Am I the only one?

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Am I the only one?

Everyone says it's normal to lose your sex drive and then get it back late in the pregnancy. I'm 31 weeks and still have absolutely zero sex drive. I don't even like being touched with the heat and all. My guy thinks I'm a gigantic *** and I know I probably am because I can't even bring myself to touch his junk at all. I was just wondering if anyone else experienced this problem?

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I'm with you! I have zero sex drive. I think it has a lot to do with the last time we DTD and I was so uncomfortable. Plus I am very swollen down there. I told DH that he's cut off until after the baby is born and the doctor releases me. He's not happy about it, but understands.

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Mine comes and goes. It's a hormonal thing, totally out of your control, so don't feel bad about it. If he can't understand that right now your body is literally not your own and there are some things that are out of your control, then tough luck.

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I have ZERO sex drive......................but for me that is a good thing because I am a single momma...lol

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Yeah i did try a couple times and it was just awkward and uncomfortable. It felt very dry (TMI!) and the first time, I actually cried and he says that made him feel like a creep. He says he feels like a creep for wanting me and doesn't think I want him since I'm emotional and distant. He wants me to give him a BJ or a handjob or something. I should probably do that but I just can't make myself get into it. I have tried explaining to him how uncomfortable it is for me and how messed up I feel emotionally and physically but he takes it personally and I just don't know what to do short of faking it and making myself have sex.

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Nope! My husband says I have ZERO sex drive (which is probably true but I'm in denial :P)

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It's very uncomfortable but I am determined to get this baby out when I hit term. Plus my SO is so sweet to me I have a hard time saying no. He loves the preggo belly!!!

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I'd love to be able to enjoy it b/c I always feel sexy when I'm preggo but it's honestly a logistical nightmare. We have to get out diagrams & plot out our exact moves before anything happens. And even then it ends up being awkward & hilarious & hurried b/c I've got a leg cramp or I've got to pee. Ridiculous!

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"Mrs. Mac" wrote:

We have to get out diagrams & plot out our exact moves before anything happens. And even then it ends up being awkward & hilarious & hurried b/c I've got a leg cramp or I've got to pee. Ridiculous!

This was so us last time we made an attempt! LOL! I just couldn't help but laugh because all I kept thinking of was the movie "Knocked Up" when they are trying different positions, but nothing works. Ha!

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There are days where I want "it" BUT it's pointless to follow through. I'm way too uncomfortable to even try. It wouldn't be enjoyable at all. I was on so many restrictions during the first half of the pg that DTD just hasn't been a top priority. I do handjobs occasionally... not that I want to but if I don't... my life is just that more miserable with the whining that follows. :rolleyes:

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[QUOTE=abh413 I do handjobs occasionally... not that I want to but if I don't... my life is just that more miserable with the whining that follows. :rolleyes:[/QUOTE]

Haha! I can totally relate!

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Ehhh

Our sex life definitely isn't up to par. We have sex. Hopefully every week. When I'm ready, I approach him about it. I admit to him that I'm not as "amorous" as he is, but I do want the intimacy. It is becoming pretty comical when we do have sex because I swear that my vagina is relocating. It seems like one week it's in one spot, and the next day, it is somewhere else. So, before we do anything, we have to play the "where'd the vagina go" game. Bizarre and hilarious. Hard to stay aroused when you're so busy laughing.

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Yeah same here, I don't have much of a sex drive while pregnant. Some women can't get enough during their pregnancies and others are the opposite. DH is much more understanding about it now than he was with our first, although I got pg a few days after we got married so we were newly weds lol. I do my best to participate when he wants and he does his best to understand when I just cant that day. It is a logistical nightmare though!

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Mine comes and goes. My doctor has had me restricted since 27 weeks...so six weeks now due to pre-term labor. I feel bad for my husband but he completely understands. He has been really good through all of it and often jokes about it. He just keeps saying it will all be worth the wait in the end Smile

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With my eldest my drive completely went away. With my second it varied until the end when I wanted it all the time. We were still doing it after my due date. I think this time is the same as last time. I would prob do it daily but think that is weird so dont mention it to dh lol. Never really had any logistical issues just always works for us. Dont even need to talk about it we just do it as we go without words lol Making the most of it now as my drive never comes back after delivery lol