So I just have to vent this because it's making me nuts. This it totally OT but here I go anyway.
So my families drive me absolutely insane and it's bothering me more than ever now that I'm pregnant. Maybe the hormonal feelings are kicking in. I don't know but I swear I just want to bang their heads together sometimes. My parents are divorced and they had pretty much the worse divorce ever. I was 17 when it was all finalized and while I'm still close to both of my parents, my mom and I are pretty much attached at the hip and if I had to pick a side it would be hers though I try not to. My dad had another family for 15 years before they even separated. So he has another kid and everything. He won't admit it but she looks like me and my sister and it's just so obvious. Plus, he's been there for her more than he was ever there for me and my sister so...it's obvious he has a guilty conscience. Anyway, it was a super screwed up situation and was clearly something that wasn't going to be solved where everyone was going to make up and be happy later. So our families do not talk to each other. When my grandfather was still alive he still talked to my dad and all for mine and my sister's sake but he's passed away now and my grandmother makes it clear she hates my dad. My dad's mom makes it clear she doesn't like my mom and they make fun of my step dad all the time who I love dearly and has been there for me from day one. If I had been young enough when my mom met him he said he would have adopted me so I could have gotten better medical care of my disease. I'm close to him too.
So anyway, every time we go down to FL (I live in VA now) to visit my family, my mom usually goes with us to get some time in with her mom. Well her mom always bashes my dad. Then I go to my other grandma's house and all of them bash my mom and step dad and my dad joins in. It drives me insane! Lately mom's mom has been acting like it stresses her out when we stay with her so we were thinking of staying somewhere else and my mom is thinking of not going. When I tell my dad's family all of this they have mean things to say about my other grandmother and then fight over where we're going to stay. They talk about this crap NONSTOP since they found out I was pregnant.
All I can think is how the heck am I going to bring a baby into this family? Thankfully the ones that make things most difficult are in FL and me and DH and my mom and step dad are here in VA and TN so we're separated from it most of the time but geez. It's been nearly 10 years since my parents divorced. They've both been remarried nearly as long and still the family feud crap stands. I just have no patience for it anymore, and instead of keeping my mouth shut I've told everyone as much. I have more important things to worry about. The way I see it, my mom was seriously the wronged party in all of this and she's moved on and she's happy so that should be the end of it. AHHHHHHHHHH!
Why does family have to be such a serious pain in the butt sometimes? Shouldn't this bring everyone together instead of make everyone stupid and rude and cruel? Ok...vent over. If you read all of this I'm impressed. Lol. Yeah...I think the hormones are kicking in.