave just starchy stuff when before the only carbs I'd eat was toast in the morning, if that. I was super heavy before I got pg with DS 12 years ago and it took 3 years to lose 70 lbs after he was born. But this time around, I mentioned it in a post before, I am 12 lbs heavier starting t his pg off then what I was with DD. When I was 5 weeks pg with DS I weighed 151lbs. The day I gave birth to my daughter I weighed 151lbs! So this is pretty frustrating. I think I'm up 3 lbs but it fluctuates. I'm also a runner but so fatigued lately. I ws running 5 days a week now its 3-4. I'm training for the Survivor mud run next month. It's only a 5k but it has obstacles and I have the SF giants run in Septemeber. Knowing I have these runs is my only motivation to keep running. But I hate running on the treadmill. It's been so wet and cold outside so I've had no choice but today I'm just gonna go for it and run outside. I love the feeling I get after! So that is also a bit motivating. And it's a stress reliever and I've been majorly stressed. But the weight has been really ticking me off too so maybe we can start a thread to help motivate each other to resist the bad stuff! LOL! Or share healthy recipes, workouts, etc.

Risstopher's picture
Joined: 02/29/12
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i've been stressing a lot over this too, i've been overweight and underweight, i'm average weight now... i'm terrified of becoming overweight after babe is born....
good luck all, it's hard when you only want certain things, all my old favorite healthy foods are YUCK right now and all i want are chips or sandwiches...

alwayssmile's picture
Joined: 08/26/07
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"Risstopher" wrote:

i've been stressing a lot over this too, i've been overweight and underweight, i'm average weight now... i'm terrified of becoming overweight after babe is born....
good luck all, it's hard when you only want certain things, all my old favorite healthy foods are YUCK right now and all i want are chips or sandwiches...

Funny enough I'm not worried about losing weight after the baby is born. I breastfed Aiden (well, still do actually lol) and with healthy eating and light exercise most of the weight melted off within a few months. I just don't want to have to loose 40 pounds again afterwards since I'm already up. Extra work, extra months. Takes 9-10 months to put on the weight, so it's reasonable to expect for the average person to take that long. Smile

harmonybear's picture
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"alwayssmile" wrote:

Funny enough I'm not worried about losing weight after the baby is born. I breastfed Aiden (well, still do actually lol) and with healthy eating and light exercise most of the weight melted off within a few months. I just don't want to have to loose 40 pounds again afterwards since I'm already up. Extra work, extra months. Takes 9-10 months to put on the weight, so it's reasonable to expect for the average person to take that long. Smile

Oh, I know. I BF Pearl for 33 months, and I was back down to within 5 lbs of my pre-pregnancy weight within 3 or 4 months postpartum. So losing the weight doesn't worry me. But I was also borderline GD with her, and gaining extra weight isn't going to help me in that department this time. Blum 3

LoriLoo's picture
Joined: 07/19/07
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With both of my other pregnancies, i gained 20 pounds by 20 weeks, and 50 overall. But I lost all of it plus some each time without much effort. I just figure that bodies do what bodies do. Do your best to not overeat and to stay active and it will all work out!

mishella69's picture
Joined: 01/12/06
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Well so far I have gained 15 pounds....EEEK......I cant stop eating!! I am so hungry all the time and everything tastes sooo good!! With my dd I gained 85 pounds but with my ds I had gestational diabetes so I only gained 23 pounds and the day I came home from the hospital I weighed myself and I weighed less then I did the day I conceived him with IUI! So I am sure I will have GD again so when I get on that special diet I will do much better. The thing that sucks is that I lost 55 pounds in the last 6 months but it is sooooo worth it!!