URGH... just a little rant...

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URGH... just a little rant...

I don't feel good until after I puke.. I just ate half my dinner (cheerios with bananas) barfed it up, but now I can actually finish eating the bowl I had poured for myself...

Question. Some days, the veins on my nipples are dark, other days, they are light... can it be something to do with my bras maybe being too tight? (I am a DD to begin with and I'm pretty sure I should buy an E now... URGH!) Or should I worry about the fluctuation of the veins?

When will I Stop crying and freaking out on my poor SO... I seriously feel so bad for him..

And I SO wish I could quit my job, I'm totally being bullied over my pregnancy and all I do at work is cry Sad

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The vein thing is totally normal. I wouldnt necessarily recomend buying a bunch of new bras just yet, seeing as you are going to grow more (with my 1st I went from a B to a double E... I had a friend who was big chested to begin with, and had to special order maternity bras because she went up to a double H). If you are feeling a ton of pain and discomfort, then maybe get a sports type bra in a slightly bigger size for when you are at home... it may help. I have found that this time around that not wearing a bra at all at night helps. The puking should also lessen up a bit, if not go away completely, once you get into the 2nd trimester. Though, there are women who have it their whole pregnancy.... I did with my first... though, it eased up little by little the further along I got.

As far as the crying goes, things should even out as you get into the 2nd trimester. But, you will still be pregnant, and the hormones are still there. I know I still had some fun mood swings every now and then while I was still breast feeding my last baby. If you feel like its more than just normal pregnancy stuff, talk to your Doc. Pregnancy can cause a depression type brain chemistry for some.

With your job, let them know that it is harassment, and you could sue them for pregnancy discrimination if it comes to it. Legally, they cant do that shiz. I am a stay at home mom myself, and trust me, if thats something you really want to do, you can.

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Sorry your not having a good time right now Sad As for the bra thing, I'm the same size you are and I don't pay too much attention to the veins because mine just hurt so I don't even want to look at them, but when I wear my sports bra, I know the pain is less then when I wear my Victoria secret ( "good" bra...yea right) bra. That thing kills me when I take it off! I hope you feel better soon. I"m wondering why you would be bullied at work? I too would get their *** for harrasment. You do not have to put up with that at all. I'd let them know, and also look into your states labor laws as I'm sure it is there and show them. I'd document every incident and time as proof. Record if you can as well.

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I bought a couple of good sports bras with DS that I knew I could "grow with" some. I went from a 34B to a 36DD while pregnant (and I'm pretty sure I will never ever see a B cup ever again since I'm still at a D now lol). I would't worry about the veins. You've got extra blood coursing through there. A tight bra will make the ladies more sore though.

What's going on at work? Sad

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I was asked by another assistant (I work in a law firm as a legal assistant) to not speak about my pregnancy, and to wear black to hide it, and to not say my preference would be a girl because some other woman's 19 yr old son died in a car accident in January.. As sad as that is (tragic, honestly) I'm sorry her life is ending, but mine is continuing, and if she can't handle other people living, maybe she should stay home and retire. So everyone at work treats me like absolute hell.

Also, I had to call an ambulance this morning for chest pain (Turns out its either gall bladder or just chest bone pain/bruised from puking and stuff) and I had an ultrasound and she went over my belly and I'm positive they saw the baby and.. SHOWED ME NOTHING. TOLD ME NOTHING about the baby. They said my blood work was "pristine" and I'm sure if something WAS wrong with the baby they would have said something. but EFF SAKES I'M ANNOYED. I just wanna know everything is ok with baby. This waiting 9 weeks for a u/s and then another week to know any information is going to kill me before the 24th. ...

I think I need a hot shower.

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You shouldn't have to hide your pregnancy. As far as the other woman goes, she'd probably even be happy for you. Most people are way too sensitive. I had a co-worker who 35 years ago had a late M/C. But she still went on to have another child and granchildren and was thrilled whenever someone else had a baby, despite her loss. Losing a child should not make you dead to the world.

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Oh she knows, when she found out she gave me a snarky look and said "ya, you'll probably loose it" -- it bothers her that I'm pregnant... and quite honestly, she can stay at home for the next 8 months, I really don't care.

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Awww Renee!! That so sucks! *hugs* I cannot imagine being treated like that!! Do you like your job normally/like the people? Are you considering not going back after the baby?

I havent told my work yet- I'm kind of scared. My boss doesnt have kids and doesnt really like kids- she only thinks about work work work, so i feel her first reaction will be annoyed that I'll miss work/potentially quit..haha... at least I'm due in the slow season!

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That is ridiculous. I understand she is grieving, I get that completely, but her kid was 19... why be upset that someone else is pregnant??? just doesnt make sense. Just before I found out that I was pregnant with DD my grandmother passed, and a friend of mine and her 2 year old were murdered. My family, and framily (thats what we call that group of friends) were all excited for us. one of my friends's older sisters is even her god mother, and was there when DD was born.

I would just tell them that you will wear what you like, with in dress code, and that if any one has a problem with your pregnancy, they need to keep it to themselves. They work for a law office for heaven's sake, they KNOW its harassment/pregnancy discrimination.

I'm sorry that the tech was so not helpful. Hopefully your doc will call you soon and let you know what they found.

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How rude! I can't beleive someone would make that comment. Makes my office seem like a dream. My boss is the same way though. No children, work hard, harder and hardest and come what may, be back at work 6 weeks to the day... I would tell them that appropriate office wear is appropriate office wear whether its black, white, pink or polka dot. You will wear maternity clothes and you will FLAUNT that belly, sigh about how tired you are, gag over the smell of coffee and they will just have to deal with it or else! (Sorry hormonal pregnant woman rant over) And I hope your doctor calls you back soon, though I'm sure the tech would have told you if ANYTHING was wrong. (((Hugs)))

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"Lyricly_" wrote:

Oh she knows, when she found out she gave me a snarky look and said "ya, you'll probably loose it" -- it bothers her that I'm pregnant... and quite honestly, she can stay at home for the next 8 months, I really don't care.

Wow! I would be putting in a complaint for that kind of verbal abuse. I know of 2 families here who have lost young sons recently and no one from their family would say something so awful. There is no excuse for saying something like that to somebody!

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As for the veins in your breasts, it is perfectly normal for the color to vary day to day. A maternity bra that has some give helps. (I am a Breastfeeding Peer Counselor Lol

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I USED to like my job/the people I Work with until about 2 months ago. (Before I knew I Was pregnant). I know there is office politics everywhere, that's obvious, however these two women are the beginning of every single drama and gossip in the office. When her son died, I did all her work while she was off, when she got back she said "Well I hope someone was looking at everything or now I'm going to have to" RIGHT TO ME. And quite honestly, I graduated college last year... and I know more of what I'm doing and she's been doing it for 30 years. Ask her a question she has to research it... I just answer off the hop. Anyways beside the point.. I can't stand her and I work closely with her. (Literally her desk is right behind me.)

As far as my boss goes, funny thing, I love her, she is awesome - in early March we were having lunch and we were talking about having children and how she didn't want any, how most companies don't hire women of child rearing age (around here its kind of true... some law firms make you sign contracts that you won't get pregnant for the first year you work there...), and I Was honest and said "we're trying, but I don't think it'll happen too quick" she wished me luck.. and congratulated me when I told her. She's super supportive, HOWEVER, has been working with these other people for two years, and they kiss her *** more then I do so I won'T complain.

I am not going back after my maternity leave unless it is only for a couple months while I look for another job.

Hopefully my family doctor gets the results from my u/s... but he probably won't call anyways. I'll just wait... so far it seems I'm nauseated all day, every day and night time I vomit (after about 7 p.m is when I actually do) I'm pretty certain all is well.. I guess I'm just concerned until I see baby.

Thanks for letting me vent ladies. I get so frustrated and my boyfriend is ready to go in there and have a talking to with them....