Ok girls, this news for family sake has to be kept off facebook. My inlaws have still not come to terms with this yet and we have loads of family on there. (Although I have been joining all the support groups on there )
Thomas this week was diagnoised with High Functioning Aspergers Syndrome. (So basicly a high functioning Autism.) It was a surprise as previously child health nurses and others have dismissed me. It was thought he had a sensory processing disorder. So when the Paeditrician told us that this is what it is. We were left feeling a little numb.
For us now it is a huge learning curve and trying to battle the paperwork to get assistance, EI and funding for all of this. It also may mean that we have to privately fundraise too. As the Autism EI centres are VERY Expensive to attend (I think I have heard the figure $23,000 per year!!) and as a one income family this is going to be tough. Especially for the extra things. I will be entitled to some goverment assistance for him. So we will see how that goes.
His day care mum has been awesome about it (so far) as she is not surprised one little bit by this diagnosis as she has a nephew who is excatly like Thomas. She will now not have to take on an extra child on Wednesdays (she can have up to 4 under four, but when she has a high needs child the number is dropped to 3). She has 4 children on Friday and she won't drop any children, but is comfortable with having Thomas and the 3 girls she does have that day.
There is also some releife in this diagnosis in that we know we are doing the best we can and he is not "That child" becuase of our parenting skills (which has been implied in the past). I also no longer feel that I am such a horrible mum becuase I have moments where my child overwhelms me. Becuase I am pretty sure every mum in our situation feels overwhelmed when their child has a rough day. It is also good to know that there is help out there.