Who have you told?

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-x-Amber-x-'s picture
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Who have you told?

We have told some close friends, but really no family yet. We are waiting until the ultrasound to make sure everything is ok Smile Its always easier to not tell, than to untell!

TJPam's picture
Joined: 02/24/12
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We've told close relatives and some close friends. Other than that it's hush-hush until 12 weeks.

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I think I will tell before 12 weeks, but I want to at least see the heartbeat and everything before I tell anyone. Maybe 8 weeks before I break the news Smile

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Joined: 12/30/07
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I've told two of my friends, and Kevin told two of his friends.
I might tell my family after the U/S... just because I feel like if I DO M/C then it's gonna be a bigger deal this time around and i'll probably need their support/them to watch Brody for me.
The restof the world- As long as possible!! I wish I could hold off until the gender scan to tell everyone else haha.
I'll probably have to tell work around 12 weeks- But I think I might just tell my boss and not let her tell anyone, everyone else is too gossipy

Joined: 02/17/12
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Not a soul! I haven't told DH that I tested + yet, but he is pretty perceptive. I'm sure he suspects it. I wanted to do something cute/creative, but he discovered the special treat I bought him yesterday. So now I have to come up with something else. Dang!

I usually tell my family around 8-12 weeks, DH family & friends at 16 weeks. But I'm going to try for 20 weeks all around this time. We live far from family, and we aren't planning on visiting until summer, so it shouldn't be too complicated. I'm kind of excited to keep this one to myself for a while.

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We're trying not to tell until 12 weeks maybe a little earlier if things appear healthy. We have told some friends but I've only told people who can keep a secret and/or people who have had losses before that I know would understand. Pretty much my whole side of the family knows but they're 12 hours away and big gossips so if something happens I can tell one person (my Dad) and he'll tell everyone else. I think I can handle that. My mom and step dad know because my mom is my best friend in the world and we need their support right now. I think DH needs it as much as I do. We haven't told any of his family and we're not planning to for a while. They would be much harder for both of us to tell if things don't work out and neither of us is ready for that. It'll be hard to keep it from his mom cause she's terribly nosy but we're going to try to keep it a secret as long as we can. Is it time for the first ultrasound yet? Lol.

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Joined: 08/20/10
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I usually tell right away, but because this one and our 4th are so close together I think most people are going to assume we've gone loopy. DH knows of course, and I talked to a good friend yesterday, but that's it. Hoping to keep quiet till we get into the 3rd month this time.

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We've told everyone aside from a big FB announcement. All of our daily friends and family members know. I just dont see a point in keeping good news a secret I guess!

When we did have our loss this summer, I was glad people knew what I was going through. I probably would have told my friends that I was miscarrying even if I hadnt told them I was pregnant yet. The support was really helpful to me.

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I agree that the support is a good thing, but I am the kind of person who doesnt want everyone calling me when I lose a baby. I am a loner for a few weeks afterwards.

"LoriLoo" wrote:

We've told everyone aside from a big FB announcement. All of our daily friends and family members know. I just dont see a point in keeping good news a secret I guess!

When we did have our loss this summer, I was glad people knew what I was going through. I probably would have told my friends that I was miscarrying even if I hadnt told them I was pregnant yet. The support was really helpful to me.