Painful appointment! (everything is fine though)

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Risstopher's picture
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Painful appointment! (everything is fine though)

Today I had my weekly check up and here is my update:

My cervix is extremely short and VERY soft - my doctor says it's very strange because my cervix is like that of a woman who has had children before... but I was not dilated at all... this she found strange, so she began stripping my membranes and I am a first time Mom so I had no idea what this was going to feel like, OUCH OUCH OUCH!... i actually couldn't hold back from saying "OW!" and squirming up the table... she said "now it's open a finger tip"...

i haven't had any contractions at all - not even braxton hicks so that is probably the reason why i'm not dilated... she said to "have sex" and "walk" - but then even on the sex topic she said how it's the semeon that weakens the cervix and that doesn't seem to be my problem so an orgasm would help me... i can't see that happening, i'm not comfortable and if i'm not comfortable, i can't... sorry TMI... DH and I will try though.

I didn't go for a walk because it's raining out here today but i was up ALL DAY. i decorated my christmas tree, i vaccumed (its a small light vaccuum), i dusted, i folded laundry, ect... so now i am sitting for the first time, hopefully i have some progress, i keep hoping that today was my last visit, but again, FTM, so i'll probably go closer to my due date.

Oh i wanted to add - my dr also said id show some spotting after this exam and i totally did -it freaked me out even though i was prepared for it. its not as much now as it was after the exam...

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Wait your OB stripped you already and you weren't dilated?! OMG THAT HAD TO HURT! ((hugs)) You've potentially got 3+ weeks to go if I'm not mistaking your EDD (cause 40 weeks is average - half of women go before 40 and half go after 40)!!! *sigh* Your cervix being short and soft is a fantastic sign for a FTM at this point. No reason to rush things along. If you don't want sex, then don't have it. In the end labor is the result of a hormones and you can't force it through walking, sex, etc. It can help ready your body, but it just won't bring on labor if baby really isn't ready.

Risstopher's picture
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Yea thats what I was thinking too - my due date isn't for a week and a half, so I think i have tons of time left.
i didn't know what the procedure was for stripping membranes! and i was thinking the same and gaining patience with it lately that the baby is going to come one way or the other when she is ready and thats just that... i mean, really i've waited this long i'm sure i can wait another week or 3 lol...

my doctor was saying how for the size of my body if the baby were to come now it would be better for my body - since i'm built smaller and all, who knows....lol... maybe she just doesn't want to be disturbed during thanksgiving dinner :rolleyes:

alwayssmile's picture
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Woman's size has nothing to do with birthing a baby. One of the wives in my husband's training class is maybe 5'1" and 110lbs soaking wet. She had zero issues birthing a 9.5 lb baby naturally. While it is possible to have a pelvis not as suitable for birth, it's really rare (something like 2-4% of all women). Sadly a lot of women do believe that they're not capable because they've only ever been "allowed" to birth on their back - which makes the pelvis smaller than when standing, squatting, on all 4s, etc.
Waiting is driving me nuts right now (EDD is tomorrow), but I know I've got up to two whole more weeks before my practice's cut off for VBACS. So I just keep busy and enjoy not having to be BFing 24/7, changing diapers, cleaning up spit up, etc. lol

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Oh, OUCH!! I've had mine stripped in past pregnancies and it is uncomfortable...but I was already dilated some. While I was reading I was thinking, "How did she reach her bag of waters if there was no opening?" I would have been scooting off the table too! Did you ask your doctor to do it or did she just say she was going to do it?

Risstopher's picture
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She told me she was going to do it, and I was ok with it - I just didn't know it was going to hurt, I probably would have said 'yes' even if I knew it was going to hurt, but its one of those things where i just wasn't prepared and I never felt anything like it before.

and with the topic of my size and birthing a baby - i agree with you alwayssmile because i'm not SUPER tiny, my bone structure is on the smaller side, but i'm not abnormally tiny - and my hips are wide (if that has anything to do with it, lol), that is my bigger area of my body, my hip area.

Kier's picture
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I agree about size. im 4ft 9in and have had 4 vaginal births just fine

haysmama's picture
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She should have warned you! Sad

augustbaby2010's picture
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i don't understand doctor's sometimes. i feel like she is rushing you into birth when your body was clearly not ready for it yet. also, for her to say that your body is small...that creates doubt in you about what your body can potentially do. i know docs have their reasons but it just seems to happen all the time and it is an excuse they know patients will buy into...because you want to do best for baby. i'm sorry that the procedure hurt so much and i hope you are able to rest and enjoy your last few days/weeks of pregnancy!

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I find it very odd that they would strip the membranes when you're not having any sort of contractions and not overdue or risk pregnancy in any way shape or form.... Bizzare.

Oh and I'm 5'5", so pretty normal and my hips are definitely the biggest part of me... Still couldn't push him out on my own. The pelvic bone just wouldn't work.

harmonybear's picture
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Stripping your membranes when you're only 38 weeks, a FTM, no contractions, no dilation, and (most importantly) no medical indication to do so? I just don't understand OBs sometimes. *sigh* What if your water had broken because of this, or she had gotten some bacteria up in there and compromised the baby's health? I know I'm not a doctor, but that just seems irresponsible to me.

And Kier, Jackie, and Erin are right. Mom's size has nothing to do with how big of a baby you can birth vaginally. When it comes down to it, there are very few women in this world who have pelvises that are wide enough for a baby all the time. The pelvis is made to stretch apart during labor. If your pelvis can't stretch apart enough (and it's only a small percentage of women who can't), then you can't have the baby vaginally. But if you're a normal woman, your pelvis can stretch quite a bit.

Honestly. If small stature meant no vaginal births, the entire population of Asia would have died out centuries ago. :rolleyes: All of DH's female relatives have teeny tiny frames and no hips to speak of. And babies in Asia aren't all that much smaller than babies in America. Ugh, doctors. lol

I'm glad you have such a great attitude about it, though! Keep hanging in there! Biggrin