Anybody else THIS stressed???

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Joined: 03/15/11
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Anybody else THIS stressed???

Oh what a few weeks I have had! I am currently building a house with my husband and our families are doing most of the work. Welll, our families don't seem to be working well with each other and I am in the middle of it. Both sides are very stubborn and I get to hear about how the other person has done something wrong...blah blah blah// With this added stress plus the new addition to the family (a 9 month old Engllish Mastiff puppy) about 2.5 weeks ago, I didn't know how much more I could take. My 2.5 yr old toddler has been throwing more temper tantrums then normal and she has not been very helpful when trying to keep the house tidy. Just as I thought my life couldn't get any crazier/ stressful, I end up in the hospital Saturday evening Sad

I went to the emergency Saturday about 5 pm due to back pain that started that a.m., only to be told that I have to go to Labour & Delivery because I am too far along in my pregnancy. So I go to L &D embarrassed, I tell them of the back pain (and that I am not actually in labour), also some other symptoms like urgency to urinate, thinking I have a bladder/kidney infection. They do a urine test and blood test which all come back normal. They send me home with antibiotics and I am told to take iron supplements because my hemoglobin is down to 93 :S (Should be at 120 or more). Later on in the night I am in so much pain I cannot lie down, sit or anything. I am pacing the floor waiting for my mother to get off work around midnight. She does not know what I should do. Around 2:00am I call my mom and I ask her to bring me to L & D once again. When I get there, the nurse says she cannot do anything for me but to come in anyway. After talking to multiple nurses and the same doctor that sent me home only hours before, they finally decide to keep me over night for observation/ give me some pain killers. Sunday a.m. I head to ultrasound where they end up finding that my right kidney is swelled, and seems I have a blockage. By Tuesday I finally talk to a urologist who tells me he cannot do anything for me while I am still pregnant.

So here I am, in lots of pain with some prescription for T3s, demerol and an antibiotic....at home. I won't see my midwife till next Wednesday and I don't really want to take the pain killers for the sake of my baby. One of the nurses told me they may induce me early if I don't pass the stone but all in all, they havent told me anything...they just sent me home. Has anyone dealt with this.???

AND THEN...my husband comes home at lunch and after I tell him how I am in pain, and how my daughter is being a handful....he asks if he can go away to his camp this weekend with his dad/uncle..... I just looked away and started crying... I dont know what to do anymore... I am stressed and helpless Sad

Joined: 03/15/11
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*** I didn't really say but they think I am kidney stones blocking my ureter and they can't do further tests or operate until baby is born***

kittenchan's picture
Joined: 08/12/07
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Oh goodness, it sounds like things have been very stressful and painful for you! I have not been through what you are experiencing, but I wanted you to know I'm thinking of you! I hope your DH stays HOME and realizes that you need help. I hope you can find some relief soon.

Joined: 01/08/09
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Oh my... you have plenty of reason to be stressed. That would be enough to make anyone stressed without being pregnant on top.

I can't empathize with the toddler not listening & temper tantrums. I've had a very trying day with my 23 month old.

I can also empathize with a DH not really "getting it". My DH is great (most days) but he drives me up the wall sometimes. But I swear if he asked me to go camp at this stage in the game I would "go off". I hope your DH will realize that you need all the help you can get right now.

Hang in there & vent away whenever necessary. I hope you can get some relief from the kidney stone. They are horrible from what I understand... I can't imagine having that on top of being preggo. KUP! :bigarmhug:

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You certainly have a lot of reasons to be stressed right now :openarms: I hope your DH gets a clue and stays home this weekend, I would probably extremly lose my temper in your shoes if he still went. Hope you get some relief from the kidney stone, they are truly horrible. Vent anytime you need to! :openarms:

Joined: 03/16/15
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I can totally imagine the discomfort you are in as I had a kidney infection with this pg back in June and I was really hurting. I'm currently on T3's but I'm only taking them at night so that I can actually get a good nights sleep and that has made a huge difference in how I feel the following day. I also feel horrible having to take something but being up half the night and being stressed and upset from pain is hard on your baby. T3's have been proven to be safe late in pg. Please do not feel guilty to take one, just limit yourself to one at bed so you can at least get some rest and not get more stressed. Sounds like you have a lot on your plate right now! Keep rested and get better soon! Smile

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Joined: 11/16/07
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Yikes! I hope the kidney stone issues don't cause anymore issues with your pregnancy. I can relate to the kids being a handful and a hubby who doesn't get how much he needs to be chipping in!

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Joined: 11/23/06
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I'm so sorry for all this stress! A friend of mine on the November board with me also has 2 kidney stones right now and a UTI. I hope you can get some help and much needed rest as you figure out how to make it through!

And tell your husband to step up and be supportive Wink

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Never had the kidney stones before but it sounds horrible! I hope you are able to get some relief or more answers.

As for the 2.5 year old, it's hard to give advice without knowing the child, but I will say I worked in a 2's room. It's about the right age for it. I usually say "terrible twos" are actually closer to when they turn 3. In our classroom, we usually had kind of a safe spot for them to go when they needed to get it out of their system. Usually our book aread b/c it had a huge reading mat and pillows so if they kicked or threw themselves down, they wouldn't get hurt. As hard as it is, most of the time you have to wait out the tantrum and then try to talk about what caused it since their brain kind of shuts down when they are in the middle of one. Hope that helps a little. 2.5 if just a tough age....especially when there's 15 in one room! LOL. Needless to say I've seen my fair share of tantrums.

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Joined: 08/21/11
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*Big Hug* I am so sorry you're having to go through all of this!!!!

Joined: 03/15/11
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I just want to say Thank you for all your support and kind words ladies! It's nice to hear Smile Although my husband has continued to be no help - he has decided to head out to camp. I have had relief from the pain for a couple days, which is amazing! But after this ordeal, I think I've decided we cannot handle this puppy, so we're going to find a new home for her. I just need strength to get through these next weeks... my DH and I are just two very different people - I want the family life and he doesn't seem to want it as his hunting/camping/fishing is always more important. I am trying not to make any decisions right now as I need any support I can get with the newborn almost here, but its hard.

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