toddler and baby room sharing

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augustbaby2010's picture
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toddler and baby room sharing

hi all, i was wondering what your thoughts were on this. we are hoping to have our son (who is almost 2 years) and upcoming baby share a room, maybe starting when the second is around 6 months of age. we will use the cosleeper initially but then we thought it might be nice if the two shared space for bonding purposes. our house is large enough so they could have their own rooms in case it does not work out.

what do you think? have any of you had two young ones in the same room? what should i expect?

harmonybear's picture
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I don't know how it works, but it's going to have to happen around here. We only have two bedrooms in our house. Currently DD still sleeps in our room, though in a different bed. The second bedroom has been our guest bedroom, and MIL is going to be staying with us after the baby is born. So idk... I have no idea how it's going to work out.

It does make me feel better to read books like Little House on the Prairie, where they all lived in a one room cabin. It can be done, even if it isn't ideal.

Astolate's picture
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We plan on having our boys share a room too, our DS is 5 and has his own room but he ends up in our bed pretty much every night by 2am. We'll keep the baby in our room in our TravelLite Pack and Play/Bassinet until he is at least 3-4 months then move him into DS' room. Every child is different but kids have been sharing rooms forever so I'm sure you'll have no problem with it. Biggrin

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We've decided that baby will move out of our room and into either DD's room or DSS's when baby is around 12 months, but it will completely depend on how ready baby is, I'd like him/her to be pretty much sleeping a full night before they go. But I think the idea is a good one just as long as they can both get the sleep that they need Biggrin

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DS2 moved into the other room (we had a 2 bedroom apartment at the time) when he was about 3 - 4 months old and Ds1 was just about 3.

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My only experience is when we moved DS2 (at 8 months) into DS2's room (at age 4.5). We waited until DS2 was sleeping better, not thru the night totally, but he was okay at it. We had to prepare DS1 since he had never shared a room before. We got him excited about sharing a room. DS2 would go to bed earlier to give him time to fall asleep before taking DS1 to bed. We would always remind him to try to be really quiet if the baby woke up, that Mommy or Daddy would come get the baby so he could go back to sleep. DS1 was (and still is) a champ at going to bed, never gets up, stays in the bed quietly and goes right to sleep. It helped to have sleep trained DS2 so that we could lie him down awake and he could put himself to sleep. I think it's great in the long run to help train them to sleep through noise and other distractions.

My only concern with a 2 year old is do you think he will climb in the crib with the baby? There is the possibility that he could climb in and accidentally smother the baby. Also, does he stay in his bed? If he gets up and plays or makes noise it could disturb the baby's sleep.

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Lurked here (kiers sister). Last night was our dds first time in her crib, as we waited since she is room sharing with ds. So at almost 5 months she was sharing with an almost 18 mo old. Mine are super sleepers and both slept 830/9 till 7 this morning. I'd say what made me confident in it working was how well they both sleep and that our video monitor had a camera on each so I was prepared to get dd before she'd wake ds if need be.

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DSD and DD share a room and have for a long time! This baby will go in the room with them when she reaches about 4 mnths and is sleeping better. DD was 1 and DSD was 2 when they started and we never had any probs at all. They really liked being in the same room and still do! They actually still sleep in the same bed even though they have their own beds. I think it is really great for bonding to have them in the same room.

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We are considering putting DS1 and DS2 into a room together when baby is about 6 months old (or sooner). They'll be 4 and 2 this fall and we've got 3 bedrooms right now, so when baby is ready for his own room, we'll give it a try and see how it goes. Several friends say it has worked out so well for them and that their kids LOVE sharing a room, so I'm hopeful it will work out as well for us, too!

DS2 is still happy in his crib, though, so I don't really want to rush him out of that if we don't have to. It's nice to know he'll stay put till I go get him Smile

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Our two will be sharing a room

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I won't be doing this, but I would totally consider doing it if my DS was a little younger. My DS just turned 6 this month so he will be 6 1/2 when the baby comes. I think he will appreciate his own space seperate from the baby, but if he were a couple years younger then I would love to try to have them share a room. I shared a room with my sister by choice until I was in middle school. I loved it and we are still really close. This baby will sleep in our room probably until he/she is 12 months old and then if for some strange reason s/he and DS want to share then no problem!

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My kids did that for a while until we moved. I don't see a probelm with it. But I am glad they are in seperate rooms now, dd has to get to sleep earlier as she does not take naps anymore and has to get up early. DS usually does still take naps and has some behavior issues and is usually very loud, so I am glad they are in seperate rooms (now).

I do believe they will bond whether they are in the same room or not but I don't think there is anything wrong with it. Smile

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I'm so glad to have this input... Cause DS will probably end up sharing his room with baby for a few years... not for the first few months but once we have him sleeping through the night, yes.

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When my DS2 was born DD was 20 months and they have shared a room since he was about 4 months. It has worked out great. I was so nervous as to how it would though while I was prego. When we first made the transition DS2 would wake up about 3-4 times a night, not because he was hungry, just because and this didn't ever wake up DD. I was amazed. I think the sooner you do it the better so that each child gets used to the "noise" early on while they are young but that's just my opinion. Good luck!

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thank you all so much. i am thrilled to hear all of the positive experiences you have had! i feel excited for them! Smile i really hope it helps them to become good friends. i know that when they are older they will want the space but i really think it can be wonderful for little ones. clairecj, i was 6 1/2 years old when my sister was born. my parents put me in my own room at that time and i remember not liking it. i always crept downstairs in the middle of the night and slept on the couch, to be closer to everyone else. then, when my sister was about 1 to 2, she and my mom slept together in a different room and i had a little mattress on the floor which i would sleep on. i never really liked being by myself when i was little, even though there was a huge age difference. but, everyone is different so you will have to see how it goes for you.

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I can totally understand your feelings when you were young. I wouldn't want to be so far away either. That's part of the reason I don't push hard to make DS to sleep in his own bed all the time. He has always been near me, its hard to make that change for some kids. I don't see anything wrong with siblings sharing a room especially when they are young. I wouldn't mind DS and this baby sharing a room but we have an extra bedroom so for now both will get their own room. (Not that I expect this baby to sleep in that room anytime soon necessarily LOL.