Anyone NOT going to find out the gender until birth?

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Anyone NOT going to find out the gender until birth?

I know I'm going to do it, I'm just a little afraid. I want a girl so bad and I'm afraid I will feel disappointed if I find out it's a boy. I have this intuition that it's a girl and that the two I lost were boys and I was just meant to have a girl, to carry on the family name my mother and grandmother and great-grandmother had. I know I will love my baby no matter what it is, but I hate to be disappointed if the ultrasound shows a boy. I even have a boy's name picked out. But I don't know. So is anyone feeling like this and choosing not to find out til birth? Or choosing to wait for other reasons?

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We are fniding out as it just makes everything easier. Don't really understand waiting just for a surprise as it is still a surprise you just get it earlier. Plus both of my daughters want another girl. I figure if it is a boy it will give them time to get over the dissapointment before baby is born. Also I have enough trouble coming up with one name let alone two lol

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We are not finding out. This one being our first we have no expectations. I think deep down every woman wishes for a girl and man wishes for a boy. I will be excited either way. If we ever have another we may find out earlier but, for this one we would really like to be suprised at delivery.

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Definitely finding out.....I already have 4 boys so if this one is a boy BOTH my DD (7) and I are going to need the rest of this pregnancy to adjust to yet another boy...

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It's my first and I think that's part of why I want to know. I have no previous baby stuff so it will make buying stuff a little easier. I've already window shopped some and they really don't make much gender neutral stuff and what they do make, I'm not crazy about lol. Also for naming reasons, if it's a girl I want to talk to my grandma right away about naming her. Plus baby's dad has two boys and a girl from previous marriage so he's excited to find out if he gets a second girl or not.

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About 75% of me doesn't want to know! I think it would be awesome for them to say "its a ....." when I deliver him/her. DH wants to know sooooo bad. The only reason I would want to know is (if its a girl) to get all her clothes. If its a boy, I have everything I need. I'm torn, but I know I will probably cave in the end!!

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I wasn't going to find out but DH REALLY wanted to so we did. Turns out it was a good idea since we are going to have to buy all new clothes! lol I honestly think it's easier not to find out for your first because you don't already have baby clothes and baby gear that may need to be kept and gone thru OR gotten rid of and replaced with baby stuff for a different gender, kwim?

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You mean in case the ultrasound tech gets the gender wrong? And you have stuff for a girl but a boy comes out instead?

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Not weighing in, but I want to just share something that may help. This is your first baby and you're not sure what to expect, and you want to be prepared. Especially since you have a preference. Obviously, we all just want a healthy baby, but we also have plans and dreams.

I don't know what kind of birth you are planning and I'm not making any assumptions, but I will tell you that when nothing interferes with the physiological process of birth, the first moments after you give birth are overflowing with "happy hormones": endorphins, oxytocin, prolactin... these are hormones that make you feel ecstatic, transcendent and in love.
If you haven't found out what you're having and no one announces the sex of the baby, you will find that about 5-10 minutes after the birth is when you will think about checking! It's a euphoric moment and in that moment if you found out you were holding an orangutan - you'd still be in love with it! Birth was designed that way. (God's design, Nature's design - your choice, either way it's true.)

(I will also say that I attended a birth where the mother did not see her newborn for almost 5 hours after birth b/c of a post-partum complication, she had a history of PPD and she kept refusing to have the baby brought to her. I was getting very nervous about her ability to bond. When we finally arranged for the baby to be brought in, it took less than a second for all those hours to melt away. I watched that post-birth euphoria set in and once I saw that, I knew I could go home. So you can look forward to this scenario even in less than ideal circumstances!)

I am speaking from personal experience as well as from births I've attended. and from hearing/reading birth stories.

I hope it will help with your decision to know that no matter what you do, all odds are in your favor that you will be absolutely euphoric when you first hold your baby in your arms and you will fall completely and totally in love!

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thank you tanis! See I know that I will be euphoric when I hold my baby, whether I knew the sex ahead of time or not. I was thinking of having the sex be a surprise on my second baby when I have one. I do want a natural, unmedicated birth so my hormones flow uninterrupted Smile

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"sweetusagi" wrote:

You mean in case the ultrasound tech gets the gender wrong? And you have stuff for a girl but a boy comes out instead?

Well for me, since I already have a DD, it's very nice to know that we will now be having a son (that STILL feels SO weird for me to say!!) because I can officially get rid of the hot pink pack n play and all the girls clothes and go shopping for boy stuff. I seriously have 3 LARGE plastic containers of girls clothes that I can get rid of now.

But with your first, you don't HAVE that stuff already from a previous pregnancy/child. So buying gender neutral baby gear (which honestly I suggest anyway, whether you find out gender or not) is easy and then you can get enough gender neutral clothes to last the first week or so and then a biiiiig shopping spree for boy or girl clothes after baby is born. See what I mean?

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I've found out with all of mine. I like the idea of waiting, it's so romantic, but it's just not for me. I'm a major planner and I need things prepared and 100% ready.

ITA with Ayelet, when a person waits you're never disappointed. I've heard of women being disappointed after the U/S though. But they always get over it pretty quickly :).

I also agree with getting gender neutral baby gear! Not clothes, just PnP, swing etc. Expensive stuff you don't want to have to buy again. Unless you're 100% sure there's no chance of another baby.

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I don't mind getting gender neutral baby gear, like the expensive stuff. But clothes, I would like to have enough for the first month before the baby is born, so I don't have to feel like I need to take the baby out and go shopping if I don't feel up to it. And I'm just not crazy about gender neutral clothes and they aren't as easy to find in the thrift stores around here.

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I am not keen on gender neutral clothes either, and then people constantly ask you what it is lol
Plus once we find out we always go to Build A Bear and make a bear and all of us put a heart inside it. Then do a birth certificate too. Again makes it easier if we know what sex the baby is. The girls have bears with a hint of pink in them.

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"sweetusagi" wrote:

I don't mind getting gender neutral baby gear, like the expensive stuff.

Even though I knew I was having a boy, I bought all gender neutral gear...stroller, playpen, swing, seat, etc. If this LO is a girl we'll still be good!