I ended up sending her an email a little over a week ago and she sent back a really nice email saying "congrats." I'm glad I chose to do it that way b/c it seemed like it went over really well. We chatted yesterday for the first time in a while and I definitely got the vibe that she didn't want to talk about the pregnancy at all, and that is totally fine... I get it (as much as I can). Thanks so much to everyone for your advice! It was definitely helpful to hear all of your opinions, especially those of you who have been somewhat in her situation! I'm so hoping and praying that I hear from her soon that she is pregnant!
AHHHHH, my friend just called in tears b/c her younger brother who is recently married (and knows of her infertility) just called her to let her know they're expecting! She said that he and his wife were on speaker phone and were saying "you're going to be so excited b/c you're going to be an aunt!" She said it was so tough b/c she just faked her excitment through tears and then felt bad for doing that. I just feel so bad for her b/c this happened last year to her too when her husband's brother and wife got pregnant immediately after they got married. I'm glad she felt like she could call me and vent and I'm so glad that I decided to tell her like I did. If you pray at all, I would love to have prayers for her as she goes through her next cycle of IVF in a couple of weeks!