Thread: When did you/do you plan to tell your other LOs?

When did you/do you plan to tell your other LOs that they're going to be a big brother/sister? I'm planning to tell him after our 6wk u/s but I don't even know if he'll even care. lol

we told our kids right away. DS#1 is almost 6 and remembers me being pregnant with the other 2. I did explain that he cant tell his friends at school yet because god takes some babies to heaven to be angels, so until we know if this baby is supped to be here with us, we need to wait to tell other people. As for the other 2, DS#2 gets it as much as a 3 year old can. He likes to talk to me about how theres a baby in there, but its nothing hes brought up in front of other people. He has a speech delay, and is very shy.... Hes not one to just start talking to people... and especially about things he doesnt quite get. DD is 20 months old, she likes to kiss my belly and say hi to the baby, but thats the extent of it. I'm sure at 5 years old your DS would understand it, and would understand that he needs to keep it a secret

My son doesn't talk yet. I've been telling him since the BFP that he's going to be a big brother. He obviously doesn't get it.
I do remember my parents telling me about my sister (she's 10.5 years younger). They told me when my mom was having morning sickness issues, so that I wouldn't be concerned about why mom was so sick for weeks. My mom had a couple of miscarriages, one early in the 2nd tri, and I knew about that baby (I was 4-5 years old). I understood enough that it was just for family. I do remember being sad that I wasn't going to get to see my sibling for a long time, but I really didn't understand what was going on with the m/c.

We told our (not quite 3yo) daughter about it right away. We did that because I have been through two miscarriages before, and if it were to happen again I would want her to know why we were so upset. DH and I discussed this long before I got pregnant to figure out what we would say. Basically, it was something to the effect of, "Mama has a baby in her tummy and we don't know yet whether the baby will come live with us or live with God." I also weaned her the week I got my BFP (because of my miscarriage history), and I told her that she was too big for milk and that mama's milk was now for the little baby.

She seems to understand well enough. She talks about the baby and talks to the baby. She also got to see the baby on ultrasound during the ER visit on Wednesday. The only thing she doesn't understand is the need to be quiet about it. So everyone IRL is going to know about this baby in the next week or two.

(Actually, and this is totally OT, DD might possibly had whooping cough. So we've been ordered by her doctor to keep her home for the next week. So at least we won't have to worry about her telling everyone for one more week. )

I told my 12yo right away. With my DH deployed, my son was watching the girls when I was sick. I haven't told my 2 and 5 year olds, but the 2 year old knows. We aren't sure if she overheard something or what, but she figured it out... The five year old is clueless, but I'll tell her if she hasn't figured it out by the 8 week u/s.

I think I will either bring Kostas to the first ultrasound or tell him after.

It was after the first ultrasound this time, but they were out of town so it was pretty easy to wait.

I am trying to figure that out. My daughters are young. I have an appt next Friday and I may have to bring them with me. If I get a scan the older one might be able to figure out what is going on.

I want to keep the pregnancy a secret for awhile and of course little kids aren't the best at keeping secrets so I'd like to wait.

I've kind of told DS, he always talks about going to the baby store and getting a baby so he can change the diapers and we can share it- and tells people were going to the babystore and everyone assumes he's j ust being cute.. haha..

Hes 3.5.. so he doesnt quite get that a baby can grow in a tummy or anything.. so he sometimes asks about is our baby big enough yet and I said wait til halloween! haha

My kids totally know and are just waiting for me to confirm. DSS's mum is 36weeks pregnant so he knows the drill, he's noticed that my belly has suddenly become extremely bloated and is asking why (he won't believe me when i tell him i ate too much).

I think we will confirm if everything is all good after the u/s in two weeks time.