Birthday idea - is this ok?

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Birthday idea - is this ok?

DS 5th birthday party is coming up and DH and I have been discussing this new idea we have. DS has a TON of toys and twice a year, I clean out his toy room. He honestly does not need anymore toys and we have really been talking a lot about his future and we setup a savings account for him. We have decided to put a little insert in the invitation we are sending out asking people to donate to his college fund. It will say something like this:

"Please help us prepare for Stephen's future! Instead of buying a toy or clothes for his birthday, please consider donating to his college fund. If you wish to help, you may either give Stephen a check or cash which will be donated in his own special savings account."

Of course every little boy and girl loves toys so we are going to let the grandparents and his 2 aunts buy any toys or clothes they wish. DH has a large family and we have many friends with children so we usually have about 50 guest at our birthday parties so I was thinking all those people could donate. If they are anything like me, I would love to give just money. I honestly hate shopping for little kids birthday parties. Do you think this is a good idea or tacky? Would you word the insert differently?

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I haven't made it in to the bday party circuit yet but 50 guests... holy crap! You must be completely worn out after doing parties that big!

I think $ is a very practical idea especially given how large the party will be. I would change the wording slightly just to make it sound more like the guest's choice instead of your request.

Example: "Please help Stephen build his savings account! Instead of buying a toy or clothes for his birthday, please consider donating to his college fund. If you wish to help, Stephen would love a check or cash so he can put it in his very own, special saving account." Or something along these lines.

I would also make sure Stephen knows that most people will be giving him $ for his special account so he doesn't ask why he didn't get more toys. That could be embarrassing.

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That is exactly what I was looking for. I was trying to find a way to make it say that we are giving you a choice not making it a requirement. I like that, thanks! Smile We've already explained to DS about not having as many toys. My MIL buys enough toys to make it look like all the guest bought a toy and my mom usually buys one big gift so I don't think he will be too disappointed. And yes, I am so exhausted before and after his parties. It was worse when my stepdaughter still had parties because their parties were always 2 weeks apart!

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I agree with Anita's suggestion. I just wanted to add that I totally understand about too many toys! My kids are the only grandkids on both sides so wow! I can't donate things fast enough it seems. I think the college fund $ is a great idea!

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I think Anita's wording is spot on. I know I would love to donate to help out with a college fund than give yet another toy that will be set aside in a short amount of time.